We have a shared hamper so we wash each other's laundry. But, each person is responsible for putting their own away. If I'm feeling nice, I will match up DH's socks (mostly to get him to put his laundry away more quickly)!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a sahm, not a housewife. Dh does his own laundry, I do my own. We both do the kids' laundry but it's about a 70/30 split on who folds/puts away their clothes. that's mostly bc dh is terrible at folding.

What's the difference? My stay at home mother and grandmother both called themselves housewives. Is there something in the SAHM job description that they weren't doing in the 40s and 60s?

Sounds like feminist crap. Its OK to be a sahm but somehow demeaning to be a housewife.

It actually sounds like anti-feminist / post-feminist crap, repackaging housewife into SAHM to make it seem more like the right chocked for educated women.

I used to insist dh told his own clothes, or at least put away what I folded for him. It was always a fight! I hated leaving stuff out and he didn't care. It would have taken him no more than 5 minutes but he was very lazy about it. I finally hit a point (after some intense arguments) where I just do it all and it makes MY life much easier. It was mind boggling to me that this was such an issue at all for him. He's a great guy, but he has his weaknesses and basic house things are among them. It just wasn't worth the fight (even though I was right and it was only fair). Still, who cares? Peace in the home is worth more. In general I'd say I do about 80% of indoor housework and he does everything outside. We both work full-time and have two young kids, so time is precious.

We both work. I do all the laundry including folding, and leave his on top of his dresser. He puts it away. I don't mind doing laundry and he pulls his weight in other ways (e.g. prepares all the food/snacks for daycare, gets out toddler dressed/gives her breakfast/drops her off every day) so I don't feel it's unfair or anything.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a sahm, not a housewife. Dh does his own laundry, I do my own. We both do the kids' laundry but it's about a 70/30 split on who folds/puts away their clothes. that's mostly bc dh is terrible at folding.

What's the difference? My stay at home mother and grandmother both called themselves housewives. Is there something in the SAHM job description that they weren't doing in the 40s and 60s?

Sounds like feminist crap. Its OK to be a sahm but somehow demeaning to be a housewife.

Guy here ill do laundry,wash dishes if wife mows lawn and repair house stuff including cars. Last time she mowed the lawn she ran over all the sprinklers lol

That is so odd that the others thought it was so unusual that your hubby folds his own clothes and puts them away.

I see nothing wrong with this, unless he is disabled at all...He is capable of taking care of his laundry, who says it is a "Women's Only" task??

Anonymous wrote:I'm a sahm, not a housewife. Dh does his own laundry, I do my own. We both do the kids' laundry but it's about a 70/30 split on who folds/puts away their clothes. that's mostly bc dh is terrible at folding.

What's the difference? My stay at home mother and grandmother both called themselves housewives. Is there something in the SAHM job description that they weren't doing in the 40s and 60s?

Anonymous wrote:I'm a sahm, not a housewife. Dh does his own laundry, I do my own. We both do the kids' laundry but it's about a 70/30 split on who folds/puts away their clothes. that's mostly bc dh is terrible at folding.

Keep telling yourself that to feel more like a SAHM and less like a housewife. Folding kids clothes is definitely very difficult for men. His big man hands and all.... Just own your gender traditional roles and move on. He's terrible at folding because he doesn't aspire to be great. It's important to you that clothes aren't just shoved in drawers all misshapen so you just do it the right way/your way because it makes you happy.

I wash, fold and put away all my husband's laundry. I do this every weekend. I also drop off and pick up the dry cleaning for both of us.
My husband washes and puts away my dishes every single day, so I think it's fair.

For some reason it seems like woman's work, whereas cooking doesn't feel that way and DH does 90% of cooking in the house. We both WOH. Weird but I feel as if I should do laundry. I do 99% of laundry and putting away. DH does 99% of taking out the trash. We both care for our toddler, from bathing to feeding to clothing. But laundry and trash is assigned mutually to traditional gender roles.

DW here. I wash, fold and iron his clothes. He wears dress shirts so it's actually a lot of ironing. I don't mind it and enjoy folding/ironing in front of the TV. DH cooks and does all the lawn work. He's pretty thrilled about never having to do laundry

I do most of the laundry as far as putting it in the washer, rotating to the dryer and taking it out. I'll hang up all dress clothes immediately, then DH usually folds and puts everything else away.

Whoever does laundry, folds it. We normally put away our own. I don't know how DH wants his stuff, and he usually makes a mess of mine. It's just easier if I put it away myself.

We're not hung up on whose what and how. DH has no issues doing my mother's laundry when she visits LOL

I'm a sahm, not a housewife. Dh does his own laundry, I do my own. We both do the kids' laundry but it's about a 70/30 split on who folds/puts away their clothes. that's mostly bc dh is terrible at folding.