Whenever I do, I think: I would love to be that skinny so I could eat whatever I wanted until I got to my normal weight again. My husband is always amused by this.

I am fit/thin/athletic with a slow metabolism so I assume they have a fast metabolism. That's my envy---to be able to work out less and eat more! I work my butt off 6 days per week and healthy diet to maintain.

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever I see someone very thin, I think "eating disorder".

Whenever I see someone fat with jiggly arms I think "lacks self control" or "depressed and needs food to cope".

someone is triggered

NP.

No - we are not triggered. We just see things the way they very likely are.

Do you believe a person with “fat, jiggly arms,” is perfectly fit, healthy, and athletic?

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever I see someone very thin, I think "eating disorder".

Whenever I see someone fat with jiggly arms I think "lacks self control" or "depressed and needs food to cope".

someone is triggered

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t be jealous of me. I am skinny because of stress. I’d trade a simpler life for a few pounds.

+1, but swap stress for anxiety.

+2. I have a lot of friends who are the Botox, fillers, etc. types, and I don't go down that route but I'm dealing with a tremendous amount of stress right now and the weight is just dropping off me. It's nothing to be envied, but guaranteed next time I see them it will be "wow, you look great." No, I don't. I don't feel great, and I would trade this lack of stress and anxiety for my weight back in a heartbeat.

Are fit, OP? Be honest.

Sedentary lifestyles are the new smoking.

I know how you feel OP. As someone who has always struggled with my weight and has to work very hard to lose and not gain weight I have always been envious of the women who are small and look cute pregnant or the moms holding infants while still looking like a 20 yr old in their bikini.

Because all things being equal, looks, age, education, whatever if you’re thin you “win” in our society. You will be chosen first. It’s how the system is structured and we all know it! Of course you’re jealous. That’s life though so get over it and get on living your best self!

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t like thin/skinny. Fit/healthy is much preferred IMHO.

True. I envy people with a little fat in all the right places. Slim but curvy is my ideal

You mean like the slim thick body type?

No such body type unless its in African women. The Kardashians have all modified their bodies to be thin and curvy

I’m married to one - athletic, small waist, flat stomach, big booty, muscular legs, etc. She has had a boob job but the rest was all natural. Her mom had the exact same body type.

OP, how much do you weigh and how tall are you?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t like thin/skinny. Fit/healthy is much preferred IMHO.

True. I envy people with a little fat in all the right places. Slim but curvy is my ideal

You mean like the slim thick body type?

No such body type unless its in African women. The Kardashians have all modified their bodies to be thin and curvy

Simply not true. Some white women have similar proportions to black women.

It's all about the waist to hip ratio. The smaller the waist, the curvier your appearance. I am size 6. My waist is 12 inches smaller than my hips, butt and shoulders. People comment on how thin I am. I'm not a stick figure, I am curvy.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t like thin/skinny. Fit/healthy is much preferred IMHO.

True. I envy people with a little fat in all the right places. Slim but curvy is my ideal

You mean like the slim thick body type?

No such body type unless its in African women. The Kardashians have all modified their bodies to be thin and curvy

Simply not true. Some white women have similar proportions to black women.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t like thin/skinny. Fit/healthy is much preferred IMHO.

True. I envy people with a little fat in all the right places. Slim but curvy is my ideal

You mean like the slim thick body type?

No such body type unless its in African women. The Kardashians have all modified their bodies to be thin and curvy

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I see a very thin mom, I am green with envy. Does this mean, I need to lose weight? I’m not that heavy myself but I’m still jealous for some reason. Does anyone know the healthy response?

I think the healthy response is that health, not weight, should be our goal. As we age our bodies will deteriorate to a degree and being healthy has an impact on that. It's a common assumption that heavy people are unhealthy but being too thin can also be unhealthy.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t be jealous of me. I am skinny because of stress. I’d trade a simpler life for a few pounds.

+1, but swap stress for anxiety.

Don’t be jealous of me. I am skinny because of stress. I’d trade a simpler life for a few pounds.