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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not sure why you all think I made the point in front of everyone. He was the only one there when I said it. I'm frustrated, but I'm not an a$$hole hellbent on embarrassing the kid. Wow.

LOL. When. A. Homewrecking. Stranger. Tries. To. Scold. An. Adult.

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Why is she a home wrecker? I guess I missed the part where she had a torrid affair with current DH and lured him from his then wife
Honestly, some of you are too much. There’s nothing to indicate this wasn’t a happy family unit before this outburst. Maybe the first wife left the father. You’re all projecting.

So stop buying him gifts. Also being resentful that his gf, who is a guest, doesn't jump on kitchen duty. So so tired of any female in attendance at a holiday meal like be expected to also work the kitchen while the men, whether guest or family, relax and watch other men throw a ball up and down.

I didn’t read all of the responses but OP don’t you think it’s a little on your that you didn’t raise a child that realizes he needs to reciprocate? You should have been setting this example for years and coaching him to do this. He sounds selfish.

OP here. My MIL is fantastic and it would take more than me saying "I'm bummed he never reciprocates on Christmas" to ruin her day. Moving forward I know this is just how he is, and that's that. I agree, maybe I did ambush the kid - but it honestly wasn't in a mean spirited way, however, I can see how it looks that way. I was truly hoping this time he may have brought something. He was fine and spent the rest of the day laughing, enjoying his gifts and joking around. We didn't freeze one another out all day. I had conversations with him and the girlfriend that were nice and amicable.

Anonymous wrote:This is why I love DCUM. Lots of threads of people complaining about the gifts they did receive (stop giving food - stop with gift cards etc etc ) then threads complaining about the unequal gift giving and now we have lots of outrage because someone doesn't give a gift.

I love reading this forum - it is really like a reality show but without having to turn on the TV!!

Seriously where’s the cat with salad meme lol

Come on OP tells us how old you are .

OMG she did this at the grandparents house.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not sure why you all think I made the point in front of everyone. He was the only one there when I said it. I'm frustrated, but I'm not an a$$hole hellbent on embarrassing the kid. Wow.

LOL. When. A. Homewrecking. Stranger. Tries. To. Scold. An. Adult.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm not sure why you all think I made the point in front of everyone. He was the only one there when I said it. I'm frustrated, but I'm not an a$$hole hellbent on embarrassing the kid. Wow.

It doesn’t matter if it was in front of people or not it’s rude do you have no manners. You’re not his mother, learn your place. Then you admitted to going to his grandparents and complaining about him. WTF is wrong with you. Seriously, what is wrong with you? Were you an only child. Do you have severe anxiety’s? Are you OCD

Anonymous wrote:LOL when a homewrecking stranger tries to act like family.

This is probably what’s really going on. You nailed it.

I can't get over that stepmom believes its in her right to dictate how stepson needs to behave in HIS OWN grandparents' house.

I am the type of person who always brings a hostess gift but if I'm going to my own parents or grandparents' homes, I don't worry about it. Those are the places anyone should feel the most comfortable regardless of if they're 5 or 55 and no one should have formalities or worries about breaking "rules" around things like gifts with their own family.

If the grandparents and father actually cared about the stepson's lack of gift-giving, they would have stopped giving him things long ago. But they don't OP, because they love their child/grandchild unconditionally and that means not requiring the condition of a reciprocal gift.

OP here. I'm not sure why you all think I made the point in front of everyone. He was the only one there when I said it. I'm frustrated, but I'm not an a$$hole hellbent on embarrassing the kid. Wow.

Gift from son. Not sin. Loll

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Anonymous wrote:As step-mom, it’s not your place to say anything, especially if you never provided him parental care as a child. MYOB.

B.S. If someone came up to her DH in a store and intentionally hit him with a cart, should she stand off to the side and say nothing? If someone hurts someone I love, I got their back. Watching this selfish guy treat his father, sister and grandparents with disdain is hurtful.

What whackastepdoodle nonsense is this? Hit DH with a shopping cart? Lol. Didnt you marry an adult who can decide how he feels about lack of gift from sin. Perhaps son’s presence was his present? As a Mom I’m just happy to be sharing time with my beloved kids.

LOL when a homewrecking stranger tries to act like family.