Anonymous wrote:Are you or your kids overweight? If so, your kids lifestyle could be causing it.

Anonymous wrote:low class poster - you are trying way too hard. just decided to check out Burger King - I haven’t been there in 20 years.

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Anonymous wrote:You should tell your sister you are really worried that her kids are going to totally rebel and be drug addicts because of her crazy strict lifestyle.

And then laugh and say “see sis, let’s stay out of each other’s parenting.”

Plenty of academic research proving the contrary. Kids like OP's sadly turn out to be underachievers more often than not. While kids raised with proper nutrition and impulse control tend to be successful.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her to screw herself.

And in 10 years you can compare which colleges/universities and degrees each of these kids are graduating from.

I guarantee helicopter mom will be surprised.

Came here to say exactly this. Not only college, but life in general. Her kids are going to go off the rails. Just say thank you for your concern and move on. Not worth talking to her about it.

While I think OP can rightly walk away and no one should push parenting styles on other families, this is just not true. Childhood obesity is a real issue. Screen time addiction is a real thing. Inability of kids to socialize and talk to one another because they're buried in an iPad is a real thing. Sister may be overboard but her concerns are valid. And I doubt the fact that OP lets her kids eat Burger King and has no limits on screen time is an indicator of them being more equipped for college. Please.

Anonymous wrote:Take a vacay from your crappy lifestyle.

Anonymous wrote:Tell her that “our of kindness” you’re concerned that she’s lost track of basic manners and boundaries and of what is and is not her business.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her to go pound sand.

+1. I'd try harder not to cause envy (I know you were already trying) but her kids are going to see stuff they want and she'll have to deal with it. It would be more reasonable of her to allow treats on vacation, than vice versa.

But she doesn't get to be "concerned" about your kids, I would be pissed about that.

Anonymous wrote:This says more about your sister than anything else.

From an educational and developmental standpoint, she’s not teaching her 5 and 8 yr old anything by flat out rejecting all screens and junk food. The goal of parenting is to guide children to make good choices and take good care of themselves. All things in moderation. But on vacation… don’t we all loosen up a bit more? Come on. Who doesn’t eat ice cream at the beach?!

Anonymous wrote:My parents, sister's family, and my family are vacationing together -- separate cottages but nearby, see each other for meals, activities during day, etc. This is for my parents' 50th anniv, not a regular thing...

My sister and I have kids same age (8/5). They live 1000 miles away and we see them a few times a year.

Her kids are not allowed to use iPads, are not allowed sweets or ice cream or unhealthy snacks (chips/fruit rollups etc), and are not allowed fast-food.

During this trip, I ran to Target with my kids for pool stuff and stopped at BK. Because I know my sister doesn't allow it, my kids ate in the car on the way home, but I guess my older son ambled in with a bag of fries, his cousin saw it, wanted some, and it caused a blowup.

I also let my kids zone out with iPads after the pool yesterday before dinnertime. Her kids aren't allowed to do that, but since mine are, my parents basically begged her to just let everyone watch a movie instead, so that was fine, but I could tell she was mad. It wasn't even intentional, my kids just pulled out their iPads, she saw it, and began fuming. They aren't even in the same cottage as us!

It has been two days and already it's awkward.

At lunch my sister took me aside and told me, "out of kindness," how worried she is about my kids -- being allowed to consume junk food and spending so much time on screens. She wanted to get into it from an educational and developmental perspective.

I really just want to be on vacation and not defend my choices to her.

My parents seem more or less oblivious and I do not want to draw them into this, but I am also not going to deny my kids ice cream or not let them mess around on their iPad before dinner because my sister thinks it's not OK.

WWYD!?

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Anonymous wrote:That's really hard on the other kids when one set comes out with french fries or Ipads and they don't have them.

Watching TV movie probably better or all sharing the Ipad.

it is kind of sad to be on an extended family vacation in nature and spend the evenings on a screen. Try to come up with a joint game plan and set screen limits for all.

my kids have definitely had "friends" who preferred to play on their chromebooks or ipads when we visited. It was sad and the former friend would always choose the screen over playing with a friend. sad.

Wow you think watching 30 minute show is sad when they are waiting for dinner to be ready ? A bit over the top dont you think? It is ok to relax on a vacation! Try it and unclench.

Anonymous wrote:Are you or your kids overweight? If so, your kids lifestyle could be causing it.

Anonymous wrote:That's really hard on the other kids when one set comes out with french fries or Ipads and they don't have them.

Watching TV movie probably better or all sharing the Ipad.

it is kind of sad to be on an extended family vacation in nature and spend the evenings on a screen. Try to come up with a joint game plan and set screen limits for all.

my kids have definitely had "friends" who preferred to play on their chromebooks or ipads when we visited. It was sad and the former friend would always choose the screen over playing with a friend. sad.