Anonymous
Post 08/31/2017 17:59     Subject: MIL is always telling us to dress our 10 month old "as a girl" ... when do we say something?
Anonymous wrote:Why is upsetting to you to have your child identified as a girl?
Girls are awesome as are the things that are traditionally associated with girls.

We need to stop demonizing, pink, bows tutus, and dolls.neo


Not the Op but I have no problem with dressing my toddler in ruffles or dresses or dressing her in dinosaur or batman shirts. She likes wearing both! She likes matching hair bows to whatever outfit she's wearing.

I don't know why it's such a controversial issue. I'm willing to bet that every last person on this thread wears a variety of clothing depending on the situation
Anonymous
Post 08/31/2017 17:52     Subject: MIL is always telling us to dress our 10 month old "as a girl" ... when do we say something?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op I'm sorry there are so many idiots in this thread. I dress my daughter in a variety of clothes. Sometimes it's dresses or skirts and sometimes it's t shirts with sharks or dinosaurs. There is no wrong way to be a woman.


Oh yes, there is. Anyone who's lived abroad can attest to that. Too many American females are nowhere near being women despite having ovaries


I'm unaware of criteria for being a woman other than having two X chromosomes. What's your criteria?


Sounds like an MRA troll who is saving up money to buy a Russian bride.
Anonymous
Post 08/31/2017 15:37     Subject: MIL is always telling us to dress our 10 month old "as a girl" ... when do we say something?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op I'm sorry there are so many idiots in this thread. I dress my daughter in a variety of clothes. Sometimes it's dresses or skirts and sometimes it's t shirts with sharks or dinosaurs. There is no wrong way to be a woman.


OP here -- thank you. I'm disappointed, but not surprised, to see so much intolerance on this thread. My only motivation in buying my daughter a variety of clothing is to ensure she feels that she has a choice. Even though she doesn't know what's going on right now, I figure it's never too early to start.



I think many of us could not care less what you dress your daughter in, it's the weird issue warrior approach and offense you take at relatively innocuous things poor grandma has said. When I see a little girl in boy's clothes, I assume they are hand me downs and she has an older brother. And would think the better of you for not wasting money.


THIS. But it keeps going right over OP's head.


There's nothing wrong with letting your kids have a choice, but you don't have to create artificial scenarios to do that. As OP admitted her daughter at this point doesn't know and doesn't care about what she is wearing so all these fashion statements are for OP. OP wants to be perceived as an open minded and progressive parent.
OP's child is a baby, not even a toddler girl and definitely not a woman that she keeps alluding too, the accolades are for herself. It's more faux feminism.


Well said
Anonymous
Post 08/31/2017 15:18     Subject: MIL is always telling us to dress our 10 month old "as a girl" ... when do we say something?
Anonymous wrote:Why is upsetting to you to have your child identified as a girl?
Girls are awesome as are the things that are traditionally associated with girls.

We need to stop demonizing, pink, bows tutus, and dolls.neo


When did I say I demonized pink, bows, tutus, and dolls? My daughter has pink things, dolls, and bows. She doesn't have a tutu only because she's a baby and I never thought to get her one.

I don't care if she's identified as a girl. I care that my MIL looks at her in anything but dresses and pink things and says, "why don't you dress her as a girl?" when I do often put her in dresses. I just don't *always* put her in dresses and pink onesies with rhinestones on them.
Anonymous
Post 08/31/2017 15:06     Subject: MIL is always telling us to dress our 10 month old "as a girl" ... when do we say something?
Why is upsetting to you to have your child identified as a girl?
Girls are awesome as are the things that are traditionally associated with girls.

We need to stop demonizing, pink, bows tutus, and dolls.neo
Anonymous
Post 08/31/2017 15:02     Subject: MIL is always telling us to dress our 10 month old "as a girl" ... when do we say something?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op I'm sorry there are so many idiots in this thread. I dress my daughter in a variety of clothes. Sometimes it's dresses or skirts and sometimes it's t shirts with sharks or dinosaurs. There is no wrong way to be a woman.


OP here -- thank you. I'm disappointed, but not surprised, to see so much intolerance on this thread. My only motivation in buying my daughter a variety of clothing is to ensure she feels that she has a choice. Even though she doesn't know what's going on right now, I figure it's never too early to start.



I think many of us could not care less what you dress your daughter in, it's the weird issue warrior approach and offense you take at relatively innocuous things poor grandma has said. When I see a little girl in boy's clothes, I assume they are hand me downs and she has an older brother. And would think the better of you for not wasting money.


THIS. But it keeps going right over OP's head.


There's nothing wrong with letting your kids have a choice, but you don't have to create artificial scenarios to do that. As OP admitted her daughter at this point doesn't know and doesn't care about what she is wearing so all these fashion statements are for OP. OP wants to be perceived as an open minded and progressive parent.
OP's child is a baby, not even a toddler girl and definitely not a woman that she keeps alluding too, the accolades are for herself. It's more faux feminism.