Having written this I guess this thread is about women over fifty but frankly if you are willing to date divorced men with kids there seems to be plenty of availability.

I just turned 48 and my only child is 20 and away at college. I would much, much prefer to date a 60 plus guy whose kids are grown than another 50 year old who still has kids that live with him most or all of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

Statistically, when you're 62 he'll be dead and you'll be spending his money.

That doesn't sound so bad.

Actually, acting as a nurse for someone who is slowly dying is really tough. At least if you marry someone your own age, you might kick the bucket first.

Who said anything about dying "slowly"?

Men usually go fast. It's women who tend to die slowly.

Kinda hilarious that women are worried about being someone's nurse.

Kinda hilarious that you are worried about not having a nurse.

47 year old divorced guy here. Trim, fit, 6 ft, have all my hair, well dressed, impeccably groomed and run a successful small business.

On Match and OKCupid. Date twice a week. I won't even consider women over 35. And my pipeline is full.

The idea of dating a 50 year old (or older??) is a nonstarter.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a mid 50's male. I find significantly younger women -- younger by more than 10 years -- have had such a different life experience that conversations can get awkward. I remember watergate, the moon landing, etc. I remember Vietnam. Someone who was six or less when Reagan was elected just won't work for me.

They probably like 90's music (shudder).

OMG dude, you sit around in a date talking to a woman about Watergate and Reagan? I'm sure those conversations are awkward, for her. That said, when a story comes up about something from when I was young, she will often laugh and say, I was like 8 years old then!

That, or men like this don't want their dates to talk. How appealing is that? LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of weird assertions in this thread. I'm early 50s. All of my friends who are my age and divorced ended up with younger (and hotter, thinner) women. In DC at least there are a lot of 30s and 40s Asian women into older guys. I'll be on a first date with one myself this week.

Yes, that's the real world. Not the world that these married women posters feel it should be. They are all so terrified about what it would be like if they suddenly lost their husband and had to join that dating pool. It makes their blood boil to consider that a 61 year old man has real choices more than a decade younger.

So many of them last remember dating when they were in their 20s and had men their age fawning all over them. They know it's not going to be like that now and that's obviously a frightening prospect. Better cling to that husband and take care of him in the bedroom once in a while because that could be the best you will ever do. And don't be so sure you won't end up being his nurse maid in his old age when you are also too old for that job.

A PP wrote that she would dread getting back in the dating pool as a 40-something if she were divorced. Once I got divorced, and it's been a long time (was dating 40s, 30s in my 40s) I couldn't wait to get out there and start dating. As I've gotten older, the women I desire for a relationship have not aged as quickly so the age spread is just a little bigger now. This area is one of the best in the country for a single man of any age as far as the ratio of men to women.

I'm not dating women who are damaged or only want me for my money (and you forgot #4 on your list, women who need a green card) and that makes them crazy. I've met a fair amount of women who not only prefer older men, but state that they always have liked older men for whatever reason. That could be another thread. There are plenty of women out there who prefer an older man and I'm even into Asian women.

HAHAHAHA that's what you think HAHHAHAHAHAHA

Keep your women with daddy issues.

Anonymous wrote:Lots of weird assertions in this thread. I'm early 50s. All of my friends who are my age and divorced ended up with younger (and hotter, thinner) women. In DC at least there are a lot of 30s and 40s Asian women into older guys. I'll be on a first date with one myself this week.

Good luck with that.

Anonymous wrote:This thread is hilarious. Twenty or thirty different women on the other side of 45 trying to argue men into finding them attractive.

Newsflash ladies- this is how it works. Girls held all the cards when they were young. Now the boys hold the cards.

Don't like it? I'd suggest trying really hard to stay in shape and hang on to your DHs like your life depended on it. Because when you split he'll be chasing 30 year olds and you'll be fighting over the handful of single 60 year old men that may or may not find you attractive.

Sometimes the truth hurts.

So so true

I'm a single, never married, childless 41 year old. I'm on dating apps and have plenty of men to date. Oldest was 48. Youngest was 36. I blow off anyone over 48. When I get anyone over 55 email me I either ignore it or email back and say I think he should be asking out women in their fifties.

Having written this I guess this thread is about women over fifty but frankly if you are willing to date divorced men with kids there seems to be plenty of availability.

Ha! PP here. Didn't see the post before mine! Almost identical.

This thread is hilarious. Twenty or thirty different women on the other side of 45 trying to argue men into finding them attractive.

Newsflash ladies- this is how it works. Girls held all the cards when they were young. Now the boys hold the cards.

Don't like it? I'd suggest trying really hard to stay in shape and hang on to your DHs like your life depended on it. Because when you split he'll be chasing 30 year olds and you'll be fighting over the handful of single 60 year old men that may or may not find you attractive.

Sometimes the truth hurts.

Anonymous wrote:Lots of weird assertions in this thread. I'm early 50s. All of my friends who are my age and divorced ended up with younger (and hotter, thinner) women. In DC at least there are a lot of 30s and 40s Asian women into older guys. I'll be on a first date with one myself this week.

Yes, that's the real world. Not the world that these married women posters feel it should be. They are all so terrified about what it would be like if they suddenly lost their husband and had to join that dating pool. It makes their blood boil to consider that a 61 year old man has real choices more than a decade younger.

So many of them last remember dating when they were in their 20s and had men their age fawning all over them. They know it's not going to be like that now and that's obviously a frightening prospect. Better cling to that husband and take care of him in the bedroom once in a while because that could be the best you will ever do. And don't be so sure you won't end up being his nurse maid in his old age when you are also too old for that job.

A PP wrote that she would dread getting back in the dating pool as a 40-something if she were divorced. Once I got divorced, and it's been a long time (was dating 40s, 30s in my 40s) I couldn't wait to get out there and start dating. As I've gotten older, the women I desire for a relationship have not aged as quickly so the age spread is just a little bigger now. This area is one of the best in the country for a single man of any age as far as the ratio of men to women.

I'm not dating women who are damaged or only want me for my money (and you forgot #4 on your list, women who need a green card) and that makes them crazy. I've met a fair amount of women who not only prefer older men, but state that they always have liked older men for whatever reason. That could be another thread. There are plenty of women out there who prefer an older man and I'm even into Asian women.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, older guys. You do realize those younger women who date you would generally prefer to date younger men, right? I mean, you realize that the women who date you either want your money, or want your career success, and when they tell you you're hot and a god lover, they're, um lying? And you're okay with that? Don't you have any pride at all?

The ones who don't just want your money are seriously f*d up gals with major daddy issues. How would you feel if your 20-something daughter brought a 60 year old home for the holidays? If that doesn't bother you -if the thought of sleeping with someone young enough to be your daughter doesn't bother you - you are one seriously sleazy guy.

ITA. I'm in my early 40s and the thought of sleeping with someone in his 60s makes my skin crawl. Barf. I'm happily married with someone my age. The only women I know with partners 10+ years older were 1) from messed up families, absent dad, divorce or 2) broke. If given a choice, women would marry someone their age or less than 4 years older. Psychology Today has a study about the age difference. The age gap is larger for second marriages because women have to settle for inferior older men because a high percentage of the top ones (younger, healthier, at the top of their earning period) are already taken.

Wow, this really goes against what woman normally say. You are really putting down women here, as have so many PPs. So women just settle on an "inferior" men when they can't find what they feel they deserve? Don't get me wrong, I understand that logic but tell us more about a woman who can't land one of the guys who are: younger, healthier, at the top of their earning period. Why are they all taken and who took them? Why aren't they out there just as I've read here that there are plenty of good looking older woman to date? What kind of woman isn't able to attract and keep one of those men that she needs to lower her standards? Describe her to me.

You really paint a picture of women being desperate to find a man, any man she can get, even past her baby fever years and into her second marriage. Is it really like that? DCUM sure isn't the place for empowered, modern women who make their own way in this world. I may stop reading this board after this. It really is one of the saddest, most negative boards towards relationships I've ever seen.

Not one woman here has offered an opinion that an older guy like me and younger woman might very well be in a good, healthy relationship. You just can't imagine it and that's sad.

Lots of weird assertions in this thread. I'm early 50s. All of my friends who are my age and divorced ended up with younger (and hotter, thinner) women. In DC at least there are a lot of 30s and 40s Asian women into older guys. I'll be on a first date with one myself this week.

^nope I don't care. You are just deluded, so much so to write that diatribe. I'm 47, DH is 51. If DH and I were no longer together, more than likely, I would date 60+ yr olds, and based on most posts by women in their 40's on this thread, neither would most other 40 something year olds. It's amazing how deluded some 60 yr old men are. Very sad. And I'm not bitter either. I'm quite happy with my DH and hope to god we stay together till the end because I shudder at the thought of going back into the dating pool.

Anonymous wrote:It all boils down to this:

Men but attractiveness high on the list.
Women put success and power high on the list

On average, younger women are more attractive. Although of course some women maintain their looks as they age. It's no different for men, they are objectively more attractive in their 30s than in their 50s.

But since men are prized or objectified for other reasons, looks arent as big or a deal to lose

And if you think this isn't fair, ask the 50 year old unemployed but attractive man what his dating prospects are compared to the 50 year ild attractive but unemployed woman