Anonymous
12/02/2019 15:39
Subject: What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, security, stability, family, home... I feel so sorry for you
This seems like it was written by a woman. Reads like a woman's marriage wishlist.
There are a lot of unhappy marriages out there for which none, if any, of these apply anyway.
Enjoy dying alone
Nice scare tactic ya got there...
Truth! Most men on their death bed recount how the greatest moments and meaning in their lives came from shagging a long string of women through their middle and later years.
OMG who are you and what has happened to you that this is the kind of stuff you post.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 15:28
Subject: What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Single men die 7 to 18 years earlier than their married male counterparts do.
Men don’t marry in order to live longer.
No, but it's a well documented happy side effect.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 15:27
Subject: What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Uh, security, stability, family, home... I feel so sorry for you
This seems like it was written by a woman. Reads like a woman's marriage wishlist.
There are a lot of unhappy marriages out there for which none, if any, of these apply anyway.
Enjoy dying alone
Nice scare tactic ya got there...
Truth! Most men on their death bed recount how the greatest moments and meaning in their lives came from shagging a long string of women through their middle and later years.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 15:18
Subject: Re:What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.
Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.
Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.
The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.
I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.
Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?
Easily half the men can’t handle kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently without their Mom’s or a wife. Thus when they get divorced, dumped, or widowed they quickly get attached again. Problem is, they usually get dumped once the woman realize he has nothing to add to the picture and cannot be counted in to take care if anything.
I'm a divorced guy. I don't need anyone to handle "kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently". Seriously, WTF is that? What guy doesn't know how to do that after he graduates from college and gets a job? I don't know any guys who have a woman doing that for them. My wife sure didn't do all that for me when I was married to her, so I'm certainly not looking for someone to replace the "caretaking" that wasn't even happening.
I'm scratching my head at this idea of a woman who marries a guy who "adds nothing to the picture" but somehow doesn't figure out that he "adds nothing to the picture" until after she's actually married him. Why was she so clueless?
You really don’t know any of these workaholic do-nothing husbands/fathers? We know about a dozen, just try having a non work or non-news conversation with them, they can’t. Half of them have personality disorders and mental disorders/ ADD at a minimum.
No, I really do not know any of these do-nothing men, but it doesn't speak well of the competence and judgment of your female friends if they married such losers.
Maybe you have your head in the sand. Family life and raising kids is more than a paycheck, goof around time, and story bedtime.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 14:51
Subject: Re:What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:I especially agree with the drama comment. I hear what the men want in a woman after divorce here on DCUM and it just seems like too much drama. I mean let them go find what they want, be it younger woman or someone who weighs less than 120 lbs. etc., All of those requirements sound like someone who is high maintenance. Why do it?
Geez, the nerve of these guys wanting a woman who gives him sex and affection. So high maintenance! Why isn't he satisfied with a bitchy nagging housemate who regards his desire for sex as an annoying nuisance?
Why so defensive? Just go for a younger woman and be happy. Why does it bother you that divorced women don't want to remarry if they are financially independent?
Anonymous
12/02/2019 14:43
Subject: What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Unhealthy men aren't as desirable, so they don't get married as often.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 14:38
Subject: What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:Single men die 7 to 18 years earlier than their married male counterparts do.
Men don’t marry in order to live longer.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 13:43
Subject: Re:What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
I especially agree with the drama comment. I hear what the men want in a woman after divorce here on DCUM and it just seems like too much drama. I mean let them go find what they want, be it younger woman or someone who weighs less than 120 lbs. etc., All of those requirements sound like someone who is high maintenance. Why do it?
Geez, the nerve of these guys wanting a woman who gives him sex and affection. So high maintenance! Why isn't he satisfied with a bitchy nagging housemate who regards his desire for sex as an annoying nuisance?
Anonymous
12/02/2019 13:41
Subject: Re:What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:When we were dating my husband cooked for me and doted on me. Whiplash at how that changed. He hasn’t made himself something more elaborate than toast in years, much less made me his signature risotto.
^ She probably hasn't noticed that his desire to do special things for her dried up in direct correlation with her denying him sex and affection.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 13:39
Subject: Re:What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.
Total bullshit. Single men "take care of themselves" just fine.
Men get married because they want sex and affection. Tragically this usually dries up after a few years when the woman gets bored and knows that now she's got him hooked, she doesn't have to provide sex and there's nothing he can do about it unless he wants to give her half his shit.
The difference in remarriage rate is due to the difference in attractiveness. Older men remain attractive, so they can get remarried. Older women, not so much.
I think for women with enough income to support themselves comfortably, they may not see value in getting married again.
Women end up doing more of the home work anyway and now you have to adjust to another person’s preferences and whims again. What’s the point?
Easily half the men can’t handle kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently without their Mom’s or a wife. Thus when they get divorced, dumped, or widowed they quickly get attached again. Problem is, they usually get dumped once the woman realize he has nothing to add to the picture and cannot be counted in to take care if anything.
I'm a divorced guy. I don't need anyone to handle "kids, a home, a schedule, eating decently". Seriously, WTF is that? What guy doesn't know how to do that after he graduates from college and gets a job? I don't know any guys who have a woman doing that for them. My wife sure didn't do all that for me when I was married to her, so I'm certainly not looking for someone to replace the "caretaking" that wasn't even happening.
I'm scratching my head at this idea of a woman who marries a guy who "adds nothing to the picture" but somehow doesn't figure out that he "adds nothing to the picture" until after she's actually married him. Why was she so clueless?
You really don’t know any of these workaholic do-nothing husbands/fathers? We know about a dozen, just try having a non work or non-news conversation with them, they can’t. Half of them have personality disorders and mental disorders/ ADD at a minimum.
No, I really do not know any of these do-nothing men, but it doesn't speak well of the competence and judgment of your female friends if they married such losers.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 13:36
Subject: Re:What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.
Men want the security of sex and yes someone who will take care of them. Even if the wife works 90% are still man babies. Most women marry to have a family, a income, and security. If the husband dies and the woman is well off financially they seldom want to remarry. If they need that extra income that's usually the #1 motivator.
LOL, marriage doesn't give you that. It's much, much easier to get sex if you're a single man. And it's better sex.
But yes I agree that women are greedy grasping parasites.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 13:34
Subject: What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:Single men die 7 to 18 years earlier than their married male counterparts do.
Good God, why is it so hard to understand that marriage did not necessarily cause this extension of life?
Correlation, not causation, for the thousandth time.
So no, this is not a benefit to men of getting married.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 13:28
Subject: Re:What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Anonymous wrote:Men need marriage more than women do. Women do it so they can have kids. Men do it so someone will take care of them. When a husband dies, a woman usually takes her time to get remarried, if at all. When a woman dies, the man usually starts dating and remarries quickly.
Men want the security of sex and yes someone who will take care of them. Even if the wife works 90% are still man babies. Most women marry to have a family, a income, and security. If the husband dies and the woman is well off financially they seldom want to remarry. If they need that extra income that's usually the #1 motivator.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 13:16
Subject: What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Sorry, I meant 8 to 17 years.
For women, it's 7 to 15 years earlier for single vs married.
For women, it's 7 to 15 years earlier for single vs married.
Anonymous
12/02/2019 13:15
Subject: What’s the benefit of a long term relationship for men?
Single men die 7 to 18 years earlier than their married male counterparts do.