Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of the 30 Rock episode where Liz Lemon goes to her HS reunion.

She's worried about the popular girls, but turns out, her 'weirdness' and 'social awkwardness' actually made her the mean girl

That’s…not what happened.

I’m going to leave this here:

Anonymous wrote:My quirky child is 16, with ADHD, borderline but not quite HFA, and spatial awareness issues which make him look awkward sometimes.

Get your child evaluated, OP.

+1

Kids change. Get a fresh look eval. CAAT might be one.
While we did not use them , it took us 3 eval tries over the years to get it right. (yes, it was ASD, took a while to totally present, then called aspergers, in grade 1)

Anonymous wrote:This reminds me of the 30 Rock episode where Liz Lemon goes to her HS reunion.

She's worried about the popular girls, but turns out, her 'weirdness' and 'social awkwardness' actually made her the mean girl

Ok, mean girl.

This reminds me of the 30 Rock episode where Liz Lemon goes to her HS reunion.

She's worried about the popular girls, but turns out, her 'weirdness' and 'social awkwardness' actually made her the mean girl

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Anonymous wrote:Op here - to pp re: hygiene. It’s at the point of physical restraint to brush teeth. It’s beyond giving a choice.

It sounds like your DC has sensory processing disorder.

+1 If that wasn't covered in previous evaluations, I'd have a more comprehensive eval done

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Anonymous wrote:My quirky child is 16, with ADHD, borderline but not quite HFA, and spatial awareness issues which make him look awkward sometimes.

Get your child evaluated, OP.

It’s not always adhd, though because I’ve had adhd my whole life and was very popular in school, and have always had a high Eq

LOL. A person with a high EQ would never write that.

Anonymous wrote:My quirky child is 16, with ADHD, borderline but not quite HFA, and spatial awareness issues which make him look awkward sometimes.

Get your child evaluated, OP.

It’s not always adhd, though because I’ve had adhd my whole life and was very popular in school, and have always had a high Eq

OP, thank you for posting this! My DD is like this as well. Off-beat, sometimes charming, sometimes annoying to other kids. Very much lives in her own world and does her own thing and does not fall in with what the other kids are doing. I don't think she's unpopular -- she always seems to have friends. But I see how some kids take her in at times, like "whoa, what is the DEAL with this kid?" and know that she is not everyone's cup of tea.

We are totally okay with this. We don't want her to be ostracized or lonely (though we are fine with her being alone, which she often chooses to be -- nothing wrong with enjoying your own company). But I don't need her to be the most popular kid in class or some kind of perfect child, adored by peers and adults alike.

I've been on this planet long enough to know that a lot of people have terrible taste and like people for all the wrong reasons. A lot of people just "like" the most attractive and richest people in their orbit with little thought given to whether these are interesting people. How dull! Some people are swayed by the way someone dresses or persuaded by someone's bragging to admire them (look how many people "like" Donald Trump just because he told them he was the best!). Being popular is not the same as being worthwhile. My DD is worthwhile. If you get to know her, you will be rewarded with a loyal, interesting, creative, original friend. If you don't, it is truly your loss. Neither she nor I are going to sweat it.

Go to a new child psychiatrist or consider a parenting class. This is extreme and you shouldn’t have to live with daily fights over bathing.

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Anonymous wrote:The Queen Bees will not torture your daughter, because she won’t give a sh!t. She will be fine.

This. I was that girl. The queen bees tried to go after me but after I did not give them the reaction they wanted, they left me alone and never bothered again. I didn't GAF to such extent that I did not even realize they were trying to bully me. I am in my late 40s and I still don't.

It’s the girls that desperately want in but don’t have “it” that are picked on.

Anonymous wrote:The Queen Bees will not torture your daughter, because she won’t give a sh!t. She will be fine.

This. I was that girl. The queen bees tried to go after me but after I did not give them the reaction they wanted, they left me alone and never bothered again. I didn't GAF to such extent that I did not even realize they were trying to bully me. I am in my late 40s and I still don't.

Anonymous wrote:Op here - to pp re: hygiene. It’s at the point of physical restraint to brush teeth. It’s beyond giving a choice.

Then it’s time for a parenting class.

I say this kindly but if you’re at the point where you can’t get your kid to do basic hygiene you need help.

This sounds like pretty classic adhd - don’t get fooled by the name - as Russell Barkley says - it’s a disorder of self regulation. Meds may help drastically with a lot of the issues. Adhd kids end up ODD all the time.
I have one very popular girl and one quirkier with social challenges - I’m pretty focused on kindness with both - and also helping each carve out the life path that makes the most sense for them. Parenting is no joke

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Anonymous wrote:I do everything for my 5 year old including bathing, brushing teeth and hair, and dressing him. He's not mature enough to do these things on his own.

Have you tried? My 2 year old can wash herself and dress herself. The 5 year old can pretty much everything as long ad she can reach things. I just remind and supervise. Maybe give him some control over his routines?

You are dressing a 5 year old? It’s you not him.

Anonymous wrote:I do everything for my 5 year old including bathing, brushing teeth and hair, and dressing him. He's not mature enough to do these things on his own.

Have you tried? My 2 year old can wash herself and dress herself. The 5 year old can pretty much everything as long ad she can reach things. I just remind and supervise. Maybe give him some control over his routines?