Anonymous wrote:Another iPhone tip - turn off frequent locations. Your phone keeps a log of every place you go, and tracks the amount of time you spend there.



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Anonymous wrote:somehow my husband became suspicious. I laughed it off, but omg, I was stunned.

+1. Only met abroad. I was shocked when he picked up on it and accused me. I stumbled over my explanation and I know he saw right through me. I regret all of it

Why get married and have kids to do all that. Stay single and date if that's your thing. I've seen women that no one would expect to hire PI's, trackers on partners car etc. They knew there were red flags and didn't want to be stuck year with some horrible spouse. Those are smart women. Men should do the same. Really no excuse for any cheater. You have options, but cheating is abuse and that's inexcusable.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes it is possible. People have done it for years. You just need to be super careful, keep your mouth shut, and avoid the temptation to create and keep proof. No letters, no gifts, no texts, no saving names, no keepsakes, nothing.

lol No it's obvious when there are time gaps and other red flags. Anyone can easily have some friends follow spouse from work or see what they are doing on their lunch hour.

How about just staying single?????

Anonymous wrote:Yes it is possible. People have done it for years. You just need to be super careful, keep your mouth shut, and avoid the temptation to create and keep proof. No letters, no gifts, no texts, no saving names, no keepsakes, nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:somehow my husband became suspicious. I laughed it off, but omg, I was stunned.

+1. Only met abroad. I was shocked when he picked up on it and accused me. I stumbled over my explanation and I know he saw right through me. I regret all of it

Anonymous wrote:Wondering if in today's day and age, it is possible to cheat without getting caught.

Without going into too much detail, I am stuck in the marriage for reasons beyond my control. While leaving would be the best thing for me personally, it would be very problematic for my children - again, can't go into the detail here, but I say this to avoid the inevitable posts about how (a) I can leave, or (b) I'm being selfish. To be sure, this decision is not selfish at all, as it would be much easier for me personally to leave and start fresh. However, I feel obligated to stay because of my children and the serious negative consequences that leaving would bring on them.

Now that I have that behind me, I met someone in a city where I travel every other week for work and I am very attracted to him, emotionally and physically. My only hesitation in continuing this is the fear of getting caught and facing the inevitable divorce that I am trying to avoid, but with much worse terms because I've been caught cheating.

So I am just wondering if it is possible to keep this up or if I am kidding myself. I think that the other guy would be okay with keeping this up the way it is, because men seem to be happy with no strings attached sex in my opinion. I think it's a lot harder for them to find a woman who is okay with it. I could be wrong, though.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a few questions for spouses that view marital cheating as wrong in any circumstance:

--Have you experienced cheating in your relationship?

--Do you monitor your spouses' behavior, or activities outside of the home more closely?

--Did you choose to stay after discovering a cheating spouse? If so, why do you have such a static view of cheating but a more nuanced view of maintaining the marriage?

--Did you adjust your behavior to help meet the needs of your cheating spouse?


As a single woman, it is very obvious to me when I meet a married man. The lengths that they will go through to court you and place their marriage in jeopardy are very obvious and transparent. I have never exposed one to his spouse, I just walk away.

Answers: No, No, NA, NA.
I think you and quite a few others posting here are hanging out with the wrong kinds of men and women re a faithful relationship. Over a long period of time, people reveal their flaws; and no one's perfect. Nonetheless, there are MANY people who believe in a faithful, committed relationship and its benefits. You have to look in the right places for them. Typically, it's not those looking for one night stands in a bar.


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Anonymous wrote:I have a few questions for spouses that view marital cheating as wrong in any circumstance:

--Have you experienced cheating in your relationship?

--Do you monitor your spouses' behavior, or activities outside of the home more closely?

--Did you choose to stay after discovering a cheating spouse? If so, why do you have such a static view of cheating but a more nuanced view of maintaining the marriage?

--Did you adjust your behavior to help meet the needs of your cheating spouse?


As a single woman, it is very obvious to me when I meet a married man. The lengths that they will go through to court you and place their marriage in jeopardy are very obvious and transparent. I have never exposed one to his spouse, I just walk away.

Answers: No, No, NA, NA.
I think you and quite a few others posting here are hanging out with the wrong kinds of men and women re a faithful relationship. Over a long period of time, people reveal their flaws; and no one's perfect. Nonetheless, there are MANY people who believe in a faithful, committed relationship and its benefits. You have to look in the right places for them. Typically, it's not those looking for one night stands in a bar.


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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a single woman, it is very obvious to me when I meet a married man. The lengths that they will go through to court you and place their marriage in jeopardy are very obvious and transparent. I have never exposed one to his spouse, I just walk away.
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I’m a married cheating woman, and I don’t like sleeping with married men either. They’re usually sad - wanting emotional labor from me to make them feel better about their unhappy marriages. They’re also the ones that beg the most - sleep with them once and six months later they’re sill texting begging for another chance. Single guys have more options, and don’t turn me off with their desperation.

To the PP. Yes, they are very sad. They are not strong enough to confront the consequences of leaving their marriage. I have total disdain for the ones that have bought "milkless cows" and believe that you should supplement their relationship. It's like they are the ultimate leeches.

The wives don’t sleep with them because they know their husbands are cheating.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a single woman, it is very obvious to me when I meet a married man. The lengths that they will go through to court you and place their marriage in jeopardy are very obvious and transparent. I have never exposed one to his spouse, I just walk away.
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I’m a married cheating woman, and I don’t like sleeping with married men either. They’re usually sad - wanting emotional labor from me to make them feel better about their unhappy marriages. They’re also the ones that beg the most - sleep with them once and six months later they’re sill texting begging for another chance. Single guys have more options, and don’t turn me off with their desperation.

To the PP. Yes, they are very sad. They are not strong enough to confront the consequences of leaving their marriage. I have total disdain for the ones that have bought "milkless cows" and believe that you should supplement their relationship. It's like they are the ultimate leeches.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a single woman, it is very obvious to me when I meet a married man. The lengths that they will go through to court you and place their marriage in jeopardy are very obvious and transparent. I have never exposed one to his spouse, I just walk away.
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I’m a married cheating woman, and I don’t like sleeping with married men either. They’re usually sad - wanting emotional labor from me to make them feel better about their unhappy marriages. They’re also the ones that beg the most - sleep with them once and six months later they’re sill texting begging for another chance. Single guys have more options, and don’t turn me off with their desperation.

Anonymous wrote:As a single woman, it is very obvious to me when I meet a married man. The lengths that they will go through to court you and place their marriage in jeopardy are very obvious and transparent. I have never exposed one to his spouse, I just walk away.
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