Anonymous wrote:Big rings always make me feel like she’s been bought. It’s like real estate on a finger. Some people are into that but call it something else, not loving commitment.

Lol. In the working world big rings make me think, “she’s here because she is good at what she does and wants to be hereand won’t be putting up with any BS.

Anonymous wrote:The ring you’re thinking of sounds nice OP. Congrats on your pending engagement.

+1 congrats on the pending engagement and happy you figured out a way to get her thoughts about the cost.

Big rings always make me feel like she’s been bought. It’s like real estate on a finger. Some people are into that but call it something else, not loving commitment.

I will be honest, I am a pretty simple woman. I do not even have pierced ears nor do I own any jewelry. I am very low maintenance. However, I had always had very specific notions about THE RING, my engagement ring.

I knew I was not going to need or want other fancy jewelry in my life but I wanted the ring my husband would propose to me with to be very special. 1.5 - 1.8 carats. Round brilliant with a pave band.

I wanted it to be simple so the focus would be on the large perfect diamond on my dainty fingers.

My husband thought engagement rings were unnecessary and wanted to get me a less than a carat ring from James Allen.

When I found out, I was crushed and almost did not want to marry him. How little did he know me and how little did he care how important this one item was to me?

I did tell him how I felt and he finally got me a poor quality 1 carat with a halo.

I dislike it. But I wear it every day. I love him and married him because I am not materialistic. But boy how he would've rocked my socks off if he had put a little bit of thought into my ring.


Please don't do this to your wife.

You can get a very high quality 2.5 asscher diamond for under $20K

I can get a slightly used car for under $20K. I can pay for a medical bill that insurance doesn’t cover for $20K. I can repair the house for $20K.

(Sorry for the double post, I didn’t see that the first one went through)

The ring you describe, a 1.5-2 round sounds nice OP. Don’t forget the other Cs - a bear colorless with excellent cut and clarity make a stone gleam that much more. Congrats on your pending engagement

The ring you’re thinking of sounds nice OP. Congrats on your pending engagement.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think this thread has gotten way out of hand. My girlfriend never demanded a certain size ring or price tag. She looked at a magazine and said she liked asscher style ring with one of her friends. That was it. I realized they were pricey after looking it up. I talked with her last night and casually slipped in a
“ friend” just bought his girlfriend a 2-3 $30k ring. She said that price and carat was inane, and would never expect me to spend that on a ring. I told her that the diamond cut she likes is very expensive and we looked at other options. She said a nice round diamond for $1.5-2 carats was really nice. I think I’ve decided on a 1.5 round diamond with a pave band.

She’s lying.

Probably. She has to keep up with snooty conspicuous consumption Joneses in their “circle.”

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think this thread has gotten way out of hand. My girlfriend never demanded a certain size ring or price tag. She looked at a magazine and said she liked asscher style ring with one of her friends. That was it. I realized they were pricey after looking it up. I talked with her last night and casually slipped in a
“ friend” just bought his girlfriend a 2-3 $30k ring. She said that price and carat was inane, and would never expect me to spend that on a ring. I told her that the diamond cut she likes is very expensive and we looked at other options. She said a nice round diamond for $1.5-2 carats was really nice. I think I’ve decided on a 1.5 round diamond with a pave band.

That's still $13K-15K for a good quality stone + pave platinum band.

Op said he was fine with $10-20k.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think this thread has gotten way out of hand. My girlfriend never demanded a certain size ring or price tag. She looked at a magazine and said she liked asscher style ring with one of her friends. That was it. I realized they were pricey after looking it up. I talked with her last night and casually slipped in a
“ friend” just bought his girlfriend a 2-3 $30k ring. She said that price and carat was inane, and would never expect me to spend that on a ring. I told her that the diamond cut she likes is very expensive and we looked at other options. She said a nice round diamond for $1.5-2 carats was really nice. I think I’ve decided on a 1.5 round diamond with a pave band.

That's still $13K-15K for a good quality stone + pave platinum band.

$13-15k is a good price. Stop being cheap.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think this thread has gotten way out of hand. My girlfriend never demanded a certain size ring or price tag. She looked at a magazine and said she liked asscher style ring with one of her friends. That was it. I realized they were pricey after looking it up. I talked with her last night and casually slipped in a
“ friend” just bought his girlfriend a 2-3 $30k ring. She said that price and carat was inane, and would never expect me to spend that on a ring. I told her that the diamond cut she likes is very expensive and we looked at other options. She said a nice round diamond for $1.5-2 carats was really nice. I think I’ve decided on a 1.5 round diamond with a pave band.

That's still $13K-15K for a good quality stone + pave platinum band.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think this thread has gotten way out of hand. My girlfriend never demanded a certain size ring or price tag. She looked at a magazine and said she liked asscher style ring with one of her friends. That was it. I realized they were pricey after looking it up. I talked with her last night and casually slipped in a
“ friend” just bought his girlfriend a 2-3 $30k ring. She said that price and carat was inane, and would never expect me to spend that on a ring. I told her that the diamond cut she likes is very expensive and we looked at other options. She said a nice round diamond for $1.5-2 carats was really nice. I think I’ve decided on a 1.5 round diamond with a pave band.

She’s lying.

OP here. I think this thread has gotten way out of hand. My girlfriend never demanded a certain size ring or price tag. She looked at a magazine and said she liked asscher style ring with one of her friends. That was it. I realized they were pricey after looking it up. I talked with her last night and casually slipped in a
“ friend” just bought his girlfriend a 2-3 $30k ring. She said that price and carat was inane, and would never expect me to spend that on a ring. I told her that the diamond cut she likes is very expensive and we looked at other options. She said a nice round diamond for $1.5-2 carats was really nice. I think I’ve decided on a 1.5 round diamond with a pave band.

You can get a very high quality 2.5 asscher diamond for under $20K and then just build a ring with a plain band. I used a website like Excel diamonds in NYC and it's much cheaper than going to a jewelry store. However I agree with your income I would not get a "small" ring. She would be happy with a 2 carat in my opinion.