Anonymous
12/18/2017 20:32
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:NP. I have read all the posts. I guess I still don't get the problem although the vitriol is surprising against the MIL. She wants to be called "Mama Larla". Your child will know the difference, OP, between you and Mama Larla. It will be fine.
If my MIL wanted to be called the Grand Poobah or The Queen of All Things Great and Small, I would smile and go along with it. Life is too short and I'm not that insecure.
This apparently is your first child, OP, so I understand your angst. However, you need all the help you can get and you should want as many loving people around your child as you possibly can cultivate because love is what will make your child bloom and grow. Let this pass.
I would personally not want help from someone who says they're going to steal my child. But different strokes I guess...
And some of us are mature enough to separate hyperbole from actual "threats". But if that is the way that you want to live your life then I guess that's what you're going to do. Why are you so easily threatened that you can't just smile or giggle, say "good one" and move on? Grow up and be a better role model for your children.
Anonymous
12/18/2017 20:23
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:NP. I have read all the posts. I guess I still don't get the problem although the vitriol is surprising against the MIL. She wants to be called "Mama Larla". Your child will know the difference, OP, between you and Mama Larla. It will be fine.
If my MIL wanted to be called the Grand Poobah or The Queen of All Things Great and Small, I would smile and go along with it. Life is too short and I'm not that insecure.
This apparently is your first child, OP, so I understand your angst. However, you need all the help you can get and you should want as many loving people around your child as you possibly can cultivate because love is what will make your child bloom and grow. Let this pass.
1) my overbearing mother in law's "help" was not help until I set down firm boundaries on things like this.
2) it's OK to tell people things that they do that hurt your feelings and feel bad, and ask them not to do it. a healthy relstionship/healthy people can stand this, and it will make the relationship healthier.
3) it's some crazy emotional manipulation to say that OP will take love away from her child if she doesn't agree to letting someone else be called "mama."
Anonymous
12/18/2017 18:50
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:NP. I have read all the posts. I guess I still don't get the problem although the vitriol is surprising against the MIL. She wants to be called "Mama Larla". Your child will know the difference, OP, between you and Mama Larla. It will be fine.
If my MIL wanted to be called the Grand Poobah or The Queen of All Things Great and Small, I would smile and go along with it. Life is too short and I'm not that insecure.
This apparently is your first child, OP, so I understand your angst. However, you need all the help you can get and you should want as many loving people around your child as you possibly can cultivate because love is what will make your child bloom and grow. Let this pass.
I would personally not want help from someone who says they're going to steal my child. But different strokes I guess...
Anonymous
12/18/2017 18:47
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
OK, I have asked my son. Literally no one at St. Albans School calls their mother Mama.
Just thought I would report for my school.
Just thought I would report for my school.
Anonymous
12/18/2017 18:46
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:NP. I have read all the posts. I guess I still don't get the problem although the vitriol is surprising against the MIL. She wants to be called "Mama Larla". Your child will know the difference, OP, between you and Mama Larla. It will be fine.
If my MIL wanted to be called the Grand Poobah or The Queen of All Things Great and Small, I would smile and go along with it. Life is too short and I'm not that insecure.
This apparently is your first child, OP, so I understand your angst. However, you need all the help you can get and you should want as many loving people around your child as you possibly can cultivate because love is what will make your child bloom and grow. Let this pass.
+1
Anonymous
12/18/2017 18:39
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OK, am I the only one who doesn't understand WTF is going on with the term "mama"? Literally NO ONE I HAVE EVER KNOWN has called their mom anything but Mom or Mommy as a kid. What is all this Mama shit?
It is, believe it or not, a trend among white, upper middle class women (no idea if this describes OP or not). https://longreads.com/2015/05/10/the-rise-of-mama/
Haha. This is hilarious. I've heard it but not "mama" in this sense- more like "Big Momma"
Anonymous
12/18/2017 18:00
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
NP. I have read all the posts. I guess I still don't get the problem although the vitriol is surprising against the MIL. She wants to be called "Mama Larla". Your child will know the difference, OP, between you and Mama Larla. It will be fine.
If my MIL wanted to be called the Grand Poobah or The Queen of All Things Great and Small, I would smile and go along with it. Life is too short and I'm not that insecure.
This apparently is your first child, OP, so I understand your angst. However, you need all the help you can get and you should want as many loving people around your child as you possibly can cultivate because love is what will make your child bloom and grow. Let this pass.
If my MIL wanted to be called the Grand Poobah or The Queen of All Things Great and Small, I would smile and go along with it. Life is too short and I'm not that insecure.
This apparently is your first child, OP, so I understand your angst. However, you need all the help you can get and you should want as many loving people around your child as you possibly can cultivate because love is what will make your child bloom and grow. Let this pass.
Anonymous
12/18/2017 16:49
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OK, am I the only one who doesn't understand WTF is going on with the term "mama"? Literally NO ONE I HAVE EVER KNOWN has called their mom anything but Mom or Mommy as a kid. What is all this Mama shit?
It is, believe it or not, a trend among white, upper middle class women (no idea if this describes OP or not). https://longreads.com/2015/05/10/the-rise-of-mama/
I think it's common usage in school now. Once my kids went to elementary school, they dropped mom/mommy and started calling me "mama." It's how so many of their friends refer to their mothers.
Anonymous
12/18/2017 16:45
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
There is a big difference between Mama as the first sounds a kid makes and Mama as a name. OP says MIL wants to be called Mama X, suggesting after they stop their first sounds. Obviously a 2 year old is not saying Mama Barbara. So that is what I don't understand. All these people wanting to be called Mama as their name.
Anonymous
12/18/2017 16:30
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:OK, am I the only one who doesn't understand WTF is going on with the term "mama"? Literally NO ONE I HAVE EVER KNOWN has called their mom anything but Mom or Mommy as a kid. What is all this Mama shit?
Children can't say "mommy" in the beginning and they say mama and dada. I never in a million years would have thought I'd refer to myself as mama and dh as dada, but that's how our toddler addresses us. It's adorable. She's 2 and has been saying it for a year now. I want her to say "mommy" later on, but that will come.
Anonymous
12/18/2017 16:29
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:OK, am I the only one who doesn't understand WTF is going on with the term "mama"? Literally NO ONE I HAVE EVER KNOWN has called their mom anything but Mom or Mommy as a kid. What is all this Mama shit?
Did your kids not use mama when they were learning to speak? That was my son's first word. Most of them don't start with mom or mommy, they start with the repetitive mama sound.
Anonymous
12/18/2017 16:27
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:OK, am I the only one who doesn't understand WTF is going on with the term "mama"? Literally NO ONE I HAVE EVER KNOWN has called their mom anything but Mom or Mommy as a kid. What is all this Mama shit?
It is, believe it or not, a trend among white, upper middle class women (no idea if this describes OP or not). https://longreads.com/2015/05/10/the-rise-of-mama/
Anonymous
12/18/2017 16:21
Subject: Re:Mil wants to be called Mama X
OK, am I the only one who doesn't understand WTF is going on with the term "mama"? Literally NO ONE I HAVE EVER KNOWN has called their mom anything but Mom or Mommy as a kid. What is all this Mama shit?
Anonymous
12/18/2017 15:44
Subject: Mil wants to be called Mama X
With OP here. I was furious when my father tried to get DC to call him dada- like wtf? Mama is special. My 4 yo just went from calling me mommy to mama and I love it.
Anonymous
12/18/2017 14:12
Subject: Mil wants to be called Mama X
Anonymous wrote:Some of y'all sound really crazy about this issue. I really don't understand. The "mom" is the mom. Maybe because everyone in my family called our grandma, "Mama". The outrage here seems really petty.
Sure, and maybe you called your grandpa "hijo" Rodrigo, but that doesn't mean it's a common use.
(Different PP here)