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Anonymous wrote:Every year for my mother's birthday, my son would help me choose a pair of earrings for her. This went on for about 10 or so years. When she retired, she put them in a box and mailed them all back to me.

Obviously she got tired of getting earrings every year. You could have put more thought into her gift.

I personally like to pick my own jewelry. I wouldn't have sent it back to you of course (that's very rude) but you now get the point of why she did it.

The gift was from my son, ages 5-15. I got her something else. She could have thrown it away. The rule, in general is that you aren't a dick about gifts. Especially don't be a dick about gifts from children. Now you know.

Np. Yeah this is generally true. But 5yrs into it, maybe around age 10, maybe you could start teaching your child how to select more thoughtful gifts. And maybe around the 5 year mark, you might think to yourself, hmmm maybe she feels she’s received enough cheap earrings on her birthday.

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Anonymous wrote:Every year for my mother's birthday, my son would help me choose a pair of earrings for her. This went on for about 10 or so years. When she retired, she put them in a box and mailed them all back to me.

Obviously she got tired of getting earrings every year. You could have put more thought into her gift.

I personally like to pick my own jewelry. I wouldn't have sent it back to you of course (that's very rude) but you now get the point of why she did it.

The gift was from my son, ages 5-15. I got her something else. She could have thrown it away. The rule, in general is that you aren't a dick about gifts. Especially don't be a dick about gifts from children. Now you know.

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Anonymous wrote:Every year for my mother's birthday, my son would help me choose a pair of earrings for her. This went on for about 10 or so years. When she retired, she put them in a box and mailed them all back to me.

Obviously she got tired of getting earrings every year. You could have put more thought into her gift.

I personally like to pick my own jewelry. I wouldn't have sent it back to you of course (that's very rude) but you now get the point of why she did it.

Sometimes just a little bit of communication goes a long way. We can suppose what might be the reason but best bet is for PP to politely ASK. Maybe mother wanted daughter to have earrings since she is still working. Maybe PP has a daughter and mother thought granddaughter might like them. I can't imagine she'd take all her grandson's gifts and cavalierly "give them back" without a logical reason. Again, communication is key.

Anonymous wrote:Every year for my mother's birthday, my son would help me choose a pair of earrings for her. This went on for about 10 or so years. When she retired, she put them in a box and mailed them all back to me.

Obviously she got tired of getting earrings every year. You could have put more thought into her gift.

I personally like to pick my own jewelry. I wouldn't have sent it back to you of course (that's very rude) but you now get the point of why she did it.

My aunt would often give me shirts or something that my mom had bought HER daughters (my cousins) the year prior. My aunt is the queen of re-gifting.

Every year for my mother's birthday, my son would help me choose a pair of earrings for her. This went on for about 10 or so years. When she retired, she put them in a box and mailed them all back to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. If you put the photo on FB then why would she need your permission to make a print? Especially if she is a super nice person and you know she didn't have any bad intent. Question now is why YOU think this was the worst gift you've ever been given? Seems like you are a demanding and ungrateful gift recipient.

I would have been fine with just the plain frame! It just didn’t sit right using my pic and grainy print for the milestone occasion basically it felt like a re-gift back to me. Yeah there have been much worse gifts and those are from people or things I don’t care about.

I’m surprised you didn’t realize that the FRAME was the gift, OP. You are free to discard the picture, like you would the one the frame came with. Your SIL probably thought it was cute touch.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this. If you put the photo on FB then why would she need your permission to make a print? Especially if she is a super nice person and you know she didn't have any bad intent. Question now is why YOU think this was the worst gift you've ever been given? Seems like you are a demanding and ungrateful gift recipient.

I would have been fine with just the plain frame! It just didn’t sit right using my pic and grainy print for the milestone occasion basically it felt like a re-gift back to me. Yeah there have been much worse gifts and those are from people or things I don’t care about.

Anonymous wrote:cans of paint and primer from Home Depot from MIL

Hey, I need those, is the paint white? I'll take it!

Anonymous wrote:Chocolate from FIL after being told I couldn't eat it.

Maybe FIL just forgot or got mistaken.. hopefully you gave to DH or re-gifted those lot of people love chocolates!

Chocolate from FIL after being told I couldn't eat it.

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Anonymous wrote:My baby's photo I had posted on fb and got it back framed as a gift from SIL

I'm not sure this is so bad. Too often people don't make prints and think everything is going to be online forever. It won't.

Maybe SIL thought the photo was so cute she wanted to make sure you had a nice copy. I dunno. Giving her the benefit of a doubt.

Yeah, I don't think this is so bad either. The gift is basically a (hopefully) nice frame that she personalized with a print that she had easy access to.

Lol looks like multiple posters who do this!! If you are doing enlarged print or fancy frame for that photo please ask your receipient for high quality file and don’t just download off their online page which is low quality. If you are going generic photo frame sure anything will do.

Anonymous wrote:My baby's photo I had posted on fb and got it back framed as a gift from SIL

That’s a great gift. If this is the worst gift you received you’re doing well.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My baby's photo I had posted on fb and got it back framed as a gift from SIL

I'm not sure this is so bad. Too often people don't make prints and think everything is going to be online forever. It won't.

Maybe SIL thought the photo was so cute she wanted to make sure you had a nice copy. I dunno. Giving her the benefit of a doubt.

Yes it was unintentional and she is a super nice person.. it was taking something without permission and not putting effort that bothered me. Would you go attend a birthday party and give them a printout of photo the host had previously taken of their child? That said I would love an album or a print collage where someone has put in their own touch.

I don't understand this. If you put the photo on FB then why would she need your permission to make a print? Especially if she is a super nice person and you know she didn't have any bad intent. Question now is why YOU think this was the worst gift you've ever been given? Seems like you are a demanding and ungrateful gift recipient.

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Anonymous wrote:My baby's photo I had posted on fb and got it back framed as a gift from SIL

I'm not sure this is so bad. Too often people don't make prints and think everything is going to be online forever. It won't.

Maybe SIL thought the photo was so cute she wanted to make sure you had a nice copy. I dunno. Giving her the benefit of a doubt.

Yeah, I don't think this is so bad either. The gift is basically a (hopefully) nice frame that she personalized with a print that she had easy access to.