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Anonymous wrote:I think its selfish to have 4 kids as its hard to give each the attention and support they need.

I know that we can do it though. We're doing a good job with the three that we have now. By the time the baby was born, our youngest would be six and in school full day so I'd be able to have lot so one-on-one time with the baby and not have it affect them.

Obviously you CAN'T do it though - your DH has adamantly said he doesn't want to!

Instead of just trying to universally say it's all good - maybe you need to start paying attention to what your DH is saying - he might not out right say it - but 3 kids is a lot - he is at his limit - and he does NOT want another one - so pull you head out of your butt - and listen to what your family is saying. Stop being selfish.

My god - focus on raising your 3 children.

Have to agree with the many previous posters who said the no vote always trumps the yes vote in this situation. While you will be disappointed not having a 4th, it is crazy to have a child your husband would resent.
Adding six more years of parenting is not insignificant. Many people find their sex life and relationship suffered during the child rearing years.
You never know what challenges each new child can bring. A child with health, emotional, or behavioral issues can take an extraordinary amount of time, energy, and money.

Anonymous wrote:Of course you are happy, you dont' have to work!