Anonymous wrote:The responses here are absolutely insane, over-the-top paranoid.

This woman has one, one night a week in which to get away from her four children under 5. She spends the majority of it driving to, from, and attending a workout class, and has explained that she hangs out with friends she's made in the class afterwards. This is probably the only thing that keeps her sane, after a week of wiping dirty butts, watching Caillou, and otherwise doing mindnumbingly boring childcare tasks. And yet her husband won't let her have this little bit of time. No, he and almost everyone else here thinks she must be balling her instructor.

OP, I work out every day, at one of four different studios. If I learned that my husband had called any of them to verify, I would a) expect them not to divulge any information, since how do they know it's not a stalker, and b) rip my husband a new one. If he showed up in the middle of a class, I would a) expect them not to let him in, since classes are solely for the participants, not for gawkers and paranoid husbands, and b) rip my husband a second new one. But you know what? He doesn't do that, because we have something called trust. What has your wife done that makes you distrust her? Do you verify your location at every single moment of the day to her? Would you allow her to track you by cell phone?

If you trust your wife, for god's sake. don't take any of this horrible advice about private investigators and cell phone tracking. If you don't trust her, divorce her, because your marriage is already over.

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are absolutely insane, over-the-top paranoid.

This woman has one, one night a week in which to get away from her four children under 5. She spends the majority of it driving to, from, and attending a workout class, and has explained that she hangs out with friends she's made in the class afterwards. This is probably the only thing that keeps her sane, after a week of wiping dirty butts, watching Caillou, and otherwise doing mindnumbingly boring childcare tasks. And yet her husband won't let her have this little bit of time. No, he and almost everyone else here thinks she must be balling her instructor.

OP, I work out every day, at one of four different studios. If I learned that my husband had called any of them to verify, I would a) expect them not to divulge any information, since how do they know it's not a stalker, and b) rip my husband a new one. If he showed up in the middle of a class, I would a) expect them not to let him in, since classes are solely for the participants, not for gawkers and paranoid husbands, and b) rip my husband a second new one. But you know what? He doesn't do that, because we have something called trust. What has your wife done that makes you distrust her? Do you verify your location at every single moment of the day to her? Would you allow her to track you by cell phone?

If you trust your wife, for god's sake. don't take any of this horrible advice about private investigators and cell phone tracking. If you don't trust her, divorce her, because your marriage is already over.

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are absolutely insane, over-the-top paranoid.

This woman has one, one night a week in which to get away from her four children under 5. She spends the majority of it driving to, from, and attending a workout class, and has explained that she hangs out with friends she's made in the class afterwards. This is probably the only thing that keeps her sane, after a week of wiping dirty butts, watching Caillou, and otherwise doing mindnumbingly boring childcare tasks. And yet her husband won't let her have this little bit of time. No, he and almost everyone else here thinks she must be balling her instructor.

OP, I work out every day, at one of four different studios. If I learned that my husband had called any of them to verify, I would a) expect them not to divulge any information, since how do they know it's not a stalker, and b) rip my husband a new one. If he showed up in the middle of a class, I would a) expect them not to let him in, since classes are solely for the participants, not for gawkers and paranoid husbands, and b) rip my husband a second new one. But you know what? He doesn't do that, because we have something called trust. What has your wife done that makes you distrust her? Do you verify your location at every single moment of the day to her? Would you allow her to track you by cell phone?

If you trust your wife, for god's sake. don't take any of this horrible advice about private investigators and cell phone tracking. If you don't trust her, divorce her, because your marriage is already over.

Anonymous wrote:Another vote for the PI. I don't see how you are going to be able to follow her without her knowing. (Unless you day job is a secret agent.)
Also agree to maybe wait a bit, as your recent queries might have them on guard.

Anonymous wrote:I did the warrior dash with a big group of friends. None of us trained and it wasn't exactly a competitive event. It was more like a "get really muddy and messy and then drink tons of beer" type of event. It was absolutely not worthy of weekly training sessions.