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Anonymous wrote:Did any of you ever take psychology 101? Some of the most stressful times in people's lives, are moving, getting a new job, getting married, etc., but number one is always living with teenagers.

Never have I heard from a less empathetic bunch.

Some teens are living in abusive households. It's no picnic for them too to be with deranged parents. I have empathy for teens too.

+1

I have extreme empathy for their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Right there with you, OP. I think we all know -- whether we admit it or not -- how hard it can be raising teenagers, much less being with them 24/7 in these circumstances. The stress of a pandemic, limits on independence, cessation of theater programs and other extracurricular activities, losing a beloved grandparent, losing family friends to COVID and fcking cancer, and even just the press of living together in a small rowhouse .... everyone in my family needs a little grace.

Would be nice to see a little more grace and understanding on this thread, too.

Agreed. OP needs to show grace and understanding to her teens. They are going through a lot and a drama queen self-absorbed mother is not another burden they need.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Right there with you, OP. I think we all know -- whether we admit it or not -- how hard it can be raising teenagers, much less being with them 24/7 in these circumstances. The stress of a pandemic, limits on independence, cessation of theater programs and other extracurricular activities, losing a beloved grandparent, losing family friends to COVID and fcking cancer, and even just the press of living together in a small rowhouse .... everyone in my family needs a little grace.

Would be nice to see a little more grace and understanding on this thread, too.

Agreed. OP needs to show grace and understanding to her teens. They are going through a lot and a drama queen self-absorbed mother is not another burden they need.

Not at all what I meant. DCUM, you never fail to be your snarky self.

Priorities.

Anonymous wrote:Right there with you, OP. I think we all know -- whether we admit it or not -- how hard it can be raising teenagers, much less being with them 24/7 in these circumstances. The stress of a pandemic, limits on independence, cessation of theater programs and other extracurricular activities, losing a beloved grandparent, losing family friends to COVID and fcking cancer, and even just the press of living together in a small rowhouse .... everyone in my family needs a little grace.

Would be nice to see a little more grace and understanding on this thread, too.

Agreed. OP needs to show grace and understanding to her teens. They are going through a lot and a drama queen self-absorbed mother is not another burden they need.

Right there with you, OP. I think we all know -- whether we admit it or not -- how hard it can be raising teenagers, much less being with them 24/7 in these circumstances. The stress of a pandemic, limits on independence, cessation of theater programs and other extracurricular activities, losing a beloved grandparent, losing family friends to COVID and fcking cancer, and even just the press of living together in a small rowhouse .... everyone in my family needs a little grace.

Would be nice to see a little more grace and understanding on this thread, too.

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Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

Said the person without teenagers.

Yeah, I too thought I had it all figured out when my kids were 10 and 11. Joke was on me!

What smug buzz killing people (if not sock puppets) there are on here.

I think anyone claiming to be "happy and content" while simultaneously being callous and smug towards parents who are struggling doesn't understand what "happy and content" mean and/or are actively lying.

OP, I hear you. Solidarity.

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

Said the person without teenagers.

I am happy for those of you who live in these idyllic households. Lots of fighting in mine. I didn't do a poor job raising my kids though, they are incredibly accomplished, well liked and healthy. I don't think we were intended to spend 7 months inside with our teenagers.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The teenage years are supposed to be for slowly separating from parents and learning independence. That's a completely natural process and hard to do right now. So parents and teens who are ready for that next step, but can't do it are understandably frustrated.

People are "aren't having any problems" with their teens at home might be in for a surprise when the day eventually comes they need to step out on their own.

The process of learning independence and responsibility is not that of conflict and rebellion in a functioning household/family. My kids started to learn independence and domestic skills much before their teen years. They are mature and self-aware enough to know that this pandemic situation is an anomaly. They are more capable than many adults to find ways to keep themselves gainfully occupied during this period. You give your kids time, respect and consideration and they will give you back the same. Please don't be a snowflake or raise a snowflake. Most of us are employed, healthy and have a roof over our heads. Teach them to be grateful for their life.

Oh please. Teenage rebellion is as old as time, and thank God, or we’d be down a few key works of literature and probably all of rock and roll.

Teenage rebellion that results in creativity is indeed very welcome. What op is talking about is not rebellion but unhappy home environment and kids acting out.
Her kids are not making new music in the garage or trying to change the world. No. They are deeply unhappy and think that their parents are not worthy of their respect.
All for teen rebellion. I'm fact they can join BLM or Greta Thunbirg and try and change the world for the better. That's not what they are doing.

lol

I give up on this thread. You “good parents” are wound way too tight.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The teenage years are supposed to be for slowly separating from parents and learning independence. That's a completely natural process and hard to do right now. So parents and teens who are ready for that next step, but can't do it are understandably frustrated.

People are "aren't having any problems" with their teens at home might be in for a surprise when the day eventually comes they need to step out on their own.

The process of learning independence and responsibility is not that of conflict and rebellion in a functioning household/family. My kids started to learn independence and domestic skills much before their teen years. They are mature and self-aware enough to know that this pandemic situation is an anomaly. They are more capable than many adults to find ways to keep themselves gainfully occupied during this period. You give your kids time, respect and consideration and they will give you back the same. Please don't be a snowflake or raise a snowflake. Most of us are employed, healthy and have a roof over our heads. Teach them to be grateful for their life.

Oh please. Teenage rebellion is as old as time, and thank God, or we’d be down a few key works of literature and probably all of rock and roll.

Teenage rebellion that results in creativity is indeed very welcome. What op is talking about is not rebellion but unhappy home environment and kids acting out.
Her kids are not making new music in the garage or trying to change the world. No. They are deeply unhappy and think that their parents are not worthy of their respect.
All for teen rebellion. I'm fact they can join BLM or Greta Thunbirg and try and change the world for the better. That's not what they are doing.

Oh brother. If you (and most of society) approve, it is not a rebellion. Wow, this thread has been eye opening. God, someone of you are full of nonsense.

Anonymous wrote:They need to go back to school. I’m tired of seeing them. I’m tired of having to debate things, I’m tired of text messages, I’m tired of attitudes, I’m tired of stomping up stairs, I’m just tired.

And I want my head back after it was bit off for asking a simple question.

I’m tired of feeling guilty for being sick of them.

You should go back to work.

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to hear the kids’ points of view from all these sitcom families.

Me too. A lot of parents think that they have the perfect suburban family, but the kids often think otherwise.

I would also love to hear from the kids of these terrible parents who bitch about their children here and want them to go back to school.. I hope they are not doing self destructive acts because of the stress of living with such dysfunctional adults. I mean I can take it with a pinch of salt if a teen would have vented here, but to have an adult parent losing it and then posting here thinking that majority of parents will commiserate is proof that they are deluded.

Most of us love our children and are adjusting and adapting to the new realities. We are grateful for what we have and we are respectful of each other's viewpoints and space. Respect begets respect.

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Anonymous wrote:Functional families and marriages very quickly adapted to the challenges of this pandemic. Lots of dysfunctional families and marriages are struggling though.

Many people are terrible parents anyways and cannot handle parenting if childcare to some extent is not outsourced. Poor children. They didn't ask to be born. And not to these parents.

My family is doing just fine and I find this post really disturbing and off-the-mark. What a rigid, humorless person you must have to be to equate being exasperated by your teenagers with being a dysfunctional terrible parent. You’re really too much.

Why post horrible things about your kids if you were doing just fine? Why so vested in what anonymous people are writing? You what all over your kids and want them back at school at the time of pandemic. People have only reacted to the tone and words of what you have written. Your kids would be not happy to know what you wrote about them. Now you want to backtrack and pretend everything is ok? You seem like a drama queen and an attention whore. No wonder your kids disrespect you and have an attitude with you. You are getting back exactly what you have invested in your children.

What on earth are you talking about? You seem to be confusing me with someone else. The extent of my comments about my kids in this thread are “my family is doing just fine.”