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Anonymous wrote:I must be strange. I think the woman's room is all stalls so I don't care what age the child is if a Mom is bring a son into the bathroom. It is not like we are going to the bathroom with open doors. The child is not going to be watching me do my business. My 7 year old won't go in the woman's room and he is able to go to the bathroom in the men's room solo so I let him. We do have an occasional reminder of what to do if he is uncomfortable or worried about someones behavior.

We do use the family restroom in situations that I am not comfortable, like a bathroom with multiple exits.

Most bathrooms that I've been in, the stall doors do not completely cover the entrance of the stall. There is a wide space on either side of the door, and it's definitely possible to see someone on the other side if you are intently looking.

And so what if a 4 year old boy sees you peeing?! Or a 6 year old boy?

Do you expose yourself in front of males you don't know?
I certainly don't want to.

I say this with complete sincerity: if you consider a four or six year old boy as being a “male” then you need therapy. And as a mom of four and six year old boys, I promise they’re not interested in your body or your bathroom habits.

If you truly think that all four and six year old boys are "female", I think you are the one in need of therapy.

Stop being obtuse. The PP was using the word "male" as a way to sexualize them, grouping them in with all the 'other males' like horny teenage boys and disgusting old perverted men who want to leer at her. It's sick to put little kids into that category.

And to answer the PP who asked what I call them, the answer is that they're "little kids" and they're in a category all on their own together with the little girls and the babies who have zero interest in your genitalia.

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Anonymous wrote:Dads of daughters have the tougher call because they may not want to have their daughters see men at a urinal. If I were someplace super sketchy like a highway rest stop with no family restroom, I'd be pretty understanding if a dad was waiting outside a stall when I came in and politely explained that his daughter was using the restroom.

The level of paranoia re: men’s bathrooms is unbelievable!! The only thing you can see when a guy is using a urinal is his fully clothed back. What do you think men do in there?!

I wouldn’t judge a dad for taking his daughter in with him in a males restroom if he needed to, either. It would be great if there were more family restrooms but that’s just not the norm everywhere.

But yes, I’ve wandered into a men’s room accidentally before (it happens!) and saw more than just the man’s backside when I did so.

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Anonymous wrote:He still sits to potty.

Three pages of comments, and no one mentions this?

My boys never pee’d sitting down. What do you mean, he “still” sits to potty? Stand him up!

In my world, men only stand to pee if it is a urinal situation. Barring having to pee in a urinal, they sit. Who wants boys spraying down their bathroom with piss?

This is complete horseshit. I do not know any man who sits to pee.

You can spot the total BS with the part about “having to pee in a urinal” which is not a real situation. Anywhere there is a urinal there is also a toilet so if men preferred sitting down then urinals would not exist in the first place.

Cleaner to use a urinal when out (who would prefer to touch a public toilet?), much cleaner to sit at home, a toilet you may have to clean.

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Anonymous wrote:I must be strange. I think the woman's room is all stalls so I don't care what age the child is if a Mom is bring a son into the bathroom. It is not like we are going to the bathroom with open doors. The child is not going to be watching me do my business. My 7 year old won't go in the woman's room and he is able to go to the bathroom in the men's room solo so I let him. We do have an occasional reminder of what to do if he is uncomfortable or worried about someones behavior.

We do use the family restroom in situations that I am not comfortable, like a bathroom with multiple exits.

Most bathrooms that I've been in, the stall doors do not completely cover the entrance of the stall. There is a wide space on either side of the door, and it's definitely possible to see someone on the other side if you are intently looking.

And so what if a 4 year old boy sees you peeing?! Or a 6 year old boy?

Do you expose yourself in front of males you don't know?
I certainly don't want to.

I say this with complete sincerity: if you consider a four or six year old boy as being a “male” then you need therapy. And as a mom of four and six year old boys, I promise they’re not interested in your body or your bathroom habits.

If you truly think that all four and six year old boys are "female", I think you are the one in need of therapy.

Op ~ you stop when you are comfortable

that's it, that's all

Few would criticize, but do expect you to know your own mind

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Anonymous wrote:I would also like to point out to all the nosy Nellies that sometimes you can't be sure the gender of the child. My 8-year old daughter has short hair and is often called a boy. I see her get looks when we go into the bathroom. MYOB everyone!

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Yep. My ds has long hair and is assumed to be a girl by waiters.

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Anonymous wrote:He still sits to potty.

Three pages of comments, and no one mentions this?

My boys never pee’d sitting down. What do you mean, he “still” sits to potty? Stand him up!

In my world, men only stand to pee if it is a urinal situation. Barring having to pee in a urinal, they sit. Who wants boys spraying down their bathroom with piss?

This is complete horseshit. I do not know any man who sits to pee.

My husband does when he is at home.

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Anonymous wrote:He still sits to potty.

Three pages of comments, and no one mentions this?

My boys never pee’d sitting down. What do you mean, he “still” sits to potty? Stand him up!

In my world, men only stand to pee if it is a urinal situation. Barring having to pee in a urinal, they sit. Who wants boys spraying down their bathroom with piss?

This is complete horseshit. I do not know any man who sits to pee.

You can spot the total BS with the part about “having to pee in a urinal” which is not a real situation. Anywhere there is a urinal there is also a toilet so if men preferred sitting down then urinals would not exist in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:I would also like to point out to all the nosy Nellies that sometimes you can't be sure the gender of the child. My 8-year old daughter has short hair and is often called a boy. I see her get looks when we go into the bathroom. MYOB everyone!

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I must be strange. I think the woman's room is all stalls so I don't care what age the child is if a Mom is bring a son into the bathroom. It is not like we are going to the bathroom with open doors. The child is not going to be watching me do my business. My 7 year old won't go in the woman's room and he is able to go to the bathroom in the men's room solo so I let him. We do have an occasional reminder of what to do if he is uncomfortable or worried about someones behavior.

We do use the family restroom in situations that I am not comfortable, like a bathroom with multiple exits.

Most bathrooms that I've been in, the stall doors do not completely cover the entrance of the stall. There is a wide space on either side of the door, and it's definitely possible to see someone on the other side if you are intently looking.

And so what if a 4 year old boy sees you peeing?! Or a 6 year old boy?

Do you expose yourself in front of males you don't know?
I certainly don't want to.

I say this with complete sincerity: if you consider a four or six year old boy as being a “male” then you need therapy. And as a mom of four and six year old boys, I promise they’re not interested in your body or your bathroom habits.

What sex do you consider your boys to be if not male? On forms that ask for sex - you don't tick male?

this is really ten pages? sheesh.

8 years old (third grade)

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He still sits to potty.

Three pages of comments, and no one mentions this?

My boys never pee’d sitting down. What do you mean, he “still” sits to potty? Stand him up!

In my world, men only stand to pee if it is a urinal situation. Barring having to pee in a urinal, they sit. Who wants boys spraying down their bathroom with piss?

This is complete horseshit. I do not know any man who sits to pee.

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Anonymous wrote:I must be strange. I think the woman's room is all stalls so I don't care what age the child is if a Mom is bring a son into the bathroom. It is not like we are going to the bathroom with open doors. The child is not going to be watching me do my business. My 7 year old won't go in the woman's room and he is able to go to the bathroom in the men's room solo so I let him. We do have an occasional reminder of what to do if he is uncomfortable or worried about someones behavior.

We do use the family restroom in situations that I am not comfortable, like a bathroom with multiple exits.

Most bathrooms that I've been in, the stall doors do not completely cover the entrance of the stall. There is a wide space on either side of the door, and it's definitely possible to see someone on the other side if you are intently looking.

And so what if a 4 year old boy sees you peeing?! Or a 6 year old boy?

Do you expose yourself in front of males you don't know?
I certainly don't want to.

I say this with complete sincerity: if you consider a four or six year old boy as being a “male” then you need therapy. And as a mom of four and six year old boys, I promise they’re not interested in your body or your bathroom habits.

Anonymous wrote:Dads of daughters have the tougher call because they may not want to have their daughters see men at a urinal. If I were someplace super sketchy like a highway rest stop with no family restroom, I'd be pretty understanding if a dad was waiting outside a stall when I came in and politely explained that his daughter was using the restroom.

The level of paranoia re: men’s bathrooms is unbelievable!! The only thing you can see when a guy is using a urinal is his fully clothed back. What do you think men do in there?!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I must be strange. I think the woman's room is all stalls so I don't care what age the child is if a Mom is bring a son into the bathroom. It is not like we are going to the bathroom with open doors. The child is not going to be watching me do my business. My 7 year old won't go in the woman's room and he is able to go to the bathroom in the men's room solo so I let him. We do have an occasional reminder of what to do if he is uncomfortable or worried about someones behavior.

We do use the family restroom in situations that I am not comfortable, like a bathroom with multiple exits.

Most bathrooms that I've been in, the stall doors do not completely cover the entrance of the stall. There is a wide space on either side of the door, and it's definitely possible to see someone on the other side if you are intently looking.

And so what if a 4 year old boy sees you peeing?! Or a 6 year old boy?

Do you expose yourself in front of males you don't know?
I certainly don't want to.