Anonymous wrote:If the kids are upper elementary school, they might be able to stay home alone

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Anonymous wrote:It's bad form to bring kids, and it's bad form for the school to say no kids and fail to provide any type of care. You just have to decide which is worse.

Why to the bolded? The onus is on the school to provide care rather than the parents? If my physical therapist has a no kids policy, is it their responsibility to provide care for my kid? How should the school be able to provide care in this situation? The teachers are involved in the event as are other staff. There's a lot that goes on behind the scenes that you don't always see.

You want a few high school kids earning SSL hours taking care of your kids? What ages? The kids typically who cause a disruption are under the age of 4. They need more supervision than that, especially those who are still in diapers. No one besides the parents should have to be responsible for that. If the kids are elementary age, they're usually fine sitting in the hallway outside the classroom with a book or coloring materials or something. Parents are still ultimately responsible for their children in this situation, so you'd have to know if your child would be capable handling this or not.

I work at a school with a high low-income population. We tried to provide childcare for school events for a few years. We got volunteers that didn't show up, way more kids than parents had signed up for, a trashed classroom because toddlers were throwing things they found, kids with dirty diapers, kids who were hungry, kids who were screaming and crying for their parents, and parents who took advantage and socialized after the event ended and would ignore requests to take their children and go home. My principal decided not to continue to provide childcare anymore.

I'm a teacher and usually coordinate with neighbors for things like this.

The onus is on the school to provide care if you want the parents to show up, without kids. Would it be that way in an ideal world? I don't have an opinion on that. Is it that way, in the real world that we actually live in? Yes.

Anonymous wrote:It would never occur to me either that back to school night was adults-only. At our school the whole point was the teacher addressing the kids and parents together. This was in the Midwest; maybe it's a regional thing? Info that kids weren't supposed to know about was in handbooks and such given to parents.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me so happy I am travelling next week and not going to BTSN at all.

But do you have a co-parent, and if so, is the co-parent going, and if so, what is the co-parent doing about bringing/not bringing the child(ren)?

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me so happy I am travelling next week and not going to BTSN at all.

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Anonymous wrote:It's bad form to bring kids, and it's bad form for the school to say no kids and fail to provide any type of care. You just have to decide which is worse.

Why to the bolded? The onus is on the school to provide care rather than the parents? If my physical therapist has a no kids policy, is it their responsibility to provide care for my kid? How should the school be able to provide care in this situation? The teachers are involved in the event as are other staff. There's a lot that goes on behind the scenes that you don't always see.

You want a few high school kids earning SSL hours taking care of your kids? What ages? The kids typically who cause a disruption are under the age of 4. They need more supervision than that, especially those who are still in diapers. No one besides the parents should have to be responsible for that. If the kids are elementary age, they're usually fine sitting in the hallway outside the classroom with a book or coloring materials or something. Parents are still ultimately responsible for their children in this situation, so you'd have to know if your child would be capable handling this or not.

I work at a school with a high low-income population. We tried to provide childcare for school events for a few years. We got volunteers that didn't show up, way more kids than parents had signed up for, a trashed classroom because toddlers were throwing things they found, kids with dirty diapers, kids who were hungry, kids who were screaming and crying for their parents, and parents who took advantage and socialized after the event ended and would ignore requests to take their children and go home. My principal decided not to continue to provide childcare anymore.

I'm a teacher and usually coordinate with neighbors for things like this.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the heck is back to school night considered an adult-only event in the first place? When I was a kid, it was for the whole family, and it was fine.

Because it's a time for the teachers to give a little speech to ALL of the parents, and it's hard to hear them when kids are making noise.

When you were a kid you also probably didn't have IEPs for SN kids. Why not go back to that, too.

Yes to above. Adding to that is that your kids are a distraction AND it's super crowded so if you made BTSN a family event it would be even more crowded.

Seriousky, have you never been to a BTSN??? A family event...gimme a break! This isn't the PTA fall festival fundraiser, it's BTSN.

Np here. No, I haven't. This is my oldest's first year in school (prek) and I have lived a life that until now has been back to school night free. (As an adult. I have no recollection of what they may have been like as a kid.) I assumed it was for the whole family. The school gave no guidance as far as I could tell and it just seemed like one more thing. I had planned on the entire family going. My husband was the one who brought up the idea that it was probably for parents only and we checked with some veteran parents in our dd's class. Don't worry- Grandma lives close and can watch the kids, but I would like to think that if we showed up with two kids, people would be kind to parents new to this.

They often talk about things that kids should not hear:
- the actual day sex Ed starts (fourth grade)
- how discipline may work (at one btsn the teacher explained she has a point system where the kids work towards a pizza party. She had only a single class earn two in a year but all will earn one for field day. The kids aren't to know that earning that one is a definite)
- teacher in fifth grade discussed how math groups are based on protests and kids are placed in groups based on how well they did but they did NOT want the kids to know which group meant what.
- teacher in second had sign up for mystery reader there for parents to sign up for it right then

This is not a family event. This is to provide information between the adults (teachers, parents, specialists, some admin, etc). That's it.

If that is what it is, then the school(s) should be more blunt in their communications about it. Again, my kids school was not and I'm not a mind reader,

You got a mouth, right? Use it. Ask the teacher or admin if kids should stay home. You already know the answer from what is written on the many pages here yet you're still looking for a way out by claiming the school hasn't been blunt enough with you. Gimme a break.

Anonymous wrote:It would never occur to me either that back to school night was adults-only. At our school the whole point was the teacher addressing the kids and parents together. This was in the Midwest; maybe it's a regional thing? Info that kids weren't supposed to know about was in handbooks and such given to parents.