There are animal lovers and there are "pet owners", and OP is the latter. Many of us are the former, and that doesn't make us crazy. My cat is causing us trouble too, and I may never get another one after he's gone but I made a committment to him when I adopted him 14 years ago and he is a member of our family. I will need to find a solution, and it may involve keeping him in one room, but whatever we decide to do it will be within our home and I will continue to take care of him. "Giving him the needle" is not an option, unless he's ill.

Now, we don't spend thousands in preventative care, teeth cleanings, blood work, etc and because he hates the vet we rarely take him. If he became ill enough that he needed lots of medical intervention I would probably decline, because he would be miserable and we don't have endless funds. But I won't euthanize him for peeing outside his box.

Anonymous wrote:Chronically incontinent pets eventually need to be euthanized. Nobody needs to live that way for year after year. Seriously, people. I have a cat that we adore who is in the throes of this - pooping outside of the box and peeing on the living room rug. This is in addition to his general neediness - crying all night, sleeping on our pillows, destroying furniture, etc. We are slowly working our way through the checklist: no UTI's, change of diet, extra litter boxes, different litter, and so on. Next we will try Prozac. But eventually, I am going to run out of patience and have him put down. And it will be very, very sad, but we will all be fine.

PS. We took this cat from someone else who couldn't deal with him, so he's already been rehomed once for this.

How do you handle when your cat pees on the rug? Any cleanser efficient? I basically gave up and rolled up our rig, which sucks. It's okay in the summer, but not the winter.

OP, I don't know how you could stay with a man who demands that you ditch your cat...??

And honestly, if he didn't feel so strongly about the issue, would it be such an issue for you personally??

It is sad how so many pets get the rawest deals when their owners end up finding mates that cannot deal with them.

So many pets get relinquished for this very reason.

And that is not right.

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, I can't understand why the OP simply doesn't do what she wants with her cat. She seems to have made up her mind. Why engage in this back and forth?

OP here. I have indeed decided. After thinking more about the impact rehoming would have on my very anxious cat, and recognizing that her issues are likely age-related (kitty dementia or kitty arthritis), and knowing that she's currently sitting directly within the window of average end-of-life age, if things start going badly again and cannot be remedied without heroic measures or incompatible-with-our-reality measures, I will euthanize her. At home.

Probably the best. Thanks for getting us all riled up. You were probably the type of girl in college who would go sit in on your friend's dorm room floor and cry and cry and cry, and eat popcorn, and cry, and ask what to do about her so-called boyfriend, every weekend, for hours, all freshman year. And sophomore year. And junior year.

OP had decided last week. it's the crazy pets-above-people assholes who prolonged this thread. this is at least the 2nd time she's said what she'll be doing.

Oh good, let's get started again.

Sorry. I just really can't stand those people. I wish I could kick them when they're down as they've kicked me and so many others.

Wow. How old are you?

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, I can't understand why the OP simply doesn't do what she wants with her cat. She seems to have made up her mind. Why engage in this back and forth?

OP here. I have indeed decided. After thinking more about the impact rehoming would have on my very anxious cat, and recognizing that her issues are likely age-related (kitty dementia or kitty arthritis), and knowing that she's currently sitting directly within the window of average end-of-life age, if things start going badly again and cannot be remedied without heroic measures or incompatible-with-our-reality measures, I will euthanize her. At home.

Probably the best. Thanks for getting us all riled up. You were probably the type of girl in college who would go sit in on your friend's dorm room floor and cry and cry and cry, and eat popcorn, and cry, and ask what to do about her so-called boyfriend, every weekend, for hours, all freshman year. And sophomore year. And junior year.

OP had decided last week. it's the crazy pets-above-people assholes who prolonged this thread. this is at least the 2nd time she's said what she'll be doing.

Oh good, let's get started again.

Sorry. I just really can't stand those people. I wish I could kick them when they're down as they've kicked me and so many others.

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, I can't understand why the OP simply doesn't do what she wants with her cat. She seems to have made up her mind. Why engage in this back and forth?

OP here. I have indeed decided. After thinking more about the impact rehoming would have on my very anxious cat, and recognizing that her issues are likely age-related (kitty dementia or kitty arthritis), and knowing that she's currently sitting directly within the window of average end-of-life age, if things start going badly again and cannot be remedied without heroic measures or incompatible-with-our-reality measures, I will euthanize her. At home.

Probably the best. Thanks for getting us all riled up. You were probably the type of girl in college who would go sit in on your friend's dorm room floor and cry and cry and cry, and eat popcorn, and cry, and ask what to do about her so-called boyfriend, every weekend, for hours, all freshman year. And sophomore year. And junior year.

OP had decided last week. it's the crazy pets-above-people assholes who prolonged this thread. this is at least the 2nd time she's said what she'll be doing.

Oh good, let's get started again.

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, I can't understand why the OP simply doesn't do what she wants with her cat. She seems to have made up her mind. Why engage in this back and forth?

OP here. I have indeed decided. After thinking more about the impact rehoming would have on my very anxious cat, and recognizing that her issues are likely age-related (kitty dementia or kitty arthritis), and knowing that she's currently sitting directly within the window of average end-of-life age, if things start going badly again and cannot be remedied without heroic measures or incompatible-with-our-reality measures, I will euthanize her. At home.

Probably the best. Thanks for getting us all riled up. You were probably the type of girl in college who would go sit in on your friend's dorm room floor and cry and cry and cry, and eat popcorn, and cry, and ask what to do about her so-called boyfriend, every weekend, for hours, all freshman year. And sophomore year. And junior year.

OP had decided last week. it's the crazy pets-above-people assholes who prolonged this thread. this is at least the 2nd time she's said what she'll be doing.

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, I can't understand why the OP simply doesn't do what she wants with her cat. She seems to have made up her mind. Why engage in this back and forth?

OP here. I have indeed decided. After thinking more about the impact rehoming would have on my very anxious cat, and recognizing that her issues are likely age-related (kitty dementia or kitty arthritis), and knowing that she's currently sitting directly within the window of average end-of-life age, if things start going badly again and cannot be remedied without heroic measures or incompatible-with-our-reality measures, I will euthanize her. At home.

Probably the best. Thanks for getting us all riled up. You were probably the type of girl in college who would go sit in on your friend's dorm room floor and cry and cry and cry, and eat popcorn, and cry, and ask what to do about her so-called boyfriend, every weekend, for hours, all freshman year. And sophomore year. And junior year.

^^^^OP needs Prozac.^^^^^

^^^^^After her, we all need Prozac.^^^^^

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, I can't understand why the OP simply doesn't do what she wants with her cat. She seems to have made up her mind. Why engage in this back and forth?

OP here. I have indeed decided. After thinking more about the impact rehoming would have on my very anxious cat, and recognizing that her issues are likely age-related (kitty dementia or kitty arthritis), and knowing that she's currently sitting directly within the window of average end-of-life age, if things start going badly again and cannot be remedied without heroic measures or incompatible-with-our-reality measures, I will euthanize her. At home.

Probably the best. Thanks for getting us all riled up. You were probably the type of girl in college who would go sit in on your friend's dorm room floor and cry and cry and cry, and eat popcorn, and cry, and ask what to do about her so-called boyfriend, every weekend, for hours, all freshman year. And sophomore year. And junior year.

^^^^OP needs Prozac.^^^^^

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, I can't understand why the OP simply doesn't do what she wants with her cat. She seems to have made up her mind. Why engage in this back and forth?

OP here. I have indeed decided. After thinking more about the impact rehoming would have on my very anxious cat, and recognizing that her issues are likely age-related (kitty dementia or kitty arthritis), and knowing that she's currently sitting directly within the window of average end-of-life age, if things start going badly again and cannot be remedied without heroic measures or incompatible-with-our-reality measures, I will euthanize her. At home.

Probably the best. Thanks for getting us all riled up. You were probably the type of girl in college who would go sit in on your friend's dorm room floor and cry and cry and cry, and eat popcorn, and cry, and ask what to do about her so-called boyfriend, every weekend, for hours, all freshman year. And sophomore year. And junior year.

Anonymous wrote:At this point, I can't understand why the OP simply doesn't do what she wants with her cat. She seems to have made up her mind. Why engage in this back and forth?

OP here. I have indeed decided. After thinking more about the impact rehoming would have on my very anxious cat, and recognizing that her issues are likely age-related (kitty dementia or kitty arthritis), and knowing that she's currently sitting directly within the window of average end-of-life age, if things start going badly again and cannot be remedied without heroic measures or incompatible-with-our-reality measures, I will euthanize her. At home.

At this point, I can't understand why the OP simply doesn't do what she wants with her cat. She seems to have made up her mind. Why engage in this back and forth?

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Anonymous wrote:11:24 again. still LOLing. "bad people!" I mean, not even the most strident breastfeeders or anti-circumcisers will go that far. Even in the mommy war threads, there is SOME acknowledgement that different people have a right to make decisions about their kids that reflect their different values and lifestyles. But when it comes to PETS? All that's out the window, and anyone whose pet doesn't die in their arms is a Bad Person. Nuance be damned!

Still "LOL'ing? You sound a little. . .slow.

hey pp...^^^^^^ you are here

Thanks for this! I'm going to put this on my classroom wall next year. No sarcasm intended: this is great.

Chronically incontinent pets eventually need to be euthanized. Nobody needs to live that way for year after year. Seriously, people. I have a cat that we adore who is in the throes of this - pooping outside of the box and peeing on the living room rug. This is in addition to his general neediness - crying all night, sleeping on our pillows, destroying furniture, etc. We are slowly working our way through the checklist: no UTI's, change of diet, extra litter boxes, different litter, and so on. Next we will try Prozac. But eventually, I am going to run out of patience and have him put down. And it will be very, very sad, but we will all be fine.

PS. We took this cat from someone else who couldn't deal with him, so he's already been rehomed once for this.

OP, this is the poster who suggested Prozac on the previous page. If you have any left over, I suggest you give it to the crazy posters on this thread and then euthanize them. I am sorry they have hijacked this thread and turned it into a bizarre-fest. This is a difficult question; if they feel so strongly about it, perhaps they can provide you with their home addresses and you can surrender your cat to them. I am sure they will be able to fix her by cuddling her and possibly smearing essential oils all over her. She'll love that. and also they can do yoga poses together with your cat, that will certainly cure her urination issues. Namaste. OP is waiting for your contact info. Her cat sends love and says he likes catmint oil the best.