I have a son who is gay who is afraid to tell his teammates and it has been hurting me.

Why does he even want to tell his teammates? They don't want to know about it. Sounds like this is really all about him and his urge to say "look at me I'm special, don't you think I'm great?"

I don't think its a gay or straight thing that US lacrosse has to address but more the whole boys identifying as girls and vice versa.

Yeah I gotta say that your post looked fine to me. Interested to hear some of the “many things” wrong with it.

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Anonymous wrote:I coach girls U9 soccer and last year we played against a team that had a boy, it was very clear he was a he. They were in 2nd last year, 3rd now.

We played against the team he was on last week, girls are obviously older, with a bigger field and he was on this team again. Getting a lot of noticeably encouraging cheers, Went by the same name as a popular flower with a lot of L's in it.

I'm not there yet on my understanding of parents that segregate a child that early to be honest. But it's not up to me, nor do they need to provide me an explanation. I just haven't seen 7/8 year old boys mistreat a kid because he believes he is a girl trapped in a boy's body.

There are so many things wrong with your post and sadly I think you were trying to be nice.

Please educate me.

I feel like on my sons team that it perhaps wouldn't be accepted which makes me sad but its just the vibe I get. Anyone else?

No. I feel like no one would care if the kid was a good player. And if he wasn't a good player, they would not like him even if he were straight.

Anonymous wrote:I coach girls U9 soccer and last year we played against a team that had a boy, it was very clear he was a he. They were in 2nd last year, 3rd now.

We played against the team he was on last week, girls are obviously older, with a bigger field and he was on this team again. Getting a lot of noticeably encouraging cheers, Went by the same name as a popular flower with a lot of L's in it.

I'm not there yet on my understanding of parents that segregate a child that early to be honest. But it's not up to me, nor do they need to provide me an explanation. I just haven't seen 7/8 year old boys mistreat a kid because he believes he is a girl trapped in a boy's body.

There are so many things wrong with your post and sadly I think you were trying to be nice.

I coach girls U9 soccer and last year we played against a team that had a boy, it was very clear he was a he. They were in 2nd last year, 3rd now.

We played against the team he was on last week, girls are obviously older, with a bigger field and he was on this team again. Getting a lot of noticeably encouraging cheers, Went by the same name as a popular flower with a lot of L's in it.

I'm not there yet on my understanding of parents that segregate a child that early to be honest. But it's not up to me, nor do they need to provide me an explanation. I just haven't seen 7/8 year old boys mistreat a kid because he believes he is a girl trapped in a boy's body.

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Anonymous wrote:All good thoughts, but you are assuming a level of sincerity from the OP that is not there. This was a troll post. Don't waste your time.

By the way I am the OP and I am sorry if it looked like a troll post. I was writing fast and didn't realize it came across poorly. I have a son who is gay who is afraid to tell his teammates and it has been hurting me. Apologies for starting something bad when I was just worrying out loud.

I kind of thought this was the case. There is a bunch of missing context here- Players age? Rec vs HS vs Club?
First, I would say this in order to deal with your feelings you need to properly name them. I suggest sitting down and thinking about what you (and your sons) emotions are that are leading to these feelings. Without going too deep, I would suggest that both you and your sons emotion is fear. That fear is leading to the secondary emotion or feeling of sadness (and worry). What are you fearful of? (I suspect I know, but that is for you to find) Hint: acceptance?

Now, what is the motivation for telling his teammates he is gay? Does he want to tell them? Do you want him to tell them? What are you looking for in revealing this to the team?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All good thoughts, but you are assuming a level of sincerity from the OP that is not there. This was a troll post. Don't waste your time.

By the way I am the OP and I am sorry if it looked like a troll post. I was writing fast and didn't realize it came across poorly. I have a son who is gay who is afraid to tell his teammates and it has been hurting me. Apologies for starting something bad when I was just worrying out loud.

I'm sorry if that is the case. It's really hard to go through life hiding something. I hope he finds acceptance amongst his friends.

I can't really imagine everybody would not accept him, but I can see where a few wouldn't and that has to be really hard.

I read here a while back that Dulles South incident about a coach complaining about a transgender girl playing in an NVYLL game. I wondered what happened from that.

Anonymous wrote:All good thoughts, but you are assuming a level of sincerity from the OP that is not there. This was a troll post. Don't waste your time.

By the way I am the OP and I am sorry if it looked like a troll post. I was writing fast and didn't realize it came across poorly. I have a son who is gay who is afraid to tell his teammates and it has been hurting me. Apologies for starting something bad when I was just worrying out loud.

Lacrosse won't be a truly welcoming, inclusive sport until every player is a gay black transsexual.

All good thoughts, but you are assuming a level of sincerity from the OP that is not there. This was a troll post. Don't waste your time.

OP did ask a couple of questions that are fairly clear and then made a couple of assumptions.
I am sure somewhere there are openly gay players in either boys or girls lacrosse. Do I know for a fact? No, nor do I care. If they can play, I don't care about their skin color, sexual orientation or if they like to eat vegetarian.
Stories like Carl Nassib will fail to be headlines when the clicks that the story generates no longer bring in enough money for the media to allocate space to such an article.
OP does need to understand the difference between a feeling and thought- "I feel like on my sons team that it perhaps wouldn't be accepted which makes me sad but its just the vibe I get."
You need to replace that word feel with "think" - You think they would not accept and THAT makes you sad. In other words the feeling you had is sad and that is because of your thought. Taking that further- Have you ever had a wrong thought? A wrong vibe? We all have. You are getting sad over a thought that you cannot confirm. You say that you are the parent of 1 player, are you a coach? are you on the team? Do you spend hours with the team? Do you know them inside and out? Or, are you a parent that is sitting on the other sideline during games, picking up a kid from practice? In other words, are you sitting in the cheap seats making a judgement of players and coaches based on a vibe you get from very little interaction with the individual players and team as a whole?
You then seem to extrapolate your kids team of 20+ into the 1000's of kids who play lacrosse.

OP just trying to stir the pot, has done so multiple times on different subjects not related to lacrosse. Don't bite. Players are players, if they do their job on the field, no one cares what they do in their personal life. Their personal lives do not need to be a discussion on an anonymous lacrosse board.