Why all the misandry and anti-white statements? White men don't care what you watch on TV. Don't blame race for your own disappointment. It's ridiculous.

I don’t know about this show specifically, but I’ve seen lots of storylines that remind me of afterschool specials. Whether you agree with the message or not, being hit over the head with it like a hammer gets old pretty quickly. If you plan on watching a mystery (or other genre) and end up getting lectured, it’s pretty discouraging.

Anonymous wrote:My spouse gets along great with women, gay people, people of color, etc. in real life, but there tends to be some eye rolling when the show seems to be adding them just for the sake of adding them. I haven't seen "only murders in the building," so no idea whether the lesbian relationship is important to the plot.

I don’t understand. If the neighbor is black or gay, but the plot isn’t about race or sexual orientation, is that adding them just for the sake of adding them? It couldn’t be to reflect the diversity of the world around us, or to represent a variety of viewers rather than just white men?

"It's so hurtful"?

You live a charmed life, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of couple like different tv shows; there’s nothing wrong with that and it shouldn’t be hurtful. Your problem with him seem to be more about values generally, and that is a much bigger issue.

Why? Are couples not allowed to have different values? My DW and I watch completely different TV shows. Sometimes I watch what she does, but rarely does she ever watch what I like, which is fine by me. On the spectrum of social values, she's far more lefty than I am in. Both of us acknowledge our values and leave it at that. Don't need a kumbaya session every day, do we?

PP, you sound like a jerk. If your wife hasn’t considered divorce already, I am sure she eventually will because you’re just going to get more annoying with age.

Yes, how dare he not be ultra-far-left! And how dare he be tolerant of opinions that differ from his own. What a jerk!

I love series like NCIS, CSI, the Chicago shows and series like that. My husband likes documentaries about any war plus sports and other who knows what. We will watch the news together and some nights we might watch the opening of Colbert but that’s about it. Somehow we have a wonderful marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of couple like different tv shows; there’s nothing wrong with that and it shouldn’t be hurtful. Your problem with him seem to be more about values generally, and that is a much bigger issue.

Why? Are couples not allowed to have different values? My DW and I watch completely different TV shows. Sometimes I watch what she does, but rarely does she ever watch what I like, which is fine by me. On the spectrum of social values, she's far more lefty than I am in. Both of us acknowledge our values and leave it at that. Don't need a kumbaya session every day, do we?

PP, you sound like a jerk. If your wife hasn’t considered divorce already, I am sure she eventually will because you’re just going to get more annoying with age.

I don't know if this is OP's dynamic, but it is frustrating when one spouse is willing to invest in things the other likes, but it doesn't go both ways.

I kind of feel like this with my husband. I am happy to watch things he is into even if it's not something I would have chosen on my own. He mostly refuses to do the same. Sometimes he will come around later, but it's usually because someone else recommended the show to him. This applies to some extent to socializing (I am happy to go to events with people who are primarily his friends, he usually begs off when it's my friends) and other interests (I learned to play golf so we could golf together, he isn't interested in running/biking with me).

Ever since she said she hated the old show The three Stooges I knew we weren’t going to watch TV together. My dad said my mom hated it too but they have been happily married for 43 years so we can deal with it.

Anonymous wrote:Lots of couple like different tv shows; there’s nothing wrong with that and it shouldn’t be hurtful. Your problem with him seem to be more about values generally, and that is a much bigger issue.

Why? Are couples not allowed to have different values? My DW and I watch completely different TV shows. Sometimes I watch what she does, but rarely does she ever watch what I like, which is fine by me. On the spectrum of social values, she's far more lefty than I am in. Both of us acknowledge our values and leave it at that. Don't need a kumbaya session every day, do we?

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Anonymous wrote:Was watching only murders in the building with him. By episode 5 he is bored and says he doesn’t care about the lesbian cops or Selena Gomez’s love interest.

Ugh it’s so hurtful that I can’t watch anything with him that he seems is too woke or modern with people other than white or men.

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Classic DCUM, PP: Ignore the real issue the OP is bringing up and just mock the OP. So mature and thoughtful.

The OP's husband apparently has issues with anything that's about people who are unlike him. Betting that's not just about TV shows. But you just want to mock OP because either your reading comprehension is abysmal or you are simply mean. Or both.

OP, is TV the only example of his problem with things not being all about white males?

The OP gave a pretty bad examples in a very limited scope of her unwoke, hurtful husband. I mostly like the show but don't care about the lesbian cop's love life, and Selena Gomez is my least favorite actor on the show.

Anonymous wrote:The only show we watch together is the PBS Newshour. After that we are on our own. In the evening I’m in my studio working and watching my shows and he’s in his office watching well tonight it’s the Yankee game. We have a great relationship but we like our own shows and we have more than one TV so why not use them?

Same.

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Anonymous wrote:Was watching only murders in the building with him. By episode 5 he is bored and says he doesn’t care about the lesbian cops or Selena Gomez’s love interest.

Ugh it’s so hurtful that I can’t watch anything with him that he seems is too woke or modern with people other than white or men.

Yes, so hurtful. Let’s get you a wambulance.

Classic DCUM, PP: Ignore the real issue the OP is bringing up and just mock the OP. So mature and thoughtful.

The OP's husband apparently has issues with anything that's about people who are unlike him. Betting that's not just about TV shows. But you just want to mock OP because either your reading comprehension is abysmal or you are simply mean. Or both.

OP, is TV the only example of his problem with things not being all about white males?

If that's the problem, then OP buried the lede. You start with "my husband is a homophobic racist." This is a pretty significant charge, so when you provide examples, "bored by lesbian cops on TV" is somewhere pretty far down on the list.

Anonymous wrote:I can’t watch football with DH, OP. Should I sob as well?

Do you say I can’t watch black peoples?

I tend to get impatient when shows throw in a love interest side-plot (gay, hetero, or otherwise) that slows down the main plot. Foundation was the latest example.