Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 15:42     Subject: Re:We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

It was pretty brutal. The older one understood and burst into tears. The younger one doesn't really understand and watched his brother for his cues... Burst into tears and flipped out. Sobbed, flung himself into my arms and begged us to not divorce. They cried like I've never seen before. I sobbed. My husband didn't. He was probably sitting there thinking about his horse faced ho-worker and their special, special love.

Kids have been over to see their dads new place, and seem excited about getting furniture for their new rooms. I've talked it up, told them how much fun they will have in that neighborhood, etc.

Hardest part now is living with him until he moves out in a week.

The older one occasionally comes over and sits down and asks a question about what divorce means. He really wants to know why it is happening. We've just told him it has nothing to do with him, and he can't change it, and that we love him and that will never change.


I really admire you for being the better person in all of this. Hold strong, and ignore the trolls who will try and get you to attack the ex husband and AP.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 15:32     Subject: Re:We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Op here.

It was pretty brutal. The older one understood and burst into tears. The younger one doesn't really understand and watched his brother for his cues... Burst into tears and flipped out. Sobbed, flung himself into my arms and begged us to not divorce. They cried like I've never seen before. I sobbed. My husband didn't. He was probably sitting there thinking about his horse faced ho-worker and their special, special love.

Kids have been over to see their dads new place, and seem excited about getting furniture for their new rooms. I've talked it up, told them how much fun they will have in that neighborhood, etc.

Hardest part now is living with him until he moves out in a week.

The older one occasionally comes over and sits down and asks a question about what divorce means. He really wants to know why it is happening. We've just told him it has nothing to do with him, and he can't change it, and that we love him and that will never change.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 15:32     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

Don't you get it? It has nothing to do with looks. I want to be with a woman who will respect my opinion, laugh at my jokes, and enjoy having sex with me; not with some bitch like you.


+1 Men choose mistresses based on how the woman makes them feel about themselves, not by how they look. This is why so many midlife men are susceptible to affairs. Did you see some of the gross strippers Tiger Woods cheated on Elin Nordegren with?


Attention all women: this is the brutal truth and it works in the opposite. Whenever I see one of these stories with the guy who has multiple girlfriends and takes their money, it is never some big stud with an expensive car, it is some overweight nebbish who tells women what they want to hear.

Men and women want to feel desired, special, and sexy. Been that way forever and always will be.


Yes, 1000x yes. My AP's wife is more attractive than I am. But she won't have sex with him and honestly, she's kind of bitchy. You might think I'm biased, but well before I knew him I didn't like her much.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 15:25     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another hour or so until we tell them. They've been enjoying their morning doing various activities all day so far. The closer the time gets, the angrier I get with him.

Last night, he finally, FINALLY acknowledged after over a year of therapy that they told each other they were in love with each other. He denied, denied, denied for a year. Lied in counseling. And now I know why nothing was going to ever work. The more I process this, the angrier I get. Such a liar, such a betrayal.

She isn't even attractive. She has giant horse teeth, including one big gray dead tooth in the front. Very mousy. Yes, this is me being petty and bitchy, but dear god, just let me have this pettiness in this moment.




BARF. I also hate bad teeth. My DH cheated and picked out a house with an ugly woman. I am pretty hot. It just speaks to the crazy shit show you don't want to be apart of anymore. Good, take him. You can have him, because he is obviously nuts.


Don't you get it? It has nothing to do with looks. I want to be with a woman who will respect my opinion, laugh at my jokes, and enjoy having sex with me; not with some bitch like you.


+1 Men choose mistresses based on how the woman makes them feel about themselves, not by how they look. This is why so many midlife men are susceptible to affairs. Did you see some of the gross strippers Tiger Woods cheated on Elin Nordegren with?


Attention all women: this is the brutal truth and it works in the opposite. Whenever I see one of these stories with the guy who has multiple girlfriends and takes their money, it is never some big stud with an expensive car, it is some overweight nebbish who tells women what they want to hear.

Men and women want to feel desired, special, and sexy. Been that way forever and always will be.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 14:50     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another hour or so until we tell them. They've been enjoying their morning doing various activities all day so far. The closer the time gets, the angrier I get with him.

Last night, he finally, FINALLY acknowledged after over a year of therapy that they told each other they were in love with each other. He denied, denied, denied for a year. Lied in counseling. And now I know why nothing was going to ever work. The more I process this, the angrier I get. Such a liar, such a betrayal.

She isn't even attractive. She has giant horse teeth, including one big gray dead tooth in the front. Very mousy. Yes, this is me being petty and bitchy, but dear god, just let me have this pettiness in this moment.




BARF. I also hate bad teeth. My DH cheated and picked out a house with an ugly woman. I am pretty hot. It just speaks to the crazy shit show you don't want to be apart of anymore. Good, take him. You can have him, because he is obviously nuts.


Don't you get it? It has nothing to do with looks. I want to be with a woman who will respect my opinion, laugh at my jokes, and enjoy having sex with me; not with some bitch like you.


Then why do so many men on this forum get all upset when their wives gain twenty lbs?


Because first wives who get fat AND are bitches are not worth the hassle.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 13:45     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another hour or so until we tell them. They've been enjoying their morning doing various activities all day so far. The closer the time gets, the angrier I get with him.

Last night, he finally, FINALLY acknowledged after over a year of therapy that they told each other they were in love with each other. He denied, denied, denied for a year. Lied in counseling. And now I know why nothing was going to ever work. The more I process this, the angrier I get. Such a liar, such a betrayal.

She isn't even attractive. She has giant horse teeth, including one big gray dead tooth in the front. Very mousy. Yes, this is me being petty and bitchy, but dear god, just let me have this pettiness in this moment.




BARF. I also hate bad teeth. My DH cheated and picked out a house with an ugly woman. I am pretty hot. It just speaks to the crazy shit show you don't want to be apart of anymore. Good, take him. You can have him, because he is obviously nuts.


Don't you get it? It has nothing to do with looks. I want to be with a woman who will respect my opinion, laugh at my jokes, and enjoy having sex with me; not with some bitch like you.


Then why do so many men on this forum get all upset when their wives gain twenty lbs?
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 13:44     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Dhs xw is prettier than I am. She's also an awful person. Her own child doesn't want to live with her.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 13:42     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another hour or so until we tell them. They've been enjoying their morning doing various activities all day so far. The closer the time gets, the angrier I get with him.

Last night, he finally, FINALLY acknowledged after over a year of therapy that they told each other they were in love with each other. He denied, denied, denied for a year. Lied in counseling. And now I know why nothing was going to ever work. The more I process this, the angrier I get. Such a liar, such a betrayal.

She isn't even attractive. She has giant horse teeth, including one big gray dead tooth in the front. Very mousy. Yes, this is me being petty and bitchy, but dear god, just let me have this pettiness in this moment.




BARF. I also hate bad teeth. My DH cheated and picked out a house with an ugly woman. I am pretty hot. It just speaks to the crazy shit show you don't want to be apart of anymore. Good, take him. You can have him, because he is obviously nuts.


Don't you get it? It has nothing to do with looks. I want to be with a woman who will respect my opinion, laugh at my jokes, and enjoy having sex with me; not with some bitch like you.



+1
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 12:25     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

It's Sunday op, how did it go?
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 11:51     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another hour or so until we tell them. They've been enjoying their morning doing various activities all day so far. The closer the time gets, the angrier I get with him.

Last night, he finally, FINALLY acknowledged after over a year of therapy that they told each other they were in love with each other. He denied, denied, denied for a year. Lied in counseling. And now I know why nothing was going to ever work. The more I process this, the angrier I get. Such a liar, such a betrayal.

She isn't even attractive. She has giant horse teeth, including one big gray dead tooth in the front. Very mousy. Yes, this is me being petty and bitchy, but dear god, just let me have this pettiness in this moment.




BARF. I also hate bad teeth. My DH cheated and picked out a house with an ugly woman. I am pretty hot. It just speaks to the crazy shit show you don't want to be apart of anymore. Good, take him. You can have him, because he is obviously nuts.


Don't you get it? It has nothing to do with looks. I want to be with a woman who will respect my opinion, laugh at my jokes, and enjoy having sex with me; not with some bitch like you.


+1 Men choose mistresses based on how the woman makes them feel about themselves, not by how they look. This is why so many midlife men are susceptible to affairs. Did you see some of the gross strippers Tiger Woods cheated on Elin Nordegren with?
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 11:42     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another hour or so until we tell them. They've been enjoying their morning doing various activities all day so far. The closer the time gets, the angrier I get with him.

Last night, he finally, FINALLY acknowledged after over a year of therapy that they told each other they were in love with each other. He denied, denied, denied for a year. Lied in counseling. And now I know why nothing was going to ever work. The more I process this, the angrier I get. Such a liar, such a betrayal.

She isn't even attractive. She has giant horse teeth, including one big gray dead tooth in the front. Very mousy. Yes, this is me being petty and bitchy, but dear god, just let me have this pettiness in this moment.




BARF. I also hate bad teeth. My DH cheated and picked out a house with an ugly woman. I am pretty hot. It just speaks to the crazy shit show you don't want to be apart of anymore. Good, take him. You can have him, because he is obviously nuts.


Don't you get it? It has nothing to do with looks. I want to be with a woman who will respect my opinion, laugh at my jokes, and enjoy having sex with me; not with some bitch like you.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 10:37     Subject: Re:We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Get a kiddieshrink to advise u before telling kids to to you how to do it.

Tell the spouse of cheater.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 09:25     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Another hour or so until we tell them. They've been enjoying their morning doing various activities all day so far. The closer the time gets, the angrier I get with him.

Last night, he finally, FINALLY acknowledged after over a year of therapy that they told each other they were in love with each other. He denied, denied, denied for a year. Lied in counseling. And now I know why nothing was going to ever work. The more I process this, the angrier I get. Such a liar, such a betrayal.

She isn't even attractive. She has giant horse teeth, including one big gray dead tooth in the front. Very mousy. Yes, this is me being petty and bitchy, but dear god, just let me have this pettiness in this moment.




BARF. I also hate bad teeth. My DH cheated and picked out a house with an ugly woman. I am pretty hot. It just speaks to the crazy shit show you don't want to be apart of anymore. Good, take him. You can have him, because he is obviously nuts.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 07:27     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

Tell them you and their father will always love them, it was not their fault that you are separating and they they will remain the number 1 priority for both of you.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2016 05:21     Subject: We are separating, telling kids on Saturday

How did it go, OP? Thinking of you. You seem very strong and capable and just the right amount of sad and angry without letting it consume you. I just know you and your kids will be ok.