Anonymous
12/22/2016 09:50
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My family would throw a cookout. They are the ones that don't pay attention to the instructions not to cheer at graduation.
Of course you do! Screw the poor announcer trying to read names over you, and the other kids whose parents followed the rules, right?
This is called a "public goods problem." Being able to hear the announcer call your kid's name over the screams of Larla's family is something everybody benefits from, but only if everybody does their bit by keeping quiet. Looks like 9:35 is above all that.
A cookout for family and friends is obviously different from a social media blast.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 09:43
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:My family would throw a cookout. They are the ones that don't pay attention to the instructions not to cheer at graduation.
Of course you do! Screw the poor announcer trying to read names over you, and the other kids whose parents followed the rules, right?
Anonymous
12/22/2016 09:41
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
It's social media that created the issue. You'd clearly share this info with family and close friends. But because you've wallpapered your life in front of acquaintances and dare I say a few less than acquaintances, now you are wondering how much to share? My advice is stop living your family life in view online. Facebook is surreal and your family is not, or is it? You've let go of discretion and now wonder how to get it back.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 09:40
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone overshares...everything. Where your kids go to college is far more important than checking in at some chain restaurant.
Same. I want to hear about your kids. I don't care so much about what you had for lunch.
I want to hear about the school play. I don't care if you brag about your kid's college acceptance, but I will think less of you. Bragging has long been associated with people who are insecure, living through their kids, or oblivious to others' disappointments. There are good reasons and precedents for these interpretations of your bragging, and no amount of defending bragging on DCUM is going to change how others perceive you. Don't brag.
NP here. Posting a fact - Hooray! Oslo was accepted at Yippee-Ki-Yay University! - is not bragging.
Slight correction. I say 'NP here' in the immediately preceding post. My husband looked over my shoulder and pointed out that he is 'Same', two postings prior, so technically I suppose I'm not actually 'NP'. We both use the computer at the kitchen desk. So, now 'School Play', you've heard from both of us. Let me know if you want an opinion from our kids. Interestingly, neither of us post on Facebook but we love to read the posts of our friends and family. We both think you need to stop projecting about "others' disappointments" and focus more on why you are so "insecure" that you can't read other people's good news without thinking that it is 'bragging'.
Honest opinion: you and your husband sound like boors.
Thanks! From you that's a compliment!
So glad we don't know each other!
Genuinely curious: were you raised by wolves?
Anonymous
12/22/2016 09:39
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Last couple days I've seen kids bragging about every elite ACCEPTANCE. Meaning kids are posting every letter that comes in, not just the #1 they plan to attend. Doesn't seem to be backlash -- all of these sort of posts get a lot of likes.
This is not rocket science, folks.
- There's no "dislike" button so you'll never know who thinks you're an a$$, and
- Of course kids have to like their friends' brags. That's what friends do. But you can't know how many are secretly devastated the same school rejected them, or their first choice rejected them, even though on paper they look a lot like you.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 09:35
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
My family would throw a cookout. They are the ones that don't pay attention to the instructions not to cheer at graduation.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 09:00
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone overshares...everything. Where your kids go to college is far more important than checking in at some chain restaurant.
Same. I want to hear about your kids. I don't care so much about what you had for lunch.
I want to hear about the school play. I don't care if you brag about your kid's college acceptance, but I will think less of you. Bragging has long been associated with people who are insecure, living through their kids, or oblivious to others' disappointments. There are good reasons and precedents for these interpretations of your bragging, and no amount of defending bragging on DCUM is going to change how others perceive you. Don't brag.
NP here. Posting a fact - Hooray! Oslo was accepted at Yippee-Ki-Yay University! - is not bragging.
Slight correction. I say 'NP here' in the immediately preceding post. My husband looked over my shoulder and pointed out that he is 'Same', two postings prior, so technically I suppose I'm not actually 'NP'. We both use the computer at the kitchen desk. So, now 'School Play', you've heard from both of us. Let me know if you want an opinion from our kids. Interestingly, neither of us post on Facebook but we love to read the posts of our friends and family. We both think you need to stop projecting about "others' disappointments" and focus more on why you are so "insecure" that you can't read other people's good news without thinking that it is 'bragging'.
Honest opinion: you and your husband sound like boors.
Thanks! From you that's a compliment!
Anonymous
12/22/2016 08:50
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
This is why I love lurking on the private school forum, even though we left private several years ago. You can't make this BS up. It's more considerate to brag than not brag, in fact it's actually the height of hubris to withhold on the bragging? Lol. I knew people like this at our private, they were a tiny minority and I'm pretty sure they weren't raised by robots in barns, but they're out there.
Sounds like boorish PP and her charming DH have already posted the brags on social media and are now trying to defend it.
Sounds like boorish PP and her charming DH have already posted the brags on social media and are now trying to defend it.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 08:36
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Last couple days I've seen kids bragging about every elite ACCEPTANCE. Meaning kids are posting every letter that comes in, not just the #1 they plan to attend. Doesn't seem to be backlash -- all of these sort of posts get a lot of likes.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 07:49
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone overshares...everything. Where your kids go to college is far more important than checking in at some chain restaurant.
Same. I want to hear about your kids. I don't care so much about what you had for lunch.
I want to hear about the school play. I don't care if you brag about your kid's college acceptance, but I will think less of you. Bragging has long been associated with people who are insecure, living through their kids, or oblivious to others' disappointments. There are good reasons and precedents for these interpretations of your bragging, and no amount of defending bragging on DCUM is going to change how others perceive you. Don't brag.
NP here. Posting a fact - Hooray! Oslo was accepted at Yippee-Ki-Yay University! - is not bragging.
Slight correction. I say 'NP here' in the immediately preceding post. My husband looked over my shoulder and pointed out that he is 'Same', two postings prior, so technically I suppose I'm not actually 'NP'. We both use the computer at the kitchen desk. So, now 'School Play', you've heard from both of us. Let me know if you want an opinion from our kids. Interestingly, neither of us post on Facebook but we love to read the posts of our friends and family. We both think you need to stop projecting about "others' disappointments" and focus more on why you are so "insecure" that you can't read other people's good news without thinking that it is 'bragging'.
+100 This is exactly what I was trying to say in an earlier post. By not saying anything because of potential hurt feelings, they are projecting on others that they can't handle the news. Those poor people who didn't get accepted to an ivy league like my darling snowflake would be devastated when they read the news.
You're missing an empathy gene, or three. You simply can't see anyone else's POV. It's all "me, me, me."
Anonymous
12/22/2016 07:48
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone overshares...everything. Where your kids go to college is far more important than checking in at some chain restaurant.
Same. I want to hear about your kids. I don't care so much about what you had for lunch.
I want to hear about the school play. I don't care if you brag about your kid's college acceptance, but I will think less of you. Bragging has long been associated with people who are insecure, living through their kids, or oblivious to others' disappointments. There are good reasons and precedents for these interpretations of your bragging, and no amount of defending bragging on DCUM is going to change how others perceive you. Don't brag.
NP here. Posting a fact - Hooray! Oslo was accepted at Yippee-Ki-Yay University! - is not bragging.
Slight correction. I say 'NP here' in the immediately preceding post. My husband looked over my shoulder and pointed out that he is 'Same', two postings prior, so technically I suppose I'm not actually 'NP'. We both use the computer at the kitchen desk. So, now 'School Play', you've heard from both of us. Let me know if you want an opinion from our kids. Interestingly, neither of us post on Facebook but we love to read the posts of our friends and family. We both think you need to stop projecting about "others' disappointments" and focus more on why you are so "insecure" that you can't read other people's good news without thinking that it is 'bragging'.
Honest opinion: you and your husband sound like boors.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 06:35
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone overshares...everything. Where your kids go to college is far more important than checking in at some chain restaurant.
Same. I want to hear about your kids. I don't care so much about what you had for lunch.
I want to hear about the school play. I don't care if you brag about your kid's college acceptance, but I will think less of you. Bragging has long been associated with people who are insecure, living through their kids, or oblivious to others' disappointments. There are good reasons and precedents for these interpretations of your bragging, and no amount of defending bragging on DCUM is going to change how others perceive you. Don't brag.
NP here. Posting a fact - Hooray! Oslo was accepted at Yippee-Ki-Yay University! - is not bragging.
Slight correction. I say 'NP here' in the immediately preceding post. My husband looked over my shoulder and pointed out that he is 'Same', two postings prior, so technically I suppose I'm not actually 'NP'. We both use the computer at the kitchen desk. So, now 'School Play', you've heard from both of us. Let me know if you want an opinion from our kids. Interestingly, neither of us post on Facebook but we love to read the posts of our friends and family. We both think you need to stop projecting about "others' disappointments" and focus more on why you are so "insecure" that you can't read other people's good news without thinking that it is 'bragging'.
+100 This is exactly what I was trying to say in an earlier post. By not saying anything because of potential hurt feelings, they are projecting on others that they can't handle the news. Those poor people who didn't get accepted to an ivy league like my darling snowflake would be devastated when they read the news.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 06:24
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone overshares...everything. Where your kids go to college is far more important than checking in at some chain restaurant.
Same. I want to hear about your kids. I don't care so much about what you had for lunch.
I want to hear about the school play. I don't care if you brag about your kid's college acceptance, but I will think less of you. Bragging has long been associated with people who are insecure, living through their kids, or oblivious to others' disappointments. There are good reasons and precedents for these interpretations of your bragging, and no amount of defending bragging on DCUM is going to change how others perceive you. Don't brag.
NP here. Posting a fact - Hooray! Oslo was accepted at Yippee-Ki-Yay University! - is not bragging.
Slight correction. I say 'NP here' in the immediately preceding post. My husband looked over my shoulder and pointed out that he is 'Same', two postings prior, so technically I suppose I'm not actually 'NP'. We both use the computer at the kitchen desk. So, now 'School Play', you've heard from both of us. Let me know if you want an opinion from our kids. Interestingly, neither of us post on Facebook but we love to read the posts of our friends and family. We both think you need to stop projecting about "others' disappointments" and focus more on why you are so "insecure" that you can't read other people's good news without thinking that it is 'bragging'.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 06:17
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone overshares...everything. Where your kids go to college is far more important than checking in at some chain restaurant.
Same. I want to hear about your kids. I don't care so much about what you had for lunch.
I want to hear about the school play. I don't care if you brag about your kid's college acceptance, but I will think less of you. Bragging has long been associated with people who are insecure, living through their kids, or oblivious to others' disappointments. There are good reasons and precedents for these interpretations of your bragging, and no amount of defending bragging on DCUM is going to change how others perceive you. Don't brag.
NP here. Posting a fact - Hooray! Oslo was accepted at Yippee-Ki-Yay University! - is not bragging.
Huh? Go look up the definition of bragging. A statement of fact does not disqualify it from being a brag:
"We own a Rolls Royce!"
"My salary just tipped over 3 million!"
"We could have built a 5000 sq ft house, but we went with a 7500 sq ft house."
"Larlo just accepted at Harvard!"
All of these can be factually correct AND considered a brag.
Anonymous
12/22/2016 06:06
Subject: Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Everyone overshares...everything. Where your kids go to college is far more important than checking in at some chain restaurant.
Same. I want to hear about your kids. I don't care so much about what you had for lunch.
I want to hear about the school play. I don't care if you brag about your kid's college acceptance, but I will think less of you. Bragging has long been associated with people who are insecure, living through their kids, or oblivious to others' disappointments. There are good reasons and precedents for these interpretations of your bragging, and no amount of defending bragging on DCUM is going to change how others perceive you. Don't brag.
NP here. Posting a fact - Hooray! Oslo was accepted at Yippee-Ki-Yay University! - is not bragging.