No, I have this thing where I don't hit people. Especially those I love. ESPECIALLY those for whom I am mentally, physically and emotionally responsible.

Anonymous wrote:When my kid was little around 2, she pushed every button, and I ended up spanking her once or twice. I felt so bad that I let myself do that. I vowed never to do it again, and I haven't.

I remember being hit by my parents even when I was like 10 years old, my dad hit me with a belt. I will never forget it, and would not want to do anything like that to my children.

No one here advocates hitting with a belt or any instrument. Spanking should be open handed, never a fist.

When my kid was little around 2, she pushed every button, and I ended up spanking her once or twice. I felt so bad that I let myself do that. I vowed never to do it again, and I haven't.

I remember being hit by my parents even when I was like 10 years old, my dad hit me with a belt. I will never forget it, and would not want to do anything like that to my children.

Never could understand how you could impart to your child that hitting is wrong if it's supposed to be okay that YOU hit THEM. What if their infraction was hitting someone? Do you seriously say "Stop hitting So-and-so!" then when they don't listen, go hit them?

Hear hear, PP. Punishment is not a part of the teaching I do, nor do I want it a part of the teaching my child's teacher does. I wish it wasn't a part of our culture, frankly, because I think the punishment idea is a worse idea than the idea of atonement, which is much more powerful and actually makes people responsible for restitution. Even little kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, we spank. It works for our family. It's they calm, measured soanking. Never in anger.

Oh, measured and controlled hitting? Got it. Do you teach them they can hit others, as long as they aren't angry?

Nope, just like I don't teach them it's okay to take away others toys away, put others in time out, send others to bed early, or away others' desserts.

This. People make the same stupid arguments, and never think for half a second that they're arguing against the concept of discipline altogether.

Discipline is teaching. Thinking that hitting is a bad way to teach doesn't mean that I am against teaching.

Hitting is a punishment. Punishment is sometimes a necessary part of teaching.

Punishment is never a necessary part of teaching.

Yes I do spank my 5y old.

Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot believe anyone does this in 2015.

One generation ago it was the "go to" disciplinary method basically. You can't expect that to change in such a short period of time. Obviously there are other factors that play into this such as SES though.

We don't have kids yet and don't plan on spanking them (I was not spanked as a kid myself, although my spouse was). But I wouldn't see it as a problem and something to judge others for doing (within reason, I'm not talking about people that hit their kids just because). There is a difference between spanking and "beating". I don't think its any more damaging than sending a kid to be isolated in their room.

Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot believe anyone does this in 2015.

Between 80-90% of parents report that they spank.

I simply cannot believe anyone does this in 2015.

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Anonymous wrote:I spank but very rarely (once a month, maybe). It works, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel bad about doing it. Sometimes it's the only thing that will get my kid to shape up.

I think on DCUM you'll find that a majority of the posters will tell you it's unnecessary and abusive.

that seems like a lot. I read that people notoriously under report how much they spank. All those "swats" on the behind count as spanking too. I think its closer to 17 times/week in reality. Ridiculous. And no we don't spank. You don't have to hit your kid to discpline them. Its low class.

Once a month is definitely not a lot. We've had periods where it might be a couple times a week.

Anonymous wrote:I spank but very rarely (once a month, maybe). It works, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel bad about doing it. Sometimes it's the only thing that will get my kid to shape up.

I think on DCUM you'll find that a majority of the posters will tell you it's unnecessary and abusive.

that seems like a lot. I read that people notoriously under report how much they spank. All those "swats" on the behind count as spanking too. I think its closer to 17 times/week in reality. Ridiculous. And no we don't spank. You don't have to hit your kid to discpline them. Its low class.

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Anonymous wrote:We're from Texas, and believe that the "Board of Education" can impart valuable lessons on the backside of a misbehaving child.

Everything is bigger in Texas... except intelligence.

np. Generally, kids are a lot more respectful there.

Anonymous wrote:We're from Texas, and believe that the "Board of Education" can impart valuable lessons on the backside of a misbehaving child.

Everything is bigger in Texas... except intelligence.