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Anonymous wrote:Did you like his personality? Are you really that hung up on his height?

Not OP, but 4 inches is an obvious lie.

I like tall guys but wouldn't consider 5'6" a deal breaker by any stretch. But the lying is creepy.

+1 The lying is the issue, not the height.

yeh right. sort of like the crazy women talking about dating a guy 20 years older.

Exactly. Op is shallow and naiive. If the guy was actually 6ft 2 op wouldnt care he said 5'10.

Why would a grown woman need ADHD drugs (a/k/a amphetamines or legal uppers) ?

Bad lifestyle: alcohol, McDonalds, no exercise.

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Anonymous wrote:No, weight obsession in this area is over the top. Recently some friends who are medical professionals were discussing the huge increase for prescriptions for ADHD drugs for women of reproductive age in this area, over the past few years.
Why would a grown woman need ADHD drugs (a/k/a amphetamines or legal uppers) ? To please weight obsessed men

They could just improve their eating habits and get more exercise. The weight would take care of itself. But, it's easier to blame the opposite sex for not finding them attractive.

or maybe cut down on the alcohol (which they probably still drink right after they take the crazy pills)

Anonymous wrote:No, weight obsession in this area is over the top. Recently some friends who are medical professionals were discussing the huge increase for prescriptions for ADHD drugs for women of reproductive age in this area, over the past few years.
Why would a grown woman need ADHD drugs (a/k/a amphetamines or legal uppers) ? To please weight obsessed men

They could just improve their eating habits and get more exercise. The weight would take care of itself. But, it's easier to blame the opposite sex for not finding them attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:There is entirely too much discussion in this thread about lying, height, weight etc. and not enough actual examples.

Actual example (and I really struggle with online dating because I am an honest person and didn't know that people lie like rugs. But I'm learning). I was talking to this guy, cute, seemed nice enough. He was tall 6'4". I'm 5'4". I don't know what possessed me to mention that I'm not tall but I did in the course of making plans. (Admittedly, I have short friends and in my group photo I was wearing heels and appeared tall). He immediately unmatched with me and that was the end of that. None of my other dates ever ask me about my height or seem to have a problem with it.

Thanks for sharing. Perhaps he is a basketball enthusiast and wants tall children. The least he could have done is communicated and not just cut you off his list.

He should have been more polite. Some men like much shorter women, some don't. I'm one who doesn't. 5'10 but prefer women at least 5'5 or so.

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Anonymous wrote:There is entirely too much discussion in this thread about lying, height, weight etc. and not enough actual examples.

Actual example (and I really struggle with online dating because I am an honest person and didn't know that people lie like rugs. But I'm learning). I was talking to this guy, cute, seemed nice enough. He was tall 6'4". I'm 5'4". I don't know what possessed me to mention that I'm not tall but I did in the course of making plans. (Admittedly, I have short friends and in my group photo I was wearing heels and appeared tall). He immediately unmatched with me and that was the end of that. None of my other dates ever ask me about my height or seem to have a problem with it.

Thanks for sharing. Perhaps he is a basketball enthusiast and wants tall children. The least he could have done is communicated and not just cut you off his list.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 6'4". Many times I have been stuck buying dinner for a woman who said she was 46 when she was actually 56, or had the dishonest profile photos which concealed that she had the body of a hippo (I finally got good at spotting those--no body shots, no contact, and bikini shots are preferred). In every single case I was a gentleman, did my best to show them a good time, paid for the date, and then never called them again.

The worst was the woman who said she was 50, but she was actually 69. She was old enough to be my mother.

You would've been well within your rights to cancel the date on the spot. I think these types of ridiculous lies by either gender should not be tolerated and they shouldn't be rewarded by getting what they want.

Once I met a woman who had said she was 42 (which was a bit older than me). She also said she was 5'5. When I met her she was more like 50, and 5'2. I mumbled an excuse and ran away

OP I certainly don't think you have an obligation to see him again, but you say you are 5'6...were you wearing heels? How did you determine his height at 5'6?

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Anonymous wrote:I am 6'4". Many times I have been stuck buying dinner for a woman who said she was 46 when she was actually 56, or had the dishonest profile photos which concealed that she had the body of a hippo (I finally got good at spotting those--no body shots, no contact, and bikini shots are preferred). In every single case I was a gentleman, did my best to show them a good time, paid for the date, and then never called them again.

The worst was the woman who said she was 50, but she was actually 69. She was old enough to be my mother.

women will lie about age more often than men will lie about height. Good thing is, if you know her name, college and occupation a google search will give you at least a good estimate of her age. I've googled women in bars right after meeting them to find out their ages.

The 69 year old woman should meet up with the old man with the pot of tea

Anonymous wrote:I am 6'4". Many times I have been stuck buying dinner for a woman who said she was 46 when she was actually 56, or had the dishonest profile photos which concealed that she had the body of a hippo (I finally got good at spotting those--no body shots, no contact, and bikini shots are preferred). In every single case I was a gentleman, did my best to show them a good time, paid for the date, and then never called them again.

The worst was the woman who said she was 50, but she was actually 69. She was old enough to be my mother.

women will lie about age more often than men will lie about height. Good thing is, if you know her name, college and occupation a google search will give you at least a good estimate of her age. I've googled women in bars right after meeting them to find out their ages.

Sure he's 5'6? He could be closer to 5'8 more likely. Lots of women will downgrade a man's height because they just like to be insulting like that. Not too many guys would lie 4 inches. 2 inches much more likely.

I'm a 5'1" woman. I had no problems dating short men. I liked the fact that there are tons of fabulous men that many women pass on because they want someone tall.

I did not like dating men who were defensive about their height--or anything else. I do remember one OLD surprise but it was not height. I was waiting for my date and this guy walked up and I did not recognize him at all. He was about 35 with a full head of hair in all his pictures, this guy was late 40s and bald. I don't mind bald guys but the bait and switch bothered me--like the assumption is that either I'm too stupid to notice, or too shallow to have gone out without the lie? Massive discrepancies are usually a sign that people are not okay with themselves and that is reflected in other areas. My worst was the guy who was definitely 20 years older than his profile and then told me that in fact he was married but blah blah blah. I walked out within minutes of this disclosure.

I made sure to put recent full body pictures on my profiles. I had more than a few dates who acted relieved when I showed up and looked like my pictures (or even better as one said).

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty much every man I ever met on a dating website lied about their height unless they were over 6'2". Those that were that tall gave their real height. Just shave at least 2" off everyone's profile. Apparently almost every woman over 40 lies about height/weight, judging by the comments I got from the men I did meet.

Them: You look EXACTLY like your profile picture!
Me: (thinking...because it's a photograph, not an artistic rendering?)

Add an inch to your height if you want to cut back on the men who are too short for you. The only time that ever backfired a bit was when I met a guy who was 6'8", and he told me I was the shortest woman he'd ever gone out with. I did apologize to him, even though I was wearing high heels--but that's still a LOT of difference. (His preference was 5'10" and up)

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Some people also don't really read your profile info fully. I went on multiple dates with a Jewish guy who seemed pretty nice. I'm not Jewish, which was stated in my profile. On one of the dates he started talking about how it would be a shock to his mother to bring home a nice German Jewish girl who looks so non-Jewish (whatever). I gave him a funny look and told him that I'm not, at which point he got upset. Uhm, it's ON MY PROFILE under religion--Catholic.

Another date. Partway through the date I mention my son. Who is not only listed on my profile but is in a pic. Date looks shocked and says he doesn't want to date anyone with kids. Fair enough but it's ON MY PROFILE.
I could go on and on.

I'm not sure its fair to expect people to infer that a child in a pic with you is yours. Lots of profiles out there where the kid is a niece or nephew. In order not to waste your time I would put it in the profile or mention it prior to meeting.

Apparently it's not fair to ask people to read, either.

Anonymous wrote:Brand new to online dating. I'd been with my ex for 9 years and never tried it before. Met a guy who seemed sweet and cute. Chatted about a week and agreed to meet at Brabo in Old Town for dinner.

In he walks... at 5'6". His profile listed at 5'10" and we never talked about it but ... yeesh. I'm just not interested. Do I fade, call him out, or pity myself for being shallow?

Poor guy. He feels that somebody will eventually forgive him for lying about his height if the can see through that. But, oy. I'm as shallow as you.

If you want to be a real bitch to him for lying to you, you could give him Tina Fey's phone number (make it up).

If you want to be kind, let it fade.

If you want to try to get past his short legs, maybe he's worth it? In which case, there's the lying. But everyone lies, no?

Anonymous wrote:No, weight obsession in this area is over the top. Recently some friends who are medical professionals were discussing the huge increase for prescriptions for ADHD drugs for women of reproductive age in this area, over the past few years.
Why would a grown woman need ADHD drugs (a/k/a amphetamines or legal uppers) ? To please weight obsessed men

Men who wish not to see naked fat American women who drive everywhere and eat too much fast food. Get off your ass and eat better.