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Anonymous wrote:Your kid hasn't earned college. If he wants to go to college, he should now work hard in community college. Or he can try a trade. I personally, wouldn't waste money if he can't hack it.

"Tough guy" parent! You know what we call "tough guy" parents?

Assholes.

Also, if you made more money maybe you'd be more open to giving him time to figure out life instead of having to choose when he is 17.

Tough guy.

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Anonymous wrote:But those are for schools that report GPA, which typically excludes privates. The 2.6 is unweighted and there is usually a bump from private schools.

Do you guys realize that many private schools don't weigh most (if any) classes, and there aren't minimum grades just for trying? I think MCPS parents have an overblown opinion of how superior their kids are.

Anonymous wrote:But those are for schools that report GPA, which typically excludes privates. The 2.6 is unweighted and there is usually a bump from private schools.

Anonymous wrote:My DC has a 2.6 GPA (lower if you look at only core classes) at a (not big 3) DMV private. 1380 SAT. Applied EA to 10 colleges recommended by school counselor. Only one college has rolling admissions and it was on the “match” list. Wait listed. Very concerned DC won’t get in to college. Has anyone else been in a similar grade/SAT situation? If so, where did your child get accepted? Wondering whether DC should apply to a couple more safeties RD. DC needs a small nurturing college with good supports (tutoring, writing center, approachable professors). Thank you. Please no snarks. And please no suggestions for community college. Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid hasn't earned college. If he wants to go to college, he should now work hard in community college. Or he can try a trade. I personally, wouldn't waste money if he can't hack it.

"Tough guy" parent! You know what we call "tough guy" parents?

Assholes.

Also, if you made more money maybe you'd be more open to giving him time to figure out life instead of having to choose when he is 17.

Tough guy.

He's not getting in anywhere with a 2.6 so paying for college is a moot point. That said, if he did get in somewhere with a 2.6 would you really want to toss 40-80K a year out on someone not prepared for college? Community college allows him to figure his stuff out without wasting money. He's not ready for college. A 2.6 in high school = failing in college.

My objection was to the authoritarian tone of the PP, that he hasn't "earned" college like it is some kind of reward you get from a boss or a coach. He doesn't know the kid and he's not the kid's parent.

I will point out to you -- politely as the tone of your post warrants -- that you don't know that kid or where he would do well, nor the family's financial status. I agree community college might be a good choice for him, but it also might not. It's far more complicated. Lots of kids blossom on college. And I completely disagree with your "He's not getting in anywhere with a 2.6". That's just factually untrue. There are plenty of good colleges that take kids from there and this thread is full of them.

What I do know is "screw that lazy kid and his B-minuses!" is ridiculous, insensitive, and unhelpful.

"tone" is about manners (i.e., how the message was delivered), and does not change the facts. while pp's delivery wasn't the message ("tone" of her message), it doesn't change the facts. don't focus on how it sounds, try to focus on what it says. your disagreement should be based on facts.

- dp

No, I can disagree on tone if I like to. I find it offensive. And I also do disagree with the facts.

Anonymous[b wrote:]What about UVA-Wise[/b]?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid hasn't earned college. If he wants to go to college, he should now work hard in community college. Or he can try a trade. I personally, wouldn't waste money if he can't hack it.

"Tough guy" parent! You know what we call "tough guy" parents?

Assholes.

Also, if you made more money maybe you'd be more open to giving him time to figure out life instead of having to choose when he is 17.

Tough guy.

He's not getting in anywhere with a 2.6 so paying for college is a moot point. That said, if he did get in somewhere with a 2.6 would you really want to toss 40-80K a year out on someone not prepared for college? Community college allows him to figure his stuff out without wasting money. He's not ready for college. A 2.6 in high school = failing in college.

My objection was to the authoritarian tone of the PP, that he hasn't "earned" college like it is some kind of reward you get from a boss or a coach. He doesn't know the kid and he's not the kid's parent.

I will point out to you -- politely as the tone of your post warrants -- that you don't know that kid or where he would do well, nor the family's financial status. I agree community college might be a good choice for him, but it also might not. It's far more complicated. Lots of kids blossom on college. And I completely disagree with your "He's not getting in anywhere with a 2.6". That's just factually untrue. There are plenty of good colleges that take kids from there and this thread is full of them.

What I do know is "screw that lazy kid and his B-minuses!" is ridiculous, insensitive, and unhelpful.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid hasn't earned college. If he wants to go to college, he should now work hard in community college. Or he can try a trade. I personally, wouldn't waste money if he can't hack it.

"Tough guy" parent! You know what we call "tough guy" parents?

Assholes.

Also, if you made more money maybe you'd be more open to giving him time to figure out life instead of having to choose when he is 17.

Tough guy.

He's not getting in anywhere with a 2.6 so paying for college is a moot point. That said, if he did get in somewhere with a 2.6 would you really want to toss 40-80K a year out on someone not prepared for college? Community college allows him to figure his stuff out without wasting money. He's not ready for college. A 2.6 in high school = failing in college.

My objection was to the authoritarian tone of the PP, that he hasn't "earned" college like it is some kind of reward you get from a boss or a coach. He doesn't know the kid and he's not the kid's parent.

I will point out to you -- politely as the tone of your post warrants -- that you don't know that kid or where he would do well, nor the family's financial status. I agree community college might be a good choice for him, but it also might not. It's far more complicated. Lots of kids blossom on college. And I completely disagree with your "He's not getting in anywhere with a 2.6". That's just factually untrue. There are plenty of good colleges that take kids from there and this thread is full of them.

What I do know is "screw that lazy kid and his B-minuses!" is ridiculous, insensitive, and unhelpful.

"tone" is about manners (i.e., how the message was delivered), and does not change the facts. while pp's delivery wasn't the message ("tone" of her message), it doesn't change the facts. don't focus on how it sounds, try to focus on what it says. your disagreement should be based on facts.

- dp

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid hasn't earned college. If he wants to go to college, he should now work hard in community college. Or he can try a trade. I personally, wouldn't waste money if he can't hack it.

"Tough guy" parent! You know what we call "tough guy" parents?

Assholes.

Also, if you made more money maybe you'd be more open to giving him time to figure out life instead of having to choose when he is 17.

Tough guy.

He's not getting in anywhere with a 2.6 so paying for college is a moot point. That said, if he did get in somewhere with a 2.6 would you really want to toss 40-80K a year out on someone not prepared for college? Community college allows him to figure his stuff out without wasting money. He's not ready for college. A 2.6 in high school = failing in college.

My objection was to the authoritarian tone of the PP, that he hasn't "earned" college like it is some kind of reward you get from a boss or a coach. He doesn't know the kid and he's not the kid's parent.

I will point out to you -- politely as the tone of your post warrants -- that you don't know that kid or where he would do well, nor the family's financial status. I agree community college might be a good choice for him, but it also might not. It's far more complicated. Lots of kids blossom on college. And I completely disagree with your "He's not getting in anywhere with a 2.6". That's just factually untrue. There are plenty of good colleges that take kids from there and this thread is full of them.

What I do know is "screw that lazy kid and his B-minuses!" is ridiculous, insensitive, and unhelpful.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid hasn't earned college. If he wants to go to college, he should now work hard in community college. Or he can try a trade. I personally, wouldn't waste money if he can't hack it.

"Tough guy" parent! You know what we call "tough guy" parents?

Assholes.

Also, if you made more money maybe you'd be more open to giving him time to figure out life instead of having to choose when he is 17.

Tough guy.

He's not getting in anywhere with a 2.6 so paying for college is a moot point. That said, if he did get in somewhere with a 2.6 would you really want to toss 40-80K a year out on someone not prepared for college? Community college allows him to figure his stuff out without wasting money. He's not ready for college. A 2.6 in high school = failing in college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid hasn't earned college. If he wants to go to college, he should now work hard in community college. Or he can try a trade. I personally, wouldn't waste money if he can't hack it.

"Tough guy" parent! You know what we call "tough guy" parents?

Assholes.

Also, if you made more money maybe you'd be more open to giving him time to figure out life instead of having to choose when he is 17.

Tough guy.

Anonymous wrote:Hello OP,
My kid is similar to yours-- depression, anxiety + ADHD.
Would probably have ended up below a 3.0 but we moved her to a private high school.
SAT score was 1230. No extracurriculars.

We really liked McDaniel. Totally nurturing environment. She got about 30k in merit.
Aside from smaller class sizes and availability of professors, when you look at schools, pay attention to:
1) What kind of support and transition activities they do for freshmen.
2) Do they have a specialized tutoring center. (all schools will have tutoring but McDaniel was geared towards special needs- additional fee for that)
3) Do they have counseling/therapy services either at the school or nearby (although this may not be too big of a hurdle if we're still virtual in the Fall).

I really liked McDaniel's philosophy-- we're here to encourage you to take risks, but we're always ready with a safety net.. or something like that. Not a big deal for other kids but for kids like ours with depression and anxiety, this kind of environment is a must. My kid would not have done well in a sink or swim environment.

That being said, McDaniel ended up costing too much for us.

Our kid ended up going to a small public college with a very similar support system.
It has been amazing how much she has grown. I think being away from home was what helped her most.

I am a graduate of a community college myself but we didn't do NOVA because:
1) We didn't want her to live at home but she also wasn't ready to be on her own. Being in a dorm was a good next step.
2) The support system is not sufficient for what she needed.
3) She needed a peer group that was more similar to her- in mindset, in routine, etc.

The Covid restrictions this Fall was actually good for her. She was able to transition in slowly without the pressure of doing everything all at once.

Good luck OP! You're doing a great job doing all this research!