When the wife is shopping at Tysons Corner Center, I usually sit at the food court or on a bench and look at the young women in their skimpy outfits--especially the cut-offs that show their butt cheeks. Is that wrong? Do you think they notice me?

Anonymous wrote:Even Ray Charles noticed (and slept with) many beautiful women. 12 kids by 10 women, married only twice.

If blind-as-a-bat Ray can notice and bed tons of ladies, then your straight husband likely notices attractive women everyday. It means he has a pulse.

LOL are you serious? Ray did not "notice" those women. They threw themselves at him. Unless your DH is a rock star, that is not happening to him.

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Anonymous wrote:Even Ray Charles noticed (and slept with) many beautiful women. 12 kids by 10 women, married only twice.

If blind-as-a-bat Ray can notice and bed tons of ladies, then your straight husband likely notices attractive women everyday. It means he has a pulse.

This. You win the thread. Jeff can lock it now.

why would he? he penned about 1/4 of all the posts

Anonymous wrote:Even Ray Charles noticed (and slept with) many beautiful women. 12 kids by 10 women, married only twice.

If blind-as-a-bat Ray can notice and bed tons of ladies, then your straight husband likely notices attractive women everyday. It means he has a pulse.

This. You win the thread. Jeff can lock it now.

Anonymous wrote:Eyes, OP. Functioning eyesight makes this happen.

But why do couples need to "discuss" people one of them finds attractive? Just look discreetly and be done with it. Sheesh. If someone I'm out with thinks he needs to "discuss" some other woman's cup size, that's when I'm getting concerned that there's more to it than merely noticing pretty things, which everyone does.

It's fun to discuss people. It's part of people watching. Also, while what I find attractive is pretty obvious to her, although she gets it wrong some times, I'm usually surprised at what kind of man she finds attractive, and who she doesn't think is hot. Much harder to guess for me. So it's fun talk about.

Eyes, OP. Functioning eyesight makes this happen.

But why do couples need to "discuss" people one of them finds attractive? Just look discreetly and be done with it. Sheesh. If someone I'm out with thinks he needs to "discuss" some other woman's cup size, that's when I'm getting concerned that there's more to it than merely noticing pretty things, which everyone does.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t like it if my husband checks out a 17 year old in a bikini at our local pool but if she’s 37 no problem because that 37 year old in a bikini is me. Other than that he can look but not touch but so can I.

DH here I abide by this type of looking did I notice the 20 something bikini babe go by with the perfect boobs? yea but not really even if she was truly hot I mean if your 23 you should look hot right? The 45 YO that had the wind blow her hair just right and the curve of her back right above tht a$$ even if it had some flaws I'm looking 4/5 times. My wife is a 47 YO tht most men would call a 10 in the face and bod btw.

Even Ray Charles noticed (and slept with) many beautiful women. 12 kids by 10 women, married only twice.

If blind-as-a-bat Ray can notice and bed tons of ladies, then your straight husband likely notices attractive women everyday. It means he has a pulse.

Testosterone

and eyesight!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen this happen before. If he’s such a great husband with a loving wife, what makes him stare at other women?

Thoughts?

1. Low cut tops
2. Big boobs
3. Great butt
4. Legs for days
.... Could likely get to 100 if I tried.

Keep going...

5. DSL
6. F*ck me eyes
7. Beautiful outline of pelvic region
8. Long hair
9. Camel toe
10. Thigh gap
..... I need to, um, go take care of something now

I look, he looks, what’s the problem? We’ve been together so long and still have so much fun together that I don’t see any risk.

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Anonymous wrote:Totally cool: Checking her out discreetly with my wife, and commenting to each other after she passes. Or her pointing one out that I missed based on my tastes that she knows so well.

You've got to get mommy's permission and approval before you notice another woman. That's some really weak sh1t right there.

Your reading comprehension really sucks. How did you get that from what I wrote?

It is very tempting to give a sarcastic answer, but let me recommend a book: "Sex at Dawn". There are dozens of books on sex and marriage, but this one is one of the rare ones that has some real science behind it:

https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships-ebook/dp/B007679QTG

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Anonymous wrote:There was a thread months ago about men “mentally undressing women” and probably 99% of men said they donthis multiple times a day looking at women they don’t know. It’s normal. A
Decent man knows how to control
His actions.

99% of people look better with their clothes on than off.

Not sure who you have seen naked, but this is just untrue. I've encountered many more pleasant surprises than disappointments. Woman of all shapes and sizes can look great naked.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen this happen before. If he’s such a great husband with a loving wife, what makes him stare at other women?

Thoughts?

1. Low cut tops
2. Big boobs
3. Great butt
4. Legs for days
.... Could likely get to 100 if I tried.

Keep going...