Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 19:07     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:I would accidentally donate the chair to salvation army, and when MIL mentions it, go 'oops!'


+1 lol. The chair? We donated it. Great chair but we want to get her one with her name on it.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 18:56     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you ever called MIL on it? What does she say?


OP here. She pretends that she forgot and then says, " it's just so much prettier... [her way]. When DH told her that DD's name was spelled wrong on the chair, she smiled and said, " oops!"


Just thank her for the present and put it in the basement. When MIL asks about where the chair is, tell her the name was spelled wrong so you put it away, however, it was such a thoughtful gift, you couldn't bear to throw it out. Last time she will pull shit like that.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 15:27     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.


You all need bigger problems in life and a Xanax. Creating friction in relationships over the spelling of a nickname just seems so immature and bizarre to me.


It is bizarre and immature, that is why people don't understand why granny is doing it.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 15:15     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
This thread is entertaining.

I don't get the hysteria over the spelling of a name.

I used about 6 different spellings of my name from the ages of 8-14. I can't imagine my parents hyperventilating like this because that isn't how they decided my name to be spelled.

I came from a family where we used all kinds of names and nicknames, we all grew up knowing our names and who they meant. I also didn't have hyper controlling parents who tried to dictate every aspect of who I was and what my identity must be.

You all need bigger problems in life and a Xanax. Creating friction in relationships over the spelling of a nickname just seems so immature and bizarre to me.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 14:58     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.


I agree! It is crazy really that some people think it is okay for the grandmother to give the child a nickname different than what the parents call her (other than an endearment like “lovebug” or something to that affect ). My father frequently tries to create a nickname for my son (picture my son being named Michael which is what everyone calls him, and grandpa calls him Mikey). THat bugs me and this would, too. I’d tell MIL to return the chair.


You're nuts. You can't dictate that no other family members have an affectionate nickname for your kid. This is some petty dictatorship BS.


You're forgetting that this is DCUM and a good amount of posters are from DC and people in this area view their kids as part of their brand everything about their lives as planned and scheduled. The perfect nickname is part of the brand. Can't have that Ivy law school finding out that DC was once called Suzy with an I by grandma when she was 2, so trashy.

OMG YES!
MY late grandmother used to misspell my DC's name all the time.
And it is a 3 letter name, so misspelling it turned it into an entirely different name. DH and I thought it was funny. My name is Suzi, and people write Susie or Susy all the time, even in emails where my name is in B&W!! It bothers me none. I do not even tell baristas how I spell it when I order coffee.
Some of you hoes need to unclench .


Surely you see a difference between a permanent piece of furniture in a child's room and a coffee cup. I let my kid order for me at Starbucks the other day, and the barista heard my name (which has multiple syllables, and doesn't start with a G) as "Godd". I didn't correct them, in fact I posted a picture of it to facebook. But it's temporary, and I already know how to spell my name. I wouldn't want something permanent in my house that had a misspelling.

I have a friend who is named Suzie, I think, it could be Susie. Sometimes I check when I email, but I know I've emailed it wrong. But if I was buying her a personalized gift to be on display in her house, I'd triple check.

Whoopdeefreakingdoooo
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 14:03     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.


I agree! It is crazy really that some people think it is okay for the grandmother to give the child a nickname different than what the parents call her (other than an endearment like “lovebug” or something to that affect ). My father frequently tries to create a nickname for my son (picture my son being named Michael which is what everyone calls him, and grandpa calls him Mikey). THat bugs me and this would, too. I’d tell MIL to return the chair.


You're nuts. You can't dictate that no other family members have an affectionate nickname for your kid. This is some petty dictatorship BS.


You're forgetting that this is DCUM and a good amount of posters are from DC and people in this area view their kids as part of their brand everything about their lives as planned and scheduled. The perfect nickname is part of the brand. Can't have that Ivy law school finding out that DC was once called Suzy with an I by grandma when she was 2, so trashy.

OMG YES!
MY late grandmother used to misspell my DC's name all the time.
And it is a 3 letter name, so misspelling it turned it into an entirely different name. DH and I thought it was funny. My name is Suzi, and people write Susie or Susy all the time, even in emails where my name is in B&W!! It bothers me none. I do not even tell baristas how I spell it when I order coffee.
Some of you hoes need to unclench .


Surely you see a difference between a permanent piece of furniture in a child's room and a coffee cup. I let my kid order for me at Starbucks the other day, and the barista heard my name (which has multiple syllables, and doesn't start with a G) as "Godd". I didn't correct them, in fact I posted a picture of it to facebook. But it's temporary, and I already know how to spell my name. I wouldn't want something permanent in my house that had a misspelling.

I have a friend who is named Suzie, I think, it could be Susie. Sometimes I check when I email, but I know I've emailed it wrong. But if I was buying her a personalized gift to be on display in her house, I'd triple check.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 13:40     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Easy- the chair and anything else personalized with the wrong spelling get put in the Goodwill pile. Oops!
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 13:39     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:So is it bad that I don't want to use the nickname my relative wants us to use for their baby? I just want to use the given name!


It's not bad to want it. I absolutely have relatives who have named their kid ridiculous things, and I wish they'd done otherwise.

But, it's rude to tell them that.

As for nicknames, it depends on family culture. In my family, we use a mix of full and nicknames. So my kid is "Chris" some of the time, and "Christopher" other times. I have family members who always use one or the other.

On the other hand, if they're the type to tell you "We call him Jimmy", and to ask the school to put "Jimmy" on his cubby in preschool, and to refer to him as "Jimmy" 100% of the time? Then you call him Jimmy.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 13:35     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:So is it bad that I don't want to use the nickname my relative wants us to use for their baby? I just want to use the given name!


Yes, it is bad. You call a child what the parents ask you to call him/her until the child is old enough to express their own opinions. Anything else is making it about you.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2018 08:48     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.


I agree! It is crazy really that some people think it is okay for the grandmother to give the child a nickname different than what the parents call her (other than an endearment like “lovebug” or something to that affect ). My father frequently tries to create a nickname for my son (picture my son being named Michael which is what everyone calls him, and grandpa calls him Mikey). THat bugs me and this would, too. I’d tell MIL to return the chair.


You're nuts. You can't dictate that no other family members have an affectionate nickname for your kid. This is some petty dictatorship BS.


You're forgetting that this is DCUM and a good amount of posters are from DC and people in this area view their kids as part of their brand everything about their lives as planned and scheduled. The perfect nickname is part of the brand. Can't have that Ivy law school finding out that DC was once called Suzy with an I by grandma when she was 2, so trashy.

OMG YES!
MY late grandmother used to misspell my DC's name all the time.
And it is a 3 letter name, so misspelling it turned it into an entirely different name. DH and I thought it was funny. My name is Suzi, and people write Susie or Susy all the time, even in emails where my name is in B&W!! It bothers me none. I do not even tell baristas how I spell it when I order coffee.
Some of you hoes need to unclench .
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2018 23:00     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:If it’s intentional then I agree it’s rude. Get a new slipcover for the chair.


+1. Same pattern, just spelled properly. And, I’m on your side, OP. Your MIL is being obnoxious because her spelling is intentional. It’s just rude.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2018 22:58     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.


I agree! It is crazy really that some people think it is okay for the grandmother to give the child a nickname different than what the parents call her (other than an endearment like “lovebug” or something to that affect ). My father frequently tries to create a nickname for my son (picture my son being named Michael which is what everyone calls him, and grandpa calls him Mikey). THat bugs me and this would, too. I’d tell MIL to return the chair.


You're nuts. You can't dictate that no other family members have an affectionate nickname for your kid. This is some petty dictatorship BS.


You're forgetting that this is DCUM and a good amount of posters are from DC and people in this area view their kids as part of their brand everything about their lives as planned and scheduled. The perfect nickname is part of the brand. Can't have that Ivy law school finding out that DC was once called Suzy with an I by grandma when she was 2, so trashy.


People the issue is not the nickname it is misspelling it on purpose. And that is a jerk move.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2018 22:56     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:Ugh, that stinks. Sorry, op. Be a little stinker and start spelling her name incorrectly. Or give the gift back and say the name is spelled wrong.


Burn that chair in the fire, OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2018 22:51     Subject: Re:Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
So is it bad that I don't want to use the nickname my relative wants us to use for their baby? I just want to use the given name!
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2018 20:56     Subject: Why can't you spell her nickname the way we do.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this wouldn't annoy some people. I consider myself to be pretty laid-back and not much upsets me, but this really would bother me. It's so disrespectful and rude.

I would absolutely either get a new cover for the chair or get rid of it altogether, and I'd tell MIL why if/when she asked.


I agree! It is crazy really that some people think it is okay for the grandmother to give the child a nickname different than what the parents call her (other than an endearment like “lovebug” or something to that affect ). My father frequently tries to create a nickname for my son (picture my son being named Michael which is what everyone calls him, and grandpa calls him Mikey). THat bugs me and this would, too. I’d tell MIL to return the chair.


You're nuts. You can't dictate that no other family members have an affectionate nickname for your kid. This is some petty dictatorship BS.


You're forgetting that this is DCUM and a good amount of posters are from DC and people in this area view their kids as part of their brand everything about their lives as planned and scheduled. The perfect nickname is part of the brand. Can't have that Ivy law school finding out that DC was once called Suzy with an I by grandma when she was 2, so trashy.