Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He got upset when I told him I'd need him to stay with me overnight in the hospital after I gave birth to our daughter. He'd been hoping to sleep at home then come back in the mornings and was very upset he had to sleep on the uncomfortable recliner in my recovery room. It wasn't our finest moment but honestly, we were both so exhausted after a multi-day induction that neither of us were thinking clearly. It was a single moment of dumb@ssness from an otherwise wonderful man.
Is it really so bad? I wouldn't want to sleep on that stupid recliner either and if he's just going home to sleep and coming right back in the morning... why is that a big deal?
Honestly I have a wonderful husband too and I told him to go home and get some sleep. It's not like I was on a mountain top alone. I was in the hospital!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Suggested I abort our child because he wasn't ready to be a dad.
Other than that he's not selfish at all.
Unless you two decided to get pregnant together and then he told you, I don't think there's anything wrong with this. If anything, it's selfish of you to have a child when you know its father doesn't want it.
Wanting to have your baby isn't being selfish. Wanting to kill an inconvenient baby is being selfish.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He got upset when I told him I'd need him to stay with me overnight in the hospital after I gave birth to our daughter. He'd been hoping to sleep at home then come back in the mornings and was very upset he had to sleep on the uncomfortable recliner in my recovery room. It wasn't our finest moment but honestly, we were both so exhausted after a multi-day induction that neither of us were thinking clearly. It was a single moment of dumb@ssness from an otherwise wonderful man.
Is it really so bad? I wouldn't want to sleep on that stupid recliner either and if he's just going home to sleep and coming right back in the morning... why is that a big deal?
Anonymous wrote:To the Breaking Bad poster— get some individual marital counseling or whatever it takes to get you past your resentment (maybe just do a couple hits of the blue stuff) because seasons 3-5 are incredible and you are missing out!
Anonymous wrote:Those of you with resentment toward your husbands for not staying with you, by the hospital bed, after childbirth -- do you do the same for him when he is hospitalized? Or is he expected to "be a man" and deal with it?
Anonymous wrote:I'd heard so much about Breaking Bad, I started watching the old episodes on Hulu. I realized what a fabulous series it was, told DH he'd love it and we should watch it together. I re-watched half the first season with him (so we could enjoy it together and talk about it, KWIM?). We watched 2 seasons together. He then got sick and took a week off work. While he was off, he watched all the remaining episodes without me. But, he didn't tell me until after he'd watched them all! What a selfish prick! I have since refused to watch any more of them. F*ck it.
Now, I don't even bother to find shows we might watch together. I just look for shows our tween DS and I can enjoy together (it was something we did even before binging on Breaking Bad). When DH asks me about shows we should watch together, I just look at him and say "Breaking Bad".
Otherwise, he's a good guy and our marriage is pretty good.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Those of you with resentment toward your husbands for not staying with you, by the hospital bed, after childbirth -- do you do the same for him when he is hospitalized? Or is he expected to "be a man" and deal with it?
I bring a baby to his post operative room and go home to take a nap.
Anonymous wrote:Well, while we’re on delivery stories... after my first delivery, my spouse took a conference call from my postpartum room at Sibley (ie, ridiculously tiny) with his work computer booted up on my bed tray and when the baby cried he shot me ‘that look’.
. She was able to live in the Walmart for a couple weeks I hiding away after it closed down every night. She would just go and sleep in the camping section and get everything she needed off the shelves.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Left me at Walmart when I was 8 months pregnant. I didn't even have any shoes. I guess he was afraid of becoming a dad.
There's got to be more to the story. What happened to your shoes?