Anonymous
12/16/2025 10:50
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.
So special treatment is asking to play with kids in your grade?
You are insane.
No serious coach or club will entertain a request for a player to play up if that player doesn't have the quality to do so.
None
Every club will let a player play with kids their grade if they're an August birthday and a grade older.
No club is going to force a player to participate in a way that is against what they want to do.
Again, nice try though.
This is where rubber meets road. Kids will just quit if you force them into a situation they don't want. It's not worth the time OR money, especially if it means joining a new team after playing with the same people for years.
What is unfortunate is this transition is going to put people into situations that won't give them good choices. Older players who want to play up to stay on grade may have to see less playing time or drop to a lower team VS. joining a team with a bunch of people they really don't know/perhaps less experienced/skilled who might resent the playing time THEY take as a stronger player. I mean, maybe some good life lessons here BUT this is why, IMO, they should have phased in the switch with younger teams first and left the HS ages alone.
The issue is leagues have left clubs to decide what to do with young Aug/Sept players.
To address leagues should add a rule or provide a recommendation that Aug/Sept players should play on a team thats their grade in school.
Ambiguity causes drama and distracts from why SY is being implemented.
I agree with this. I thought the whole point of this change is to fix the trapped player situation. All they've done is create a new "trapped" player situation where August/September players are playing with the grade below. Which isn't any better than the current trapped player situation. So they are breaking up teams and causing chaos for what? The situation is still a mess.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 10:49
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.
So special treatment is asking to play with kids in your grade?
You are insane.
No serious coach or club will entertain a request for a player to play up if that player doesn't have the quality to do so.
None
Every club will let a player play with kids their grade if they're an August birthday and a grade older.
No club is going to force a player to participate in a way that is against what they want to do.
Again, nice try though.
We are in and have been in BY with a Jan 1st cutoff for years
Tell us which clubs have been moving August born kids to play up a year?
Tell us which clubs have moved players up from U15 to U16 and U16 to U17 to play up a year just because they were asked and not because the kid was exceptional
Anonymous
12/16/2025 10:48
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By and large, a kid with an August birthday in a Sept or later K start date should attempt to stay up and play with grade if possible. For recruiting, for social, etc. But there are exceptions.
Very weak older team and very strong younger team. Where do you get the best development opportunities.
Very late maturing kid who would get more "fair" play playing with the younger team
Extremely good Older team where they would not actually play much and a weaker younger team where they could get on the ball significantly more.
What people seem to forget is that recruiting is not only random scout at random showcase.
I cant emphasize enough that ID camps are one of the critical ways for kids to get seen by college of their choice. That is where coaches get to see them in a controlled environment, with coach dictated positions and match ups. And ID camps are by graduation year.
It is NOT cheating or skirting the system to play on a team that corresponds to your birthdate. It may be sub optimal for recruiting or social aspects but it is unequivocally not cheating.
The part that you're missing is there's always the option of playing on the correct grade B team. If an Aug birthday isn't good enough for the A team thats their grade it shouldn't be assumed that they're good enough for the grade down A team. This is what many people here seem to be assuming on this thread. Maybe you play down and only make the B team. What do you do then?
The poster isn't missing anything. It all depends on the kid and the club and what makes the most sense. There could be no spots on that grade-level B team, especially at older ages when you have maybe 1 or 2 teams. In that case, maybe the BEST option for said kid is the B team on age.
I'd love to be a fly on the wall for discussion. The parent thinks they have the ultimate shortcut with an Aug birthday kid. But the club surpirses them with the grade down B team. Its like getting double screwed. Might as well just play rec.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 10:45
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.
So special treatment is asking to play with kids in your grade?
You are insane.
No serious coach or club will entertain a request for a player to play up if that player doesn't have the quality to do so.
None
Every club will let a player play with kids their grade if they're an August birthday and a grade older.
No club is going to force a player to participate in a way that is against what they want to do.
Again, nice try though.
This is where rubber meets road. Kids will just quit if you force them into a situation they don't want. It's not worth the time OR money, especially if it means joining a new team after playing with the same people for years.
What is unfortunate is this transition is going to put people into situations that won't give them good choices. Older players who want to play up to stay on grade may have to see less playing time or drop to a lower team VS. joining a team with a bunch of people they really don't know/perhaps less experienced/skilled who might resent the playing time THEY take as a stronger player. I mean, maybe some good life lessons here BUT this is why, IMO, they should have phased in the switch with younger teams first and left the HS ages alone.
The issue is leagues have left clubs to decide what to do with young Aug/Sept players.
To address leagues should add a rule or provide a recommendation that Aug/Sept players should play on a team thats their grade in school.
Ambiguity causes drama and distracts from why SY is being implemented.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 10:44
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By and large, a kid with an August birthday in a Sept or later K start date should attempt to stay up and play with grade if possible. For recruiting, for social, etc. But there are exceptions.
Very weak older team and very strong younger team. Where do you get the best development opportunities.
Very late maturing kid who would get more "fair" play playing with the younger team
Extremely good Older team where they would not actually play much and a weaker younger team where they could get on the ball significantly more.
What people seem to forget is that recruiting is not only random scout at random showcase.
I cant emphasize enough that ID camps are one of the critical ways for kids to get seen by college of their choice. That is where coaches get to see them in a controlled environment, with coach dictated positions and match ups. And ID camps are by graduation year.
It is NOT cheating or skirting the system to play on a team that corresponds to your birthdate. It may be sub optimal for recruiting or social aspects but it is unequivocally not cheating.
The part that you're missing is there's always the option of playing on the correct grade B team. If an Aug birthday isn't good enough for the A team thats their grade it shouldn't be assumed that they're good enough for the grade down A team. This is what many people here seem to be assuming on this thread. Maybe you play down and only make the B team. What do you do then?
The poster isn't missing anything. It all depends on the kid and the club and what makes the most sense. There could be no spots on that grade-level B team, especially at older ages when you have maybe 1 or 2 teams. In that case, maybe the BEST option for said kid is the B team on age.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 10:37
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.
So special treatment is asking to play with kids in your grade?
You are insane.
No serious coach or club will entertain a request for a player to play up if that player doesn't have the quality to do so.
None
Every club will let a player play with kids their grade if they're an August birthday and a grade older.
No club is going to force a player to participate in a way that is against what they want to do.
Again, nice try though.
This is where rubber meets road. Kids will just quit if you force them into a situation they don't want. It's not worth the time OR money, especially if it means joining a new team after playing with the same people for years.
What is unfortunate is this transition is going to put people into situations that won't give them good choices. Older players who want to play up to stay on grade may have to see less playing time or drop to a lower team VS. joining a team with a bunch of people they really don't know/perhaps less experienced/skilled who might resent the playing time THEY take as a stronger player. I mean, maybe some good life lessons here BUT this is why, IMO, they should have phased in the switch with younger teams first and left the HS ages alone.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 10:33
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:By and large, a kid with an August birthday in a Sept or later K start date should attempt to stay up and play with grade if possible. For recruiting, for social, etc. But there are exceptions.
Very weak older team and very strong younger team. Where do you get the best development opportunities.
Very late maturing kid who would get more "fair" play playing with the younger team
Extremely good Older team where they would not actually play much and a weaker younger team where they could get on the ball significantly more.
What people seem to forget is that recruiting is not only random scout at random showcase.
I cant emphasize enough that ID camps are one of the critical ways for kids to get seen by college of their choice. That is where coaches get to see them in a controlled environment, with coach dictated positions and match ups. And ID camps are by graduation year.
It is NOT cheating or skirting the system to play on a team that corresponds to your birthdate. It may be sub optimal for recruiting or social aspects but it is unequivocally not cheating.
The part that you're missing is there's always the option of playing on the correct grade B team. If an Aug birthday isn't good enough for the A team thats their grade it shouldn't be assumed that they're good enough for the grade down A team. This is what many people here seem to be assuming on this thread. Maybe you play down and only make the B team. What do you do then?
Anonymous
12/16/2025 10:25
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.
So special treatment is asking to play with kids in your grade?
You are insane.
No serious coach or club will entertain a request for a player to play up if that player doesn't have the quality to do so.
None
Every club will let a player play with kids their grade if they're an August birthday and a grade older.
No club is going to force a player to participate in a way that is against what they want to do.
Again, nice try though.
Anonymous
12/16/2025 10:11
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
So if older team is weaker but you are starting and playing a ton or move to younger team (with same grad year as you) that is stronger but might not be starting or getting tons of playing time?
Or is it implied that older kid would be getting starting spot and playing a ton on younger once move?
Or is it implied that older kid would be getting starting spot and playing a ton on younger once move?
Anonymous
12/16/2025 09:20
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.
So special treatment is asking to play with kids in your grade?
You are insane.
No serious coach or club will entertain a request for a player to play up if that player doesn't have the quality to do so.
None
Anonymous
12/16/2025 08:20
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
By and large, a kid with an August birthday in a Sept or later K start date should attempt to stay up and play with grade if possible. For recruiting, for social, etc. But there are exceptions.
Very weak older team and very strong younger team. Where do you get the best development opportunities.
Very late maturing kid who would get more "fair" play playing with the younger team
Extremely good Older team where they would not actually play much and a weaker younger team where they could get on the ball significantly more.
What people seem to forget is that recruiting is not only random scout at random showcase.
I cant emphasize enough that ID camps are one of the critical ways for kids to get seen by college of their choice. That is where coaches get to see them in a controlled environment, with coach dictated positions and match ups. And ID camps are by graduation year.
It is NOT cheating or skirting the system to play on a team that corresponds to your birthdate. It may be sub optimal for recruiting or social aspects but it is unequivocally not cheating.
Very weak older team and very strong younger team. Where do you get the best development opportunities.
Very late maturing kid who would get more "fair" play playing with the younger team
Extremely good Older team where they would not actually play much and a weaker younger team where they could get on the ball significantly more.
What people seem to forget is that recruiting is not only random scout at random showcase.
I cant emphasize enough that ID camps are one of the critical ways for kids to get seen by college of their choice. That is where coaches get to see them in a controlled environment, with coach dictated positions and match ups. And ID camps are by graduation year.
It is NOT cheating or skirting the system to play on a team that corresponds to your birthdate. It may be sub optimal for recruiting or social aspects but it is unequivocally not cheating.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 23:11
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, trying to manipulate the club to get your kid on a desired team is a punishable offense in 2025. No question. And clubs don't care about grades so they aren't sympathetic to the grade excuse as shown by them collectively saying play on age but the top performers might be able to play up an age group.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.
So special treatment is asking to play with kids in your grade?
You are insane.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 21:53
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Yes, trying to manipulate the club to get your kid on a desired team is a punishable offense in 2025. No question. And clubs don't care about grades so they aren't sympathetic to the grade excuse as shown by them collectively saying play on age but the top performers might be able to play up an age group.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.
So special treatment is asking to play with kids in your grade?
You are insane.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 21:16
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Anonymous wrote:Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.
So special treatment is asking to play with kids in your grade?
You are insane.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 21:11
Subject: Trapped/Re-aging Families, How are you having the conversation?
Coaches and teams absolutely hold it against kids when parents ask for special treatment.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, some parents may get their moronic request to play up. Then the coach doesn't play the kid so the kid quits.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not believable. They didn't have a problem with their daughter playing on age, just thought it was a little odd, and then you told them to go to the club and demand that they allow the girl to play up an age group. That isn't just listening.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In summary, you finally met someone with an child with an August birthday but couldn't convince them that they should kick and scream to have their kid to play up because they are special, not based on skill but because they are special. And this person didn't buy it. That would check outAnonymous wrote:G2016 was speaking with another parent this weekend about the BY the SY change. He said its weird. I asked why he thinks its weird. He said my kid is an August birthday. I said wouldn't that make your kid the oldest on a SY team? My kid is a july birthday shes screwed. He said its weird that my daughter would be playing on a team with players that are a year behind her in school. I said if you think that it's weird just tell your club that you're not paying unless shes on a team with players her grade.
Interesting exchange you could tell he instinctively knew that playing down was an issue. But he couldnt figure out why. His oldest is being recruited for swimming right so Im sure he'll put the pieces together reguarding his youngest and playing on the correct grade team.
I'm the person that wrote this.
I was just trying to listen to see what they were thinking. I thought it was interesting to hear their perspective. I specifically thought it was interesting that they thought it was weird for their kid to play down on a team with younger grade in school players.
You seem to have issues.
Maybe, but the word they used was "weird" not "a little odd" and I know this guy he's 100% into his older kid getting recruited to swim in college. He said weird because playing down a grade goes against everything he's researched for his older kid. I did tell him to tell the club if he wants his kid to play with their grade. He pays the bills. You dont have to be in a weird situation just because some coach wants a big kid on their g2016 team.
The travel club doesn't care about a kids grade
Only their age and skills
That is where you're wrong.
Parents foot the bill so its up to them to protect their Aug birthday kids from being exploited by clubs/coaches playing down for short term wins vs playing with their grade for long term development and college recruiting.
If I'm a coach, no parent can tell me to take their kid to play up on my team if they lack the quality just because of school grade
Only the dumb parents ask for their kid to play up if they aren't ready and it has nothing to do with grades.
Hahaha nobody ever since the beginning of time has ever had an issue with players asking to play with players their grade.
Nice try though.