Anonymous
08/17/2015 22:56
Subject: Coming to grips with longterm relationship ending... why so hard?
Here is your reason...
We've been taught in our culture that you only leave bad relationships. Especially women, if a man likes you, you stay. You never know if another one is going to come around. So we don't have to skills to identify a good enough to date, but not good enough to marry relationship and how to get out of them. For her the relationship is still good enough to date. You are frustrated because for you it is not good enough for marriage and you don't know why she wont work to move the relationship from good enough to date to good enough to marry.
She doesn't know why either. She's been taught that when she finds a good guy, marry him (and do whatever you need to do to seal that deal). But there is a part of her that knows that you guys don't have what it takes to get married. But it is in a weird, repressed, illogical place that she cant reach. So she keeps with the status quo hoping it will get better. Wanting it to get better and not understanding why she cant make it better.
Do her (and DCUM) a favor and just break up with her.
We've been taught in our culture that you only leave bad relationships. Especially women, if a man likes you, you stay. You never know if another one is going to come around. So we don't have to skills to identify a good enough to date, but not good enough to marry relationship and how to get out of them. For her the relationship is still good enough to date. You are frustrated because for you it is not good enough for marriage and you don't know why she wont work to move the relationship from good enough to date to good enough to marry.
She doesn't know why either. She's been taught that when she finds a good guy, marry him (and do whatever you need to do to seal that deal). But there is a part of her that knows that you guys don't have what it takes to get married. But it is in a weird, repressed, illogical place that she cant reach. So she keeps with the status quo hoping it will get better. Wanting it to get better and not understanding why she cant make it better.
Do her (and DCUM) a favor and just break up with her.
Anonymous
08/17/2015 21:59
Subject: Re:Coming to grips with longterm relationship ending... why so hard?
I think some people are being kind of hard on OP. He realizes the relationship is essentially over, that is why he titled this thread "Coming to grips with longterm relationship ending...why so hard?"
So he knows it's over, but having trouble taking the next step.
Op I agree it is very hard!!!! How about setting a deadline in your head, and just living with the thought for a few weeks.
Focus on doing things for yourself and not on pleasing her.
There is no logic in peoples' emotions and trying to figure her out will just drive you crazy. She's not worth it!!
Good luck to you.
So he knows it's over, but having trouble taking the next step.
Op I agree it is very hard!!!! How about setting a deadline in your head, and just living with the thought for a few weeks.
Focus on doing things for yourself and not on pleasing her.
There is no logic in peoples' emotions and trying to figure her out will just drive you crazy. She's not worth it!!
Good luck to you.
Anonymous
08/17/2015 21:50
Subject: Coming to grips with longterm relationship ending... why so hard?
Anonymous wrote:She wants marriage and a baby, but not enough to have sex with you.
This. Brilliant
Anonymous
08/17/2015 21:49
Subject: Re:Coming to grips with longterm relationship ending... why so hard?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Asperger's for sure.
+1
I agree that Asperger's does not automatically make you a jerk, but this OP is without a doubt a jerk who happens to have Asperger's.
x2
X3
Anonymous
08/17/2015 21:45
Subject: Re:Coming to grips with longterm relationship ending... why so hard?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Asperger's for sure.
+1
I agree that Asperger's does not automatically make you a jerk, but this OP is without a doubt a jerk who happens to have Asperger's.
x2
Hope you feel proud of your little clique. Ignorance and bigotry toward people on the spectrum is inexcusable under any circumstance.
Anonymous
08/17/2015 21:32
Subject: Re:Coming to grips with longterm relationship ending... why so hard?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Asperger's for sure.
+1
I agree that Asperger's does not automatically make you a jerk, but this OP is without a doubt a jerk who happens to have Asperger's.
x2
Anonymous
08/17/2015 21:29
Subject: Coming to grips with longterm relationship ending... why so hard?
Anonymous wrote:http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/474181.page
THANK YOU.
Anonymous
08/17/2015 21:27
Subject: Coming to grips with longterm relationship ending... why so hard?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can someone please post the other thread this guy started?
It was the EXACT same details and tone. I think the posters asked him about Aspergers in that thread as well.
I can't find it on here but I remember it well
I thought I was going crazy, I totally remember that thread.
It was the exact same circular round and round argument demanding that someone tell him why his girlfriend was acting like this.
It was the exact same. He didn't even bother to change any details this time
The fact that he is denying he posted just shows how delusional this guy is, and what a poor grip on reality (and social understanding) he has.