A PP from above. I was just making a remark that sometimes you will be mistaken for the grandma when you wear your hair in close-cropped, salt- n -pepper or gray fashion. So don't get offended -- you do look like grandma. It's your choice. we DON"T care -- we are just observing!

I find men who wear a man-bun incredibly sexy. Glad you don't -- more yummy for me.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not about hiding your age; it's giving a damn about your appearance and not looking like crap. Say all you want about societal expectations but it's a better look not to do the short gray hair. Most of the time the women look like they have been to the barber and not the salon. Also so many times in my area the woman still has a nice figure but the hair. . . why?

So it's OK for men to have short gray hair but not women? God forbid we look our age.

I'm just so over the double standards and I'm not even that old yet. If you don't like my hair, that's your issue, not mine.

You can wear your hair however you like. If you were a guy and wanted to grow your gray hair long and put it up in a man bun - go for it. Just don't expect me to tell you what a great look that is.

I recently saw a picture of a gray haired older (old) lady former neighbor along with "Happy 58th birthday!". I was shocked to see that she was only 4 years older than me - yikes. I really had thought that she was closer in age to my mother.

If gray doesn't go well with your skin tone it really washes you out and ages you. You either need to offset that washed out look with a heavier makeup or you dye your hair a more complimentary color so that you can apply a lighter, more natural looking makeup. Obviously, you can do short gray hair, no makeup and just embrace your natural self completely untouched. Not a choice I would make for myself, but you get to make those kinds of choices for yourself.

Anonymous wrote:It's not about hiding your age; it's giving a damn about your appearance and not looking like crap. Say all you want about societal expectations but it's a better look not to do the short gray hair. Most of the time the women look like they have been to the barber and not the salon. Also so many times in my area the woman still has a nice figure but the hair. . . why?

So it's OK for men to have short gray hair but not women? God forbid we look our age.

I'm just so over the double standards and I'm not even that old yet. If you don't like my hair, that's your issue, not mine.

I know two families that had an oops baby in their 40s. In one case their two daughters were 17 and 19. They had one year to go until both were in college and then they started again! I was friends with one of the sisters and the sisters ended up helping out a lot once they were older. The youngest was a boy and he would come and spend summers with my friend and her husband and their kids. The other sister used to also take him a lot. Since they were out of the house before he was out of diapers this was a way for them to get to know him and to be part of his life. I think he related to them more as aunts than sisters. It also gave the parents a break to travel and do retired things that they wanted to.

The other family had 3 kids who were about 10-15 when the baby arrived. I think this family found it even harder because the older kids were in all kinds of activities and needed to be taken everywhere and then you had a baby to lug around and work around at the same time. Also they had to divide their time. You want a family ski vacation - someone has to stay with the baby. Day trip to a beach - have to work a nap in somewhere. They found it hard. The 3 kids were tiring enough and then adding a baby that was unplanned was exhausting.

Anonymous wrote:It's not about hiding your age; it's giving a damn about your appearance and not looking like crap. Say all you want about societal expectations but it's a better look not to do the short gray hair. Most of the time the women look like they have been to the barber and not the salon. Also so many times in my area the woman still has a nice figure but the hair. . . why?

Keeping up color when you’re fully gray is expensive and time consuming. Hair often thins as you get older, so it can look really scraggly if you try to grow it long. Hair after menopause can get very dry and again, does not look good long.

It's not about hiding your age; it's giving a damn about your appearance and not looking like crap. Say all you want about societal expectations but it's a better look not to do the short gray hair. Most of the time the women look like they have been to the barber and not the salon. Also so many times in my area the woman still has a nice figure but the hair. . . why?

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Anonymous wrote:I work in a high school in Montgomery County. Believe me, I do sometimes do a double take when parents come in for meetings -- sometimes I think it is the grandparents coming in instead of parents. It's just normal here to become a parent in your forties and be 60 when your kid is in high school.

I think the moms would look younger if they did not wear the short, grey hair but that is another discussion.

I'm an old mom and this is so true. And why the need to chop it all off too? Long gray hair looks great if well done particularly since you see it so rarely.

But who cases? I know my age and I like it and I own it. Why am I supposed to pretend to look younger? I'm an older mom with a healthy family. I would have been fine being a young mom too. Life is not one-size-fits-all.

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Anonymous wrote:One guy in my high school graduating class had a baby brother.

It was a little weird for him, especially since another classmate had a child of her own.

Having a baby in your mid 40's isn't unheard of.

I had a guy whose father was already retired

My kid’s mom will be already retired!

^^

My supervisor had long gray hair and it was gorgeous. My hair is curly so will never be down my back but I hope to achieve the flowing gray curls some day. Am in my late 40s now but no one in my family went gray til about 60+ (we are redheads; not sure if that determines things.) I remember when my dad got a few grays at 65ish and we were fascinated. Mom certainly never chopped her pretty blond hair.

Uh oh, we are digressing.

Anonymous wrote:I work in a high school in Montgomery County. Believe me, I do sometimes do a double take when parents come in for meetings -- sometimes I think it is the grandparents coming in instead of parents. It's just normal here to become a parent in your forties and be 60 when your kid is in high school.

I think the moms would look younger if they did not wear the short, grey hair but that is another discussion.

I'm an old mom and this is so true. And why the need to chop it all off too? Long gray hair looks great if well done particularly since you see it so rarely.

I work in a high school in Montgomery County. Believe me, I do sometimes do a double take when parents come in for meetings -- sometimes I think it is the grandparents coming in instead of parents. It's just normal here to become a parent in your forties and be 60 when your kid is in high school.

I think the moms would look younger if they did not wear the short, grey hair but that is another discussion.

I met my husband when I was 37 and he was 50. We had a baby at 38 and 51. He had 3 adult children from his first marriage and a grandchild already. He was the youngest -behaving, most energetic dad in my entire circle. Could run all over the 30s somethings. He truly loves being a dad (and grandad) . He set good examples to stay active as you age.

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Anonymous wrote:One guy in my high school graduating class had a baby brother.

It was a little weird for him, especially since another classmate had a child of her own.

Having a baby in your mid 40's isn't unheard of.

I had a guy whose father was already retired

We had a girl whose dad was retired. We thought she lived with her grandparents.

I am 47 and I have a half-brother who is 22.

Yeah, it's weird. My mom died and dad got remarried to a woman who married him in a last ditch effort to have a kid at 40. Kid was born when dad was 50.

Bright side: my half-bro has kept my dad young. And it was cool for him to have a more active role in raising him - when we were young, dad worked a lot. He had more flexibility and free time when my half-bro was growing up, so they got to spend a lot of time together.

Anonymous wrote:One guy in my high school graduating class had a baby brother.

It was a little weird for him, especially since another classmate had a child of her own.

Having a baby in your mid 40's isn't unheard of.

I had a guy whose father was already retired