Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 18:12     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:Newborns basically sleep and eat. They’re the easiest age to take care of, provided they aren’t colicky, so I wouldn’t worry about the DH. And I think the posters who are outraged are (perhaps a little hyperbolically) reacting to the nonchalance in OP’s leaving her newborn for a week. Most women wouldn’t be so indifferent (?) to not being with their brand new infant for a week but who knows, maybe the text doesn’t translate emotions well or this is a troll.


Op literally wrote "I'm very nervous about leaving my baby for a week." So I'm going to go with that the posters are projecting something. Likely a defense mechanism against accepting that their DH's in fact could have done much more in the newborn phase than they did.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 18:10     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Newborns basically sleep and eat. They’re the easiest age to take care of, provided they aren’t colicky, so I wouldn’t worry about the DH. And I think the posters who are outraged are (perhaps a little hyperbolically) reacting to the nonchalance in OP’s leaving her newborn for a week. Most women wouldn’t be so indifferent (?) to not being with their brand new infant for a week but who knows, maybe the text doesn’t translate emotions well or this is a troll.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 18:10     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I doubt your father would want you leaving your newborn for a week to tend to him. There is a brand new person who needs you the most. Hire someone to help your father or have your husband help your father.


This!! A million times this!!


It’s a 2 month old baby! If we want equality ladies we have to put our money where our mouth is and let your damn husband who is already on paternity leave step and take care of the baby.


If the greatest achievement of this version of feminism is making it mandatory for me to leave a newborn behind so I can perform different uncompensated family care that the state has also refused to provide in the middle of a pandemic that the state is exacerbating on pain of "not getting equality"...I'm not interested.


So what do you propose happens to OP's dad? The fact that OP feels confident leaving her baby with her DH for a week is huge for equality. In fact it will probably cement the division of labor.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 18:07     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I doubt your father would want you leaving your newborn for a week to tend to him. There is a brand new person who needs you the most. Hire someone to help your father or have your husband help your father.


This!! A million times this!!


It’s a 2 month old baby! If we want equality ladies we have to put our money where our mouth is and let your damn husband who is already on paternity leave step and take care of the baby.


If the greatest achievement of this version of feminism is making it mandatory for me to leave a newborn behind so I can perform different uncompensated family care that the state has also refused to provide in the middle of a pandemic that the state is exacerbating on pain of "not getting equality"...I'm not interested.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 17:59     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I doubt your father would want you leaving your newborn for a week to tend to him. There is a brand new person who needs you the most. Hire someone to help your father or have your husband help your father.


This!! A million times this!!


It’s a 2 month old baby! If we want equality ladies we have to put our money where our mouth is and let your damn husband who is already on paternity leave step and take care of the baby.


When his body is the baby's natural environment, this will make sense. Until then, in a family where her body is that natural environment, it doesn't.


Are you under the impression that OP is pregnant, and is planning on . . . I don't even know what.

In a thread full of absolute idiocy, this might be the dumbest post. Congratulations, or something.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 17:54     Subject: Re:Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Tips for your husband or tips for you emotionally being apart? An 8 week old is basically sleeping, eating or in a bouncy all day. It is actually one of the easiest ages to care for. Can you bring him with you to your fathers?
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 17:12     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I doubt your father would want you leaving your newborn for a week to tend to him. There is a brand new person who needs you the most. Hire someone to help your father or have your husband help your father.


This!! A million times this!!


It’s a 2 month old baby! If we want equality ladies we have to put our money where our mouth is and let your damn husband who is already on paternity leave step and take care of the baby.


When his body is the baby's natural environment, this will make sense. Until then, in a family where her body is that natural environment, it doesn't.


Wait, what? Do you think women have a pouch where they keep 2-month old babies, like a kangaroo?

Personally I think OP should have made one of her siblings fly out to do this (I don't think air travel is a huge COVID risk) but if she really feels like she needs to do it, well, that's what being family means.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 17:07     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I doubt your father would want you leaving your newborn for a week to tend to him. There is a brand new person who needs you the most. Hire someone to help your father or have your husband help your father.


This!! A million times this!!


It’s a 2 month old baby! If we want equality ladies we have to put our money where our mouth is and let your damn husband who is already on paternity leave step and take care of the baby.


When his body is the baby's natural environment, this will make sense. Until then, in a family where her body is that natural environment, it doesn't.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 16:53     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I doubt your father would want you leaving your newborn for a week to tend to him. There is a brand new person who needs you the most. Hire someone to help your father or have your husband help your father.


This!! A million times this!!


It’s a 2 month old baby! If we want equality ladies we have to put our money where our mouth is and let your damn husband who is already on paternity leave step and take care of the baby.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 16:27     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:I doubt your father would want you leaving your newborn for a week to tend to him. There is a brand new person who needs you the most. Hire someone to help your father or have your husband help your father.


This!! A million times this!!
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 16:26     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:At 8 weeks I would not do this. If YOU needed life-saving surgery I would do it, otherwise no. If somebody is dying, they are going to die. Your baby's life has JUST started. They don't have vaccines, they only have the immunity they got from being inside your baby and maybe if you've been nursing. Somebody else can help with the family emergency. You have to prioritize your newborn.

Sorry. I know this sounds harsh and isn't what you want to hear. But it's absolutely what I would do.


I agree with the PP. At eight weeks I’m bringing baby with me, and if it’s an emergency that can’t be handled with a baby in tow, then I am not equipped to help either. Unless one of my other children were in dire circumstances I can’t imagine it.

I agree. The baby would be coming with me, no question.


It's good that you all view the baby's fathers as equal parents.

FFS.


Seriously. I feel sorry for your husbands. I guess they're just sperm donors and money makers.


I feel really bad for these women’s husbands.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 16:25     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:Since your father only lives 2 hours away, go pick him up and bring him back to your house to stay with you for a week. No need to leave your baby for an entire week when he lives so close. This is sounding a little off. I mean this kindly OP, is it possible you are suffering from PPD and want to get away from your baby?


OP here. I’m not suffering from PPD. I love being with my baby, but one week won’t do any harm. He is in capable hands with his father. My dads house is well equipped for his issues, and ours is not. That is why we won’t have him at our place.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 16:24     Subject: Re:Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:Op doesn’t strike me as genuinely searching for advice.

I absolutely wouldn’t do this, but it doesn’t really matter since it’s not my life or decision.





OP here. I asked for tips and I’ve taken some do the tips that people offered. Most of the tips are people saying how awful I am, how my baby will hate me, and how I will never breastfeed again. Many comments have been very rude.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 16:22     Subject: Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Since your father only lives 2 hours away, go pick him up and bring him back to your house to stay with you for a week. No need to leave your baby for an entire week when he lives so close. This is sounding a little off. I mean this kindly OP, is it possible you are suffering from PPD and want to get away from your baby?


OP, I am also wondering why you can’t just bring dad to your house?


OP here. We live in a two bedroom and don’t she’s space. My dads house is already equipped for the the health issues he has.
Anonymous
Post 11/17/2020 16:12     Subject: Re:Leaving Husband With Baby For A Week
Anonymous wrote:Op doesn’t strike me as genuinely searching for advice.

I absolutely wouldn’t do this, but it doesn’t really matter since it’s not my life or decision.





She's not looking for the kind of advice the dcum ninnies are giving her. YOU'RE GOING TO DIE AND SO WILL YOUR BABY. AND YOUR BABY WILL FORGET WHO YOU ARE AND STOP EATING ALTOGETHER.

You people are absolutely insane.