Girl.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grown ass men don’t play video games.

-A Grown Ass Man

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Another Grown Ass Man

I think you mean a grown-ass man, not a grown, ass man

Maybe. I'm a grown, ass-man and never play video games.

For an adult man? How about, none? Unless he's playing with his kids, real men don't play video games for hours a a day.

Like others have said, this is not a healthy level for ANY hobby as an adult with said responsibilities. It is certainly a mental health issue. Please do everything in your power to find him professional help. He may even be self-sabotaging his career at this point. Do something before your household income and family’s livelihood is in jeopardy. Does he have close male friends? Because if I heard any of my friends were pulling this crap I would have no problem telling them they need to get their shit together.

0 hours. Yes 0. Grow up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a really good podcast called the Huberman Lab. He did an episode on depression your H may find enlightening. He specifically talked about how when we engage with something high-reward (video games are the example he used), we become depressed because our mind is seeking at same dopamine high but can’t get it. He talks about a specific patient who was a male addicted to video games. It may be a way to T least get him thinking about how he is addicted and how it’s contributing to his depression.

Do you happen to know which episode this is? I took a look and there are several that sound like it could be the one you're talking about

I believe it’s “understanding and conquering depression”. But he refers to other episodes too, so I’d also check out any that sound applicable. It’s a really good podcast.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grown ass men don’t play video games.

-A Grown Ass Man

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Another Grown Ass Man

I think you mean a grown-ass man, not a grown, ass man

Anonymous wrote:There’s a really good podcast called the Huberman Lab. He did an episode on depression your H may find enlightening. He specifically talked about how when we engage with something high-reward (video games are the example he used), we become depressed because our mind is seeking at same dopamine high but can’t get it. He talks about a specific patient who was a male addicted to video games. It may be a way to T least get him thinking about how he is addicted and how it’s contributing to his depression.

Do you happen to know which episode this is? I took a look and there are several that sound like it could be the one you're talking about

How is that even possible? Is it his job?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grown ass men don’t play video games.

-A Grown Ass Man

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Another Grown Ass Man

That hasn’t been true since I was a kid. Most video gamers are in the 30 to 45 year old range. They have the most income to spend and drive the market. Many of them just game variously through their kids by buying them the games and hardware.

I am a 39 yo man. And I don’t play video games.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grown ass men don’t play video games.

-A Grown Ass Man

+1
Another Grown Ass Man

That hasn’t been true since I was a kid. Most video gamers are in the 30 to 45 year old range. They have the most income to spend and drive the market. Many of them just game variously through their kids by buying them the games and hardware.

This is way too much. Even for a good/reasonable hobby, if you have 3 kids this is way too extreme.

My DH plays golf and is gone 4-5 hours once a weekend. That's a good, outdoor, social activity and that is a lot of personal time each weekend. 14+ hours each day is awful.

Plus video games is not as good as golf or other hobbies, sorry, it's just not.

It's fine a couple of hours as a break, not more, IMO.

Anonymous wrote:This is nuts. Honestly, I would likely ultimately divorce over this. He isn’t going to stay employed so I would get out while I didn’t owe him child support.

To be clear, I wouldn’t divorce immediately over this. But after multiple discussions and this person likely refusing to seek help for their mental health issues, I would be fine.

My husband spends too much time on his phone — as do I. But it isn’t interfering with our work or home life.

Done — not fine

This is nuts. Honestly, I would likely ultimately divorce over this. He isn’t going to stay employed so I would get out while I didn’t owe him child support.

To be clear, I wouldn’t divorce immediately over this. But after multiple discussions and this person likely refusing to seek help for their mental health issues, I would be fine.

My husband spends too much time on his phone — as do I. But it isn’t interfering with our work or home life.

There’s a really good podcast called the Huberman Lab. He did an episode on depression your H may find enlightening. He specifically talked about how when we engage with something high-reward (video games are the example he used), we become depressed because our mind is seeking at same dopamine high but can’t get it. He talks about a specific patient who was a male addicted to video games. It may be a way to T least get him thinking about how he is addicted and how it’s contributing to his depression.