More music. Any kind including kids songs and rock/top 40, but especially classical and jazz. I ask Google home to play music. I got a subscription to pandora. Date nights are to restaurants with live music. I try to listen to either a podcast or music in the car instead of npr, which is depressing.

I learned to love - myself and people around me. Life is awesome!

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM will love this...

After 15 years as a SAHM, returned to the workforce. I know I was getting too focused about house things like home improvement, minor repairs, room makeovers...and DH couldnt be less interested AND we didn't have extra money with the one income. Now I'm working and no longer, clean, cook, chaperone, grocery shop and everything else I was solely responsible for over a decade. It's DH's turn to help.

I've never stayed at home, but that's exactly what I would fear would happen, universe gets small, and you carry it all on your shoulders. Working creates lots of options - in more ways than one.

SAHMs lose their minds, in one way or another. Not worth it.

Not true. I am so much happier now that I SAH. I have time to do the things I want to do and I'm not at the whims of a petty boss. SAH is not for everyone, but I am much more involved in my community than when I worked for pay.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

X1000

You get it. Well done.

X infinity

I use a facial mask sheet at night.
I take more bubble baths, at least 1x a week.
I’ve learned to care less about things that don’t concern me. I’m a very empathetic person, and my heart strings were always tugged by things out of my control.
I have nice bed sheets, and a barefoot dreams blanket. Every night feels like a comfortable hotel sleep now.

I didn't see this thread originally. I'm so glad it was revived.

Trying to read more, instead of aimlessly surfing the net.

Some form of daily exercise, even if it is just a short walk in the neighborhoods.

Cutting back on what I thought was obligatory social invites. I realized that I don't like the large moms nights out and bigger parties so I rarely go. Really enjoy catching up with a few friends for lunch or dinner so I do that instead. This one has really improved quality of my free time.

Ruthlessly purging my house and buying supplies to organize one small area at a time.

I bought sports undies for yoga class. Expensive- but no more crotch sweat

Somehow this thread was opened on my screen from 2 years ago. Maybe I bookmarked it and it came up when my daughter was playing on my phone. This is a good reminder. Still a good thread.

I made sleep a priority.

Meditation group 2x a month and practice by myself at least 5 days a week.

Anonymous wrote:This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

This is a good one.

Anonymous wrote:This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

X1000

You get it. Well done.

This will be more philosophical, but it's an attitude shift that has changed my life. I've let go of fear. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of impostor syndrome. All of it. Maybe it's a 40s thing, or maybe it's a reaction to playing by all the rules and still losing my job. Now I just go for it. Don't like me? No problem. I probably am not meant to attract you as a friend anyway. I am attracting a higher quality group of people who are not threatened or competitive. Women who support each other -- no holds barred. It's like living at a different frequency. I went into business for myself, and I am 1,000 times more successful than the bozos who fired me. Life is peaceful. I am happy. No time for negativity; too much good stuff to do.

Love this thread! I'm in the throes of early career lawyering while parenting very young children, so mine are little things that make the days easier. No top sheet on beds so they're much easier and faster to make. Dry shampoo and stopped washing/drying my hair every morning (looking better now than it did before). Dresses for work instead of multi-piece outfits that require attention in the mornings. Melatonin and white noise to sleep with my loud-breathing husband rather than abandoning the bed for the guest room. Five year old's clothes are mostly all mix-and-match-able so he can grab whatever he wants to wear without attention or intervention from adults. Longer layered hair, attractive but can go longer between cuts. Korean tv to wind down instead of American (so much less dark and disturbing). A great therapist to stay on top of anxiety issues. Nothing amazing, but right now it's the little things.