Anonymous
07/17/2019 16:20
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:47 was spanked. Most parents still spank (NWDC). Spanking is is abusive and sh*tty parenting. 50 years of research supports my opinion too.
It worked for my parents, DH's parents and its working for us.
Cool. There's a difference between anecdotes and data, though.
Anonymous
07/17/2019 16:19
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:36 - yes I was spanked.
Spanking is easy and effective. You spank, then its done. You move on with life and you don't let it ruin everone's day.
The parents who have to constantly resort to yelling need to take a moment to reflect if the verbal assault is really better than a quick smack on the bottom.
what sort of spanking are you doing that is easy and effective? is this an in the moment swat?
Well the last time I had to spank was over a year ago (DD was 3). She wasn't getting something she wanted (5 more minutes of play time) and lost her temper and hit me. I immediately turned her around and gave her a quick smack on the bottom and told her we do not hit people. (Yes, I know people do not believe in punishing hitting by "hitting" but I don't view spanking as hitting). She cried for about a minute and then hugged me and said sorry. That was that.
Guess what? She hasn't hit since.
So you hit your kid because she pissed you off when she hit you, and you told her no hitting. Ever consider maybe the lesson she took from that is that her mom is a bully? I dont for one second believe that this stops at one snack on the bottom. My parents would probably say they disciplined in the same way. The welts and bruises on my behind and legs just appeared there
Anonymous
07/16/2019 18:09
Subject: Re:Were you spanked as child?
Why pretty it up and call it "spanking"?
It's hitting.
It's hitting.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 17:16
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
Anonymous wrote:It's a matter of preference and your own values, not "knowing better." There's nothing to know. Research on this is weak, at best, and does not distinguish between causation and correlation, nor does it even attempt to consider greater context, or what actually constitutes a "spanking."
Yeah, there's a difference between beating and spanking. A lot of posters here were flat-out beaten. And spanking with pants down is pretty bad too, in my opinion.
I don't oppose spanking on principle but I can't really picture doing it to my kids. It would have to be for something truly dangerous like running out into traffic.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 17:10
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
It's a matter of preference and your own values, not "knowing better." There's nothing to know. Research on this is weak, at best, and does not distinguish between causation and correlation, nor does it even attempt to consider greater context, or what actually constitutes a "spanking."
Anonymous
07/16/2019 16:14
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
Anonymous wrote:47 was spanked. Most parents still spank (NWDC). Spanking is is abusive and sh*tty parenting. 50 years of research supports my opinion too.
It worked for my parents, DH's parents and its working for us.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 16:14
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
I'm 48. Yes, maybe a few times a year. Only swats with the hand on a clothed butt. It stopped when I was in 4th or 5th grade. I don't think it's good parenting by any means, but I don't resent my parents for it. It was the 70s, they didn't know better. now, a parent who spanks in this day and age when we KNOW that it's not good for kids? Not cool.
(My kids are 16, 13, and 10, and no, I have never used any sort of physical discipline).
(My kids are 16, 13, and 10, and no, I have never used any sort of physical discipline).
Anonymous
07/16/2019 15:49
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
Yes but not many times. 47.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 15:31
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
47 was spanked. Most parents still spank (NWDC). Spanking is is abusive and sh*tty parenting. 50 years of research supports my opinion too.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 14:48
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:36 - yes I was spanked.
Spanking is easy and effective. You spank, then its done. You move on with life and you don't let it ruin everone's day.
The parents who have to constantly resort to yelling need to take a moment to reflect if the verbal assault is really better than a quick smack on the bottom.
what sort of spanking are you doing that is easy and effective? is this an in the moment swat?
Well the last time I had to spank was over a year ago (DD was 3). She wasn't getting something she wanted (5 more minutes of play time) and lost her temper and hit me. I immediately turned her around and gave her a quick smack on the bottom and told her we do not hit people. (Yes, I know people do not believe in punishing hitting by "hitting" but I don't view spanking as hitting). She cried for about a minute and then hugged me and said sorry. That was that.
Guess what? She hasn't hit since.
I'm with you. Not criticizing. Is that your standard process then? You're in the moment of the offense, you turn them around and do one quick swat on the bottom?
Yes, absolutely. I do not believe in dragging out punishment. Childhood is too short for that.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 14:43
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:36 - yes I was spanked.
Spanking is easy and effective. You spank, then its done. You move on with life and you don't let it ruin everone's day.
The parents who have to constantly resort to yelling need to take a moment to reflect if the verbal assault is really better than a quick smack on the bottom.
what sort of spanking are you doing that is easy and effective? is this an in the moment swat?
Well the last time I had to spank was over a year ago (DD was 3). She wasn't getting something she wanted (5 more minutes of play time) and lost her temper and hit me. I immediately turned her around and gave her a quick smack on the bottom and told her we do not hit people. (Yes, I know people do not believe in punishing hitting by "hitting" but I don't view spanking as hitting). She cried for about a minute and then hugged me and said sorry. That was that.
Guess what? She hasn't hit since.
I'm with you. Not criticizing. Is that your standard process then? You're in the moment of the offense, you turn them around and do one quick swat on the bottom?
Anonymous
07/16/2019 14:41
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:36 - yes I was spanked.
Spanking is easy and effective. You spank, then its done. You move on with life and you don't let it ruin everone's day.
The parents who have to constantly resort to yelling need to take a moment to reflect if the verbal assault is really better than a quick smack on the bottom.
what sort of spanking are you doing that is easy and effective? is this an in the moment swat?
Well the last time I had to spank was over a year ago (DD was 3). She wasn't getting something she wanted (5 more minutes of play time) and lost her temper and hit me. I immediately turned her around and gave her a quick smack on the bottom and told her we do not hit people. (Yes, I know people do not believe in punishing hitting by "hitting" but I don't view spanking as hitting). She cried for about a minute and then hugged me and said sorry. That was that.
Guess what? She hasn't hit since.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 14:32
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
Anonymous wrote:36 - yes I was spanked.
Spanking is easy and effective. You spank, then its done. You move on with life and you don't let it ruin everone's day.
The parents who have to constantly resort to yelling need to take a moment to reflect if the verbal assault is really better than a quick smack on the bottom.
what sort of spanking are you doing that is easy and effective? is this an in the moment swat?
Anonymous
07/16/2019 14:13
Subject: Were you spanked as child?
36 - yes I was spanked.
Spanking is easy and effective. You spank, then its done. You move on with life and you don't let it ruin everone's day.
The parents who have to constantly resort to yelling need to take a moment to reflect if the verbal assault is really better than a quick smack on the bottom.
Spanking is easy and effective. You spank, then its done. You move on with life and you don't let it ruin everone's day.
The parents who have to constantly resort to yelling need to take a moment to reflect if the verbal assault is really better than a quick smack on the bottom.
Anonymous
07/16/2019 14:13
Subject: Re:Were you spanked as child?
Yes and though I am 38 now it is still very fresh in my memory. I just cannot forgive all the teachers at my all girls school who saw the marks on my skin and never did/say anything. Only when I had a black eye at 16 did someone finally step in.