"My practice covers my insurance, licensing, disability insurance, and CME. They also provide a life insurance policy, but I carry my own as well."

"OP here - it's actually funny that you mentioned this. We had planned on staying in the city where I had done my training, but the fellowship gods had other plans and brought me back to the DC area. It is nice to be closer to family, but wasn't a strategic choice or anything."

"OP here, we never really had a discussion around deciding to have a pre-nup. We both knew it was necessary, and I think it provided us both with peace of mind, as money had always been a little hush-hush in our relationship. It did start a lot of discussions about our long term goals including kids, retirement planning, charitable giving, etc. We had a meeting between our lawyer and our financial planner to get a clear picture of the assets/debts that we both had and ironed out some of the details based on that and our future planning. It was not tense or anything, but definitely uncomfortable at some points. Overall though it made us feel a lot more like a team when it comes to finances."

"hi there! I should have mentioned it but daycare is keeping her in "quarantine". It's definitely harder to keep the dogs apart at home though. I hope our older dogs immune system is strong enough to keep him from getting one!"

that's why they have pet insurance

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Anonymous wrote:*me looking up the provider list at every DC area hospital to find a female surgeon whose name starts with H* We need to get to the bottom of this!

Women are obviously over represented lol

https://www.womensurgeons.org/search/newsearch.asp

I got so close. I found a female surgeon at GW who graduated from Harvard in 2008, so that would put her right at the age of the surgeon in the diary. But no, a Google search reveals that that surgeon lives in McLean...

No one even in the realm of possibility at Georgetown.

now onto the Sibley list...

She likely works at a NoVA hospital. She mentioned picking up a case of wine at Total Wines on the way home from work - there's none in DC or in nearby MD suburbs. Total Wine is all over Northern VA. She wouldn't go out of her way from DC to visit a Total Wine to save a few bucks, plenty of good wine shops in Georgetown (we live here, we know what's around).

“ Hi there! I'm OP! We were contributing equally to our savings when I was in residency/fellowship and my husband was paying off his student loans and our pre-nup was written to reflect that. Now that our incomes are so different, I contribute more to the amount that we save every month so the document needs to be updated to match. We're also planning on trying for a baby soon, so we wanted to add some things regarding that as well.”

Prenup question answered in the comment!

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone here read the book “My Year of Rest and Relaxation?” The author of this diary reads like a more functional version of the narrator of that book. It’s pretty weird.

That is an interesting comparison. The narrator in that book was completely dysfunctional. But I do see the similarities in the writing style.

Right?!? What is going on there?? The narrator, like the diarist here, came from family money and was very blasé about it.

“ It's definitely been trial and error within our relationship trying to figure out the money aspect. I was very uncomfortable talking about money for a long time at the beginning of our relationship. It took a lot of work on my own to be open about my completely open about my financial situation, which I think has lowered my anxiety around money a lot.

Things have evened out now as we both earn enough to support ourselves independently, but for the majority of our relationship he has made around 4x my salary. I think the most issues in our relationship to money come from long term spending, like planning for retirement. He doesn't want to feel like he is spending other people's money to subsidize his lifestyle if that makes sense. We try to make as many decisions together as possible, but it historically has come down to my decision at the end of the day as we are usually pulling money from my accounts to purchase. When we were looking at properties in DC, we decided on a few factors that were really important to us and looked at properties that fit that criteria. We narrowed down a list and my husband gave me his input, but I made the final decision on what we wanted to make an offer on. This probably doesn't work for every relationship (he's easy going to a fault) but it's what has worked for us for now. Going forward I'd like to work on him seeing himself as an equal partner in all our decisions, but I'm not sure what the best way to do that is.”

Found OP in comment section

Sounds like she went to NCS and her husband went to STA. It's clear that the author and her brother didn't attend HS together, which is indicative of single gender educations. The drycleaner knows all the family well, etc. They are old money Washingtonians.

"4:30 p.m. — I'm advising a student from my high school on her senior project. We catch up for a little before getting into the nitty-gritty. She just heard back from her first college and she got in! She also applied to my alma matter and she asks if I will write her a letter of recommendation and I agree. She's a great student and is doing a project on the impact of health care access in low-income communities in DC. It's a little out of my wheelhouse, but I'm learning a lot as well. I stop by and say hi to one of my favorite teachers while I'm there. I was not the most motivated student in high school and she got me at a really good time and put me on the path to where I am today. She shows me pictures of her new grandbaby."

"8 p.m. — I go upstairs to tell K. the news and he already knew. He and my brother went to high school together and are super close, so I'm not surprised."

The surgeon also mentioned in the comments that she went a all girls middle/high school, which is why she connected well with the niece

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Anonymous wrote:*me looking up the provider list at every DC area hospital to find a female surgeon whose name starts with H* We need to get to the bottom of this!

Women are obviously over represented lol

https://www.womensurgeons.org/search/newsearch.asp

I got so close. I found a female surgeon at GW who graduated from Harvard in 2008, so that would put her right at the age of the surgeon in the diary. But no, a Google search reveals that that surgeon lives in McLean...

No one even in the realm of possibility at Georgetown.

now onto the Sibley list...

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone here read the book “My Year of Rest and Relaxation?” The author of this diary reads like a more functional version of the narrator of that book. It’s pretty weird.

That is an interesting comparison. The narrator in that book was completely dysfunctional. But I do see the similarities in the writing style.

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Anonymous wrote:"K. and L. bro out about big law life"...

Pretty sure DH's assistant makes more than $120k at a big law firm...

Also is her paycheck AFTER taxes? $12,178 biweekly comes out to $292k....

515 + 120 = 635K, not 655K.

Maybe her dh worked in biglaw after law school and left to do something else - like lots of people. Maybe L is still in it and talking about it and K is saying thank G- d I left. A lot of details were likely edited out (or not included).

This is what the author of the money diary said in the comments:

“A couple things that came up a lot:

Without revealing much more information (I was dying at whoever was trying to find him on the internet), my husband left his big law job when we moved back to DC after my residency. He took a job with better hours and a flexible WFH policy. We're planning on having a baby in the next few years and he will have most of the childcare responsibilities.”

Where is the comment section? I don't see it on the link provided

Scroll all the way down, it's under the heading "The Conversation." There are 1,300 comments and the money diary author's comment was pretty deep into that.

Interesting that it didn't show on my laptop but instead on my phone. Thanks!

I saw in the reddit that when the article was first uploaded, the editor forgot to sensor out the husband's name at the a beginning sentence. They saw the husband's name is Jack. Hope that will help someone here who's trying to find her lol

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Anonymous wrote:I get a gut feeling she's not white. Maybe Asian?

I don’t know - old money I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s white. If not, my guess is Indian. Does it matter?

My guess is black

I thought Indian, based on the food descriptions.

My guess is big Indian or Persian family.

Indian people don't have great-grandparents in this country.

We've only been allowed to immigrate for the past 40-50 years.

If they live in Georgetown, could have been a diplomatic family. Or only part of the family is Indian.

She's not Indian. She's white. White people sometimes eat Indian food, OMG.

cite?

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Anonymous wrote:I get a gut feeling she's not white. Maybe Asian?

I don’t know - old money I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s white. If not, my guess is Indian. Does it matter?

My guess is black

I thought Indian, based on the food descriptions.

My guess is big Indian or Persian family.

Indian people don't have great-grandparents in this country.

We've only been allowed to immigrate for the past 40-50 years.

If they live in Georgetown, could have been a diplomatic family. Or only part of the family is Indian.

She's not Indian. She's white. White people sometimes eat Indian food, OMG.