You need to figure out what works for you, and what you are comfortable with. You're going to have these types of pressures throughout your kid's life, unfortunately. I think a lot of times these "rules" are promulgated by people without kids who have no idea what it's really like. We had one pediatrician who told me we should take my daughter's pacifier away at 3 months, while another doc who had 3 kids was like "you do what you need to do to get rest. Get rid of it by 3 years old if you can".

It’s extreme. It’s a little grim but if you look at the frequency of sids, it is very rare and usually linked with unsupervised situations. It is very tragic but I don’t personally think it is reasonable to alter your entire life to avoid such a small risk. Practice back to sleep when baby is not closely supervised and learn the correct way to position in car seats and carriers.

It can be very distorting when you join a Facebook group and get blasted with something like this. I’ve experienced it with other things and had to unsubscribe for my sanity.

No, that sounds completely insane and just not workable.

We had him sleeping in the Snoo for nights and naps until he was 4 months old and we transitioned him to the crib. He sleeps in the crib for night sleep and naps but we did CIO and do not want to get him used to be held.

With that being said, I have never heard of a baby sleeping in your arms or a carrier to be unsafe. I have heard of them sleeping in a carseat or on you if you’re sleep deprived, but not if you’re awake. We held our son for some sleep and he slept plenty in the carrier or in the stroller on walks. No one ever told me it was wrong or unsafe.

DD not DF

So our DF was adopted and a bio sibling died of SIDS so we were super paranoid. Nothing in crib, fan on, back to sleep etc… and we still let her sleep in a carseat or stroller sometimes. My goal was overnight and one nap a day in crib. Other sleeps could be wherever.

Crazy group. You are doing great.

Stay the hell away from those groups. Totally extreme and unrealistic. They are working thru trauma in a way likely to cause PPA in other moms. So sad.

That is so crazy. Leave that group, OP! I could never get my babies to nap in a crib/bassinet. Plus, if you never let your baby sleep on you, you are seriously missing out. That’s one of the best parts of having a baby.