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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This story sounds like something straight out of "Date Lab" in The Washington Post.

Why does Date Lab almost always fail?

I think it's because people are matched up to have so many things in common that there is no chemistry.

What's funny is more often than not, people rate the date high, then "I'm too busy" excuse happens, which is a cop out in my opinion.

The one in this past Sunday's edition made it to date 3, which is more than most. I think people don't have patience in date lab, but that is my opinion.

OP, do you think you really like this girl? After 4 dates, do you have a gut feeling about her? Does she make you giddy, or just hopeful for more groping-plus? The more you find yourself falling for someone, the more you're likely to do stupid/awesome stuff like text, call, wear your heart on your sleeve. And the giddier she is, the more likely she is to be receptive to it. There's really nothing to lose, imo, except for "face."

OP, do you think you really like this girl? After 4 dates, do you have a gut feeling about her? Does she make you giddy, or just hopeful for more groping-plus? The more you find yourself falling for someone, the more you're likely to do stupid/awesome stuff like text, call, wear your heart on your sleeve. And the giddier she is, the more likely she is to be receptive to it. There's really nothing to lose, imo, except for "face."

OP, how did you go from dinner on the second date to a day-time date at a museum for the third date? Was that her suggestion or yours? If hers she may have been trying to slow things down. If yours you may have been expressing ambivalence?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This story sounds like something straight out of "Date Lab" in The Washington Post.

Why does Date Lab almost always fail?

I think it's because people are matched up to have so many things in common that there is no chemistry.

Better luck next time. Maybe randomly text her in a few weeks just to see how she's doing/see if you can get lucky, but I would move on.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I lost you at groping.

Are you 12?

Try and give people a break. Getting back into dating after years has to brutal. Cell phones, Facebook, email, texting.".Its a whole new, dysfunctional world out there. So he groped her. What should have said? Felt her cans? Maybe he actually just held her elbow for 12 minutes?

I don't even know what that means but it's hilarious.

"Summer of 42" Great movie.

Anonymous wrote:This story sounds like something straight out of "Date Lab" in The Washington Post.

Why does Date Lab almost always fail?

This story sounds like something straight out of "Date Lab" in The Washington Post.

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just call her like a normal person and say I have enjoyed going out with you and I would like to to know if you would like to continue to go out or not?

If she doesn't say yes, then you can just say thanks for sharing your time and hang up. And move on.

Why can't people communicate?

Because he is over it.

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just call her like a normal person and say I have enjoyed going out with you and I would like to to know if you would like to continue to go out or not?

If she doesn't say yes, then you can just say thanks for sharing your time and hang up. And move on.

Why can't people communicate?

She will not pick up the phone he shouldn't waste his time.

Why can't you just call her like a normal person and say I have enjoyed going out with you and I would like to to know if you would like to continue to go out or not?

If she doesn't say yes, then you can just say thanks for sharing your time and hang up. And move on.

Why can't people communicate?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she wanted to get laid and you did not initiate any action - you said you made out and that was it.

So she has moved on.

Many guys figure that if a woman does not put out by the third date it is time to move on. Perhaps some women have a similar expectation.

PRETTY MUCH. If you're not having sex by date 3, women think men aren't interested. This dude needs to sack up, he's not 21 anymore.

#notallwomen some of us like to get to know somebody before we spread 'em wide and low. Three dates is not enough data points for me to feel like I can share my body with you. If your timeline is different, than by all means move on to the next.

Is this the new norm to ghost after date 4? I've been out of the game like 10 years. They had four dates together is there still a speed hump? How do people get together nowadays?

I think OP is done, whatever the reason it culminated in the Excuse on the last date.