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Anonymous wrote:I want to have an affair because DH basically ignores me except on the rare occasions he feels like having sex, and I am stuck on my own with the kids during his constant work travel. However, I can't imagine how I'd actually do it. No one has expressed any interest in having an affair with me. I'm not overweight and try to dress nicely, but maybe I'm just too old? (43). How do people get these affairs started?

You are not too old. Believe me.

Get flirty. Make friends with men. Be receptive. Express interest in them (touch them on the arm when you are talking). Don't shut it down.

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This is one of the most interesting articles on infertility I've read . I was wondering how many DCUMers recognize themselves in this article ?


The changing reasons why women cheat on their husbands - CNN
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When my kids leave for college I am dumping my husband, I think he knows that is my plan. He is a great dad and a good husband, but I have convinced myself there is more out there for me.

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LOL. At 45, you ain't the "bad boy on the side". You sound like one of those grey haired, obese men that ride motorcycles and consider themselves studs. That's not how it works. Hot women your age are fantasizing about James the 23 year old tennis instructor- and quite possibly banging him, if the gossip around my country club is any indication. NOT you, as much as the idea of that may thrill you.

This is great. First, does James bill for the banging time as well as the tennis lesson? I bet not, just thought I would ask.

Second, as a man in his mid-50s, I am dating because I want to find someone with whom I can fall in love. Girls at any age can find someone to bang whenever they want and I think that becoming more impowered economically has allowed them to act on this more (and lead to a greater ability to cheat.)

I think the difference is how are women my age doing finding someone they can love.

Finally, women of every age are much better looking then men. Think about a what a man looks like naked compared to a woman and the truth of this becomes very clear. Even when things are sagging.

I think women have an easier time on all fronts. Women are just more "in demand" in the dating market, always have been, always will be.

Anonymous wrote:Just imagining the response in this forum to a man who asked the same question.

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Anonymous wrote:I want to have an affair because DH basically ignores me except on the rare occasions he feels like having sex, and I am stuck on my own with the kids during his constant work travel. However, I can't imagine how I'd actually do it. No one has expressed any interest in having an affair with me. I'm not overweight and try to dress nicely, but maybe I'm just too old? (43). How do people get these affairs started?

Trust me you are not too old. You just have to put yourself out there and flirt or be open and direct. I flat out told someone what I wanted - he was in a rut and wanted the same thing too.

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Anonymous wrote:I want to have an affair because DH basically ignores me except on the rare occasions he feels like having sex, and I am stuck on my own with the kids during his constant work travel. However, I can't imagine how I'd actually do it. No one has expressed any interest in having an affair with me. I'm not overweight and try to dress nicely, but maybe I'm just too old? (43). How do people get these affairs started?

Trust me you are not too old. You just have to put yourself out there and flirt or be open and direct. I flat out told someone what I wanted - he was in a rut and wanted the same thing too.

The dating market automatically includes sex, whereas low-attachment sex does NOT infer dating.
In this way, an older man can easily “date” his way into sex, while the older woman can’t always sex her way into dating.

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LOL. At 45, you ain't the "bad boy on the side". You sound like one of those grey haired, obese men that ride motorcycles and consider themselves studs. That's not how it works. Hot women your age are fantasizing about James the 23 year old tennis instructor- and quite possibly banging him, if the gossip around my country club is any indication. NOT you, as much as the idea of that may thrill you.

This is great. First, does James bill for the banging time as well as the tennis lesson? I bet not, just thought I would ask.

Second, as a man in his mid-50s, I am dating because I want to find someone with whom I can fall in love. Girls at any age can find someone to bang whenever they want and I think that becoming more impowered economically has allowed them to act on this more (and lead to a greater ability to cheat.)

I think the difference is how are women my age doing finding someone they can love.

Finally, women of every age are much better looking then men. Think about a what a man looks like naked compared to a woman and the truth of this becomes very clear. Even when things are sagging.

I think women have an easier time on all fronts. Women are just more "in demand" in the dating market, always have been, always will be.

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Anonymous wrote:I think women have an easier time on all fronts. Women are just more "in demand" in the dating market, always have been, always will be.

I think you are confusing your markets.
Women are always in control of the “low attachment sex” market. (This is because men’s biologically higher sex drive and will NEVER change)
But that’s different from “dating”!!
Men, especially older, have the upper hand in the “dating” market.

The dating market automatically includes sex, whereas low-attachment sex does NOT infer dating.
In this way, an older man can easily “date” his way into sex, while the older woman can’t always sex her way into dating.

Anonymous wrote:I think women have an easier time on all fronts. Women are just more "in demand" in the dating market, always have been, always will be.

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LOL. At 45, you ain't the "bad boy on the side". You sound like one of those grey haired, obese men that ride motorcycles and consider themselves studs. That's not how it works. Hot women your age are fantasizing about James the 23 year old tennis instructor- and quite possibly banging him, if the gossip around my country club is any indication. NOT you, as much as the idea of that may thrill you.

This is great. First, does James bill for the banging time as well as the tennis lesson? I bet not, just thought I would ask.

Second, as a man in his mid-50s, I am dating because I want to find someone with whom I can fall in love. Girls at any age can find someone to bang whenever they want and I think that becoming more impowered economically has allowed them to act on this more (and lead to a greater ability to cheat.)

I think the difference is how are women my age doing finding someone they can love.

Finally, women of every age are much better looking then men. Think about a what a man looks like naked compared to a woman and the truth of this becomes very clear. Even when things are sagging.

LOL. At 45, you ain't the "bad boy on the side". You sound like one of those grey haired, obese men that ride motorcycles and consider themselves studs. That's not how it works. Hot women your age are fantasizing about James the 23 year old tennis instructor- and quite possibly banging him, if the gossip around my country club is any indication. NOT you, as much as the idea of that may thrill you.

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Anonymous wrote:I want to have an affair because DH basically ignores me except on the rare occasions he feels like having sex, and I am stuck on my own with the kids during his constant work travel. However, I can't imagine how I'd actually do it. No one has expressed any interest in having an affair with me. I'm not overweight and try to dress nicely, but maybe I'm just too old? (43). How do people get these affairs started?

In my experience, women in their early 40s, or from about 38 on are the best candidates for cheating. You shouldn't have any trouble finding someone but time is always an issue. That said, you aren't looking to date, just spend a few hours of quality naked time. As for finding someone, you do know there are sites dedicated to this end, right?

Guy here and this is my experience. I cannot speak for the article, but I know several women bw late thirties and fifty who are itching for excitement and have gone through with it.

I am 50. I have a HS friend, a woman, who is also 50. We are not in the same area, so there's nothing between us except we talk candidly. (not explicitly, just very open). She is divorced, and said she has had affairs with three married men, one fairly seriously that is still going on. Four or five of her closest friends, also late 40/early 50s, also have been involved in affairs. Some women who feel unsatisfied still are very much interested and have a high sex drive into their 50s, and they can attract the men they want.

Sure. I find it hard to believe that she had multiple affairs in her 50’s. The sex drive stops, it takes a lot of energy(most 50 plus do not have) and people love to lie about sex and money. The women I know over 5o talk of a different dynamic. The men are in demand and the women really have to work hard.

She had the other two affairs in her late 40s, and is 50 now and has been in one for about six months. She clearly has high sex drive, still looks good and apparently has no problem finding men who are interested. I am not condoning her choices to hook up with married men but I have no reason to not believe her.

You are comparing women in their 50's who are looking for a partner and a woman in their 50's who is having an affair.

Finding a man that wants to have an affair is like shooting fish in a bucket, even at 50 (gasp)... have you seen a 50 yo woman lately, they are not looking bad, not the ones I know.

Anyway, the women that respect themselves and are looking for a good loving partner... forget.about.it.

Finding scum who cheat is much easier.

No it’s hard to find men after 40. Sure you can settle for the 5% of men who will sleep with anyone, but it’s not like you will be pursued. Also sex drive just falls off a cliff. So you will have to fake it....what’s the point?

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Anonymous wrote:I am a 26 year old bisexual woman. For women I would date up into the mid 40s. For men, the hard upper limit is maybe 5 years older than me.

Men just age worse than women. I see a lot of balding, paunches, and wrinkles. I suspect the pressure on women to look good causes them to use a lot more skin products, etc- hence looking younger. It's no magic.

If men stay in shoe, they’re especially attractive as their success and wealth grows. It’s easier for men in their thirties and flurries to be successful with women as long as they have a successful career, goid money and abs. Women lose their glamour after 28 really. Women age like milk where men age like wine. I’ve gotten so many compliments from married friend’s wives as on my appearance and looks . Of course their husbands are fat and out of shape. Fine for the security but it’s the guy with the bad streak they want to sleep with. I’ll take being the fling over the beta bux any day.

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Anonymous wrote:Another reason not to get married as a guy. Women have routinely shown they’re opinions aren’t worth the paper it’s printed on.

Women will easily allow themselves to be “one” of the women a guy sleeps with if he’s successful and rich. I’ve seen it multiple times. Unless you’re one of the elite, women won’t be seen with you in public so to speak. Tiger Woods is a great example. All these women knew he was married, most knew he was sleeping around. They didn’t care - they still subjected themselves to being the OW because he was tiger woods. Some of them married themselves. Point being, if you’re in of the top tier of men women will willingly be a whore for you no questions asked.

For people here who don’t obtain that status but live in this area and are successful and have your act together and fit, you can easily go to Reston and pick up a married woman at the bar while their husbands are at home watching the kids. I’ve done it. They want the secure family life but will once again subject themselves to being your fling. Why? Most women don’t have a decent moral compass. Not all, just most. It’s a raw deal to get married as a guy, but a good deal of you’ve obtained success and play the field.

Women don't want you. Get over it.

Actually they do, you mad?

Must be hard being a bitter divorcee who is used up and no one wants

No, they don't.

Cry about it.

Don’t cry! Up your meds and go see your therapist...surely there’s someone for you. Probably not - but you can always hope Ingiess.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a 26 year old bisexual woman. For women I would date up into the mid 40s. For men, the hard upper limit is maybe 5 years older than me.

Men just age worse than women. I see a lot of balding, paunches, and wrinkles. I suspect the pressure on women to look good causes them to use a lot more skin products, etc- hence looking younger. It's no magic.

If men stay in shoe, they’re especially attractive as their success and wealth grows. It’s easier for men in their thirties and flurries to be successful with women as long as they have a successful career, goid money and abs. Women lose their glamour after 28 really. Women age like milk where men age like wine. I’ve gotten so many compliments from married friend’s wives as on my appearance and looks . Of course their husbands are fat and out of shape. Fine for the security but it’s the guy with the bad streak they want to sleep with. I’ll take being the fling over the beta bux any day.