Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 15:30     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
My STBX would totally pull this crap because he still has a lot.of unresolved issues about our decision for me to become a SAHM and how that impacted our marriage.

I hope you'd smile and tell him "no."
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 15:30     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP-truly nothing wrong w/you having posted -just oversharing. The guy was a jerk and tagging your DH was an ass move as he was trying to shame choices you as a couple obviously made. I would be fine to say nope and give ZERO reason or help out because I choose to be kind.

One of my best times as a parent was when I stopped working full time for nearly 6 months but kept my full time nanny. My DH & I made sacrifices to be able to afford this reset (afterwards I started my own business.) I felt no reason to hide the luxury of free time.


So one of your best times as a *parent* was...having no job and a nanny? Love to know what your "business" is.


This was priceless.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 15:27     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To everybody saying relax it’s a joke and that she’s overreacting would be flipping their lives if a mother-in-law had said that.


This


I wouldn’t because she’d be right.


I wouldn't have said what OP said, and certainly not to my MIL. "Hey, MIL, it's so great that your son will keep going to work every day while I sit around the house with nothing to do!"


The neighbor's comment was not a joke. It was an attempt to shame a woman in front of her spouse and social community. It was misogynistic and inappropriate, and shame on those of you who think that it is ok or funny or those of you saying the OP was at fault. Let us please not promote this false narrative that SAHMs must be personally tending to their children at all the times of every day or they are somehow "less than" and worthy of public ridicule.

When I was SAH and put my kid in part day pre-school, my mother and my MIL said "do the five day option, not the three day option." Sorry your MIL is such a bitch and doesn't support your overall well-being.


SAHMs don't have to be tending to their children at all times of every day. HOWEVER, they can't also want to have everyone think they work 24/7 when they post about doing nothing while their kids are in school. Are you all really that dense?
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 15:23     Subject: Re:Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Charge him.
Tell him that you started a part time job watching other people's kids.
$30/hr sound reasonable?


PREACH- put some visibility on that invisible labor.


So should I charge my friends when their kids play at my house? Or if I take another kid to a birthday party?
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:57     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Not petty
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:55     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.


No, there's nothing wrong with it. But then don't be a SAHM who gets all bent out of shape when people either ask what you do all day or comment on how SAHMs do nothing.

Likewise, neighbor boy shouldn’t be surprised when she says no.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:54     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.


+1

I feel like you just justified all the people who say that SAHMs whose kids are in school do nothing all day. Well done!

It’s not a contest for who has the least amount of free time people!
Half of you are here whining about how OP is tone deaf for saying she has some free time as you sit here wasting hours on a message board! Then you’re going to pretend you’re “working”.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:52     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.

Oh lord. I likely would have said the same thing after my last little one went to school. There is nothing wrong with it.


No, there's nothing wrong with it. But then don't be a SAHM who gets all bent out of shape when people either ask what you do all day or comment on how SAHMs do nothing.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:51     Subject: Re:Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
You are being petty.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:51     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:What you get for bragging about being a woman of leisure is that people now know you are a woman of leisure.


+1

I feel like you just justified all the people who say that SAHMs whose kids are in school do nothing all day. Well done!
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:47     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not doing someone a favor does not make someone "a lousy person".

+1


That's not the reason people think OP is a lousy person. She's entitled and tone-deaf.

Man you guys are awful. She said she regretted posting it and deleted her account. FFS. Does she now owe it to everyone to do them any favor they ask?


ITS NOT ABOUT THE FAVOR.

What are you so spun about about? Certainly her post wouldn’t bother adults secure in their own choices? Again, it can’t be unsaid.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:45     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:omg he was joking. and a joke like that made you delete your fb? I think you need to get out in the real world and get some adult interaction


Sounds like it was more than just this guy. I suspect that OP got lots of "unkind" comments and that's why she deleted her account.

Most of my friends would choose to take the high road and just not respond, like kind adults. Replying with a rude comment is no better than a tone deaf post.
And also, you’re making stuff up.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:34     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:omg he was joking. and a joke like that made you delete your fb? I think you need to get out in the real world and get some adult interaction


Sounds like it was more than just this guy. I suspect that OP got lots of "unkind" comments and that's why she deleted her account.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:33     Subject: Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
omg he was joking. and a joke like that made you delete your fb? I think you need to get out in the real world and get some adult interaction
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2020 14:30     Subject: Re:Am I being petty or would you feel the same way?
Anonymous wrote:Whenever someone has to ask if they're being petty, the answer is usually yes.


+1