Anonymous wrote:Just tell her “I’m positive the kids would love to play, but it’s unlikely you’ll see much of John and I. We REALLY enjoy our vacation time alone if you know what I mean *wink *wink! If you wind up watching my kids more than you expected, I promise I’ll reciprocate when we get back!”

She’ll avoid your family at all costs for fear of being stuck babysitting!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Please don’t be upset if you don’t see much of us at Resort Name. We had no idea we’d know anyone there and planned some family activities for our stay. This is the one time I can get John away from work to focus on play time with the kids so we promised them our full attention. We don’t use our phones or anything and I do a lot of reading. It’s really a recharging time for me so I’m not up for much socializing.”

+1

I am shocked at all of the people suggesting that OP is being ridiculous or unfriendly or rigid. When I schedule a vacation, I am planning what I want to do with who – sometimes that is with friends, or family, or alone. As adults paying for a vacation, that is our right.

I would be extremely angry if a friend chose to join my vacation without talking to me about it. And I love vacationing with friends and have done so frequently. Family should have the right to go away together for time where they can rest and relax as just a nuclear unit. We are so busy and rushed so much of the year, this is incredibly valuable and special time. If it were me, I would say that you were looking forward to this family time and will not be able to spend extended time with them