Anonymous wrote:Larson refused mediation and published several versions of her story with plagiarized material, and sued Dorland’s representative. Whatever damages or relief Dorland claims, including barring the story from further publication since it’s hung on the letter several times and Larson had years to remedy this, seems fair at least as something to bring to a court. Funny way to contextualize things - since she did get grant money, and won a city-wide contest, by including lifted material, should she not face certain damages because she didn’t do better financially with her actions? Even when she formally set in motion a litigation which could bankrupt both parties? Hm.
I hope Dorland doesn’t walk away on any level. Arthur Chu had a sensitive and thought-provoking take on the “dig two graves” take, which is somewhat implicit in 19:28’s argument, which personally doesn’t work for me at all.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I was puzzled by some of the blue check "we all do this in our group chats" responses in Twitter. I am by no means perfect and definitely can be snarky and unkind, but what was in all those chats was next-level cruel. I haven't had anything like it in my group chats, and I hope it isn't common.
So creepy, right?!
No — people like me do NOT have group chats like this
Yes — emotional stunted at age 12, insecure, unprofessional, competitive “creative class” head cases absolutely have chats like this and have no idea that they are outliers.
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I was puzzled by some of the blue check "we all do this in our group chats" responses in Twitter. I am by no means perfect and definitely can be snarky and unkind, but what was in all those chats was next-level cruel. I haven't had anything like it in my group chats, and I hope it isn't common.
Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a non sequitur because I see the thread is focused on other things, but:
I am baffled by a group chat focused on making fun of another person. My group chats are largely used to make fun of people on the chat, preferably in gif form. I thought that’s what group chats were for, in addition to quoting pat benetar lyrics and posting links to real estate listing with photos of sex dungeons in them? It has never occurred to me to use my group chat for a team pile on of anyone, much less a kidney donor. Just seems lame and humorless and boring!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a non sequitur because I see the thread is focused on other things, but:
I am baffled by a group chat focused on making fun of another person. My group chats are largely used to make fun of people on the chat, preferably in gif form. I thought that’s what group chats were for, in addition to quoting pat benetar lyrics and posting links to real estate listing with photos of sex dungeons in them? It has never occurred to me to use my group chat for a team pile on of anyone, much less a kidney donor. Just seems lame and humorless and boring!
I don't get that either. I am part of several group chats, and I've never seen anything like this.
Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a non sequitur because I see the thread is focused on other things, but:
I am baffled by a group chat focused on making fun of another person. My group chats are largely used to make fun of people on the chat, preferably in gif form. I thought that’s what group chats were for, in addition to quoting pat benetar lyrics and posting links to real estate listing with photos of sex dungeons in them? It has never occurred to me to use my group chat for a team pile on of anyone, much less a kidney donor. Just seems lame and humorless and boring!
shan1212 wrote:My emotional investment in this story about strangers must be telling me something, and I wish I could figure out exactly what it is. I don't want to be swept up in some kind of mob justice; I totally understand that society functions this way in order to keep errant behaviors in line, but I don't want my brief time on this planet to be spent obsessing on a feud between strangers and trying to teach a lesson to some author I barely thought of before this. On the other hand, I'm a chronically ill SAHP, so I do need something to engage my intellect, and I'm obviously not alone in my interest in this story.
It's definitely unsatisfying that so much has been discovered about Larson's lies, and yet she has continued to maintain the unconditional support of her community. People like Bridburg and Ng are doubling down in the face of obvious malfeasance. So then to me it becomes this question of psychology . . . strutting around defiantly with pointed "likes" and, in Ng's case, all these "You're willfully misrepresenting the facts and somehow not believing me that 2 + 2 = 5 even though I TOLD YOU IT WAS" responses. Now I'm not just marveling at the cruelty shown to Dawn but also the idiocy of continuing to dig at this point. My underlying feeling is one of "oh god, let that never be me."
At first I was not won over by Becky Tuch's apology, but she has continued to show she is willing to own up to her mistakes, and I so appreciate that. We all miss the mark, but we don't all consider that we might be wrong, and even fewer of us seek to repair the damage we caused. She said she left the group, but I do have to wonder . . . how can the group ever go on as before now, with or without Becky? How could anyone trust Sonya? How could anyone not have a fear of their words being leaked again in the back of their mind?
I do hope GrubStreet cleans house. You can't just CC some of the active participants on an HR inquiry, like some posts that insinuate that Dawn is mentally ill, and then handle it with a few "ethics workshops" recommendations from some firm you hired. Of course, that strutting that I referenced earlier is probably a facade to cover up your fear that you are going down for this.
I know this isn't about me, but I am thinking back on some drama that people tried to suck me into. I am an advocate for a type of racial justice that is unpopular among the NIMBYs, and a bunch of local NIMBYs have tried to "win" by baiting, harassing, slandering, and just generally annoying me. I knew that as soon as I responded back in kind, they'd try to make it about my response and not about right/wrong. So I never took the bait, as tempting as it was. I'm glad that I didn't sully myself by slinging mud. You don't need to convince everyone that you're right or show up the haters . . . but sure, it's kind of delicious when they bring it on themselves.
Still, I have always worked hard to keep those people humanized in my heart. Is this case a proxy for my schadenfreude? Oh dear, haha.