Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 09:47     Subject: Re:I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Well Jesus-H--what kind of response do you expect from boy moms with a condescending subject line like that?

Imagine if it was written-I feel sorry for dads of only girls. (Or moms for that matter).
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 09:22     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I always wanted boys only, never wanted girls. I have two boys and stopped at that. Didn't want to risk having girls.


Me too!! Love my sweet adorable boys!!


misogyny. Why do so many women hate women?


My first was a girl.

Four years later, I got pregnant again. I kept quite a few of my daughter's clothes that were absolutely adorable. And I thought to myself, Because both kids are May babies, the clothes would fit the seasons for #2.

When the technician said she saw a penis, I was disappointed, and I made that clear to her. (silly, right?) She said I had the perfect family. But all I kept thinking about were my two "daughters" who would grow up as close siblings. And then I wondered what I'd do with her clothes!

so silly

I love them both! They're very different, of course, and while they fight like cats and dogs, they're perfect to me in every way.


Perfect family would be boy then girl.
Girl then a boy would be my last choice.
I would sooner have two boys or two girls.


This is such an obnoxious and ridiculous response.

Thanks for offering nothing.

FWIW, my dad and his brother never got along. sibling rivalry all the way that created a huge gap in the family
On the other hand, I have cousins - five girls - who are as close as ever. You can't separate them.

so much for your "hierarchy"

Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 08:28     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the child, not gender. My MIL and I have a good relationship. Her other son, who lived near her, basically abandoned her when she was starting to get dementia. My husband was supportive, but I am the one who choose to move her here and be her caretaker for 9 months in our home prior to getting her into a nursing home. I do all her shopping, manage her finances, visit weekly and make sure everything is kept up at the nursing home. The bigger issue is who they marry to me.


Oh goodness I hope I get someone like you as a DIL! You are doing a wonderful job!


I want you as a DIL too! Mom with two boys here.


This is why moms of girls feel sorry for moms of only boys. Moms of girls are not currently hoping for a wonderful dil like you guys are, obviously already worried about your future relationship with your sons. Moms of girls have the luxury of not worrying due to our culture of "a son is a son until he takes a wife, a daughter is a daughter for life." They may be blindsided when their daughters grow up and defy cultural expectations, and you may be pleasantly surprised when your sons do too; or not. You won't know for 20-30 years. It is what it is. And I don't like worrying about things I can't control. I'd rather enjoy the beauty now.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 08:02     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
I am happy with what God gave me and thankful they are healthy. Man you sound really shallow to be giving that ignorant comment such attention. SAD.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 08:01     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Sorry you feel sorry for us. I don't feel the same. Love my boys and can't imagine having girls. I'm not a girly girl and could not stand it (it would be irritating) to have one.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 07:52     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I always wanted boys only, never wanted girls. I have two boys and stopped at that. Didn't want to risk having girls.


Wow, I'm glad you lucked out then. Wouldn't want at little girl to end up in a home like that. Personally, I always wanted whoever I was carrying. Boy or girl would have been loved and wanted just the same.


Plus 1
I was grateful for healthy children.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 07:27     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Anonymous wrote:So weird that women are bashing other moms.


And even weirder that women are bashing children based upon their gender. Wow, I thought healthy babies was what really mattered. I can see totally see a conversation like that take place on the playground between two mothers of girls. But this thread is horrible. People who feel so strongly about having one gender or the other should seriously consider gender selection before they conceive again.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 07:22     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Anonymous wrote:I always wanted boys only, never wanted girls. I have two boys and stopped at that. Didn't want to risk having girls.


Wow, I'm glad you lucked out then. Wouldn't want at little girl to end up in a home like that. Personally, I always wanted whoever I was carrying. Boy or girl would have been loved and wanted just the same.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 07:19     Subject: Re:I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Anonymous wrote:Just a comment on the caring for elderly parents part. I have three brothers and they live a few miles from my parents. They're extremely thoughtful, sensitive guys. And THEY were the ones in front lines of helping my mom when my dad was very ill. I live four hrs away so a lot of it was geographic proximity, but my brothers were always there with my mom during nights at the hospital, etc, and continue to help my mom do anything and everything she needs at her house. I just think it's important to remember that while it may be generally true that daughters often care more for elderly parents, that's not ALWAYS the case. What's important is to raise kind, good people. That's who my brothers are and why they stepped up to help my parents.


To add to this: my dad is the primary caregiver for my grandparents. His sister is not at all helpful! I happen to think a lot of it is financial resources. My dad can afford to pay for help so he's not actually wiping butts or driving to appointments.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 07:16     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Funny I feel really sorry for moms of all girls. I think that is actually a fairly common sentiment. Girls are SO MUCH harder to raise than boys. I have 1 daughter AND 3 boys and she is more work than the three of them put together!

I also think though most men won't admit it...almost every man desperately wants a son whereas I think there are a good number of women who are very happy to have all boys. Myself included though I love my D dearly.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 07:12     Subject: Re:I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Just a comment on the caring for elderly parents part. I have three brothers and they live a few miles from my parents. They're extremely thoughtful, sensitive guys. And THEY were the ones in front lines of helping my mom when my dad was very ill. I live four hrs away so a lot of it was geographic proximity, but my brothers were always there with my mom during nights at the hospital, etc, and continue to help my mom do anything and everything she needs at her house. I just think it's important to remember that while it may be generally true that daughters often care more for elderly parents, that's not ALWAYS the case. What's important is to raise kind, good people. That's who my brothers are and why they stepped up to help my parents.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2015 00:45     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Anonymous wrote:I overheard two women talking about how they were so glad that they had at least one girl and that they felt sorry for women who only had sons. They went on to talk about how lonely it would be to not have daughters when you are old. I have 2 boys and I keep thinking about these women and their comments.
I don't think you can generalize on something like this. Every person is different and have different experiences/circumstances that form them. We have two children of the same sex. Both are lovely and have different and same strengths and weaknesses. What a dumb thread.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2015 23:40     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It takes a helluva lot for a son not to love his mother.


Who does every major male athlete, soldier, etc thank on live team? That's right: mom.


TV- not team

Boys are fiercely protective of their mothers.

My friend that had a firstborn daughter gave me shit about how I didn't know what I was missing since I have boys.

Well- her second is a boy that hams her wrapped around his finger. He's 3 now and I feel sorry for her 5-year old daughter.


This is all so absurd. Yes, boys are protective of their mothers as are girls. My sister and I are much more involved and caring of our mother than our brother. But if anything were an emergency he would definitely be there. I'm a mom of two girls and we are closely bonded. My sister is the mother of two boys and they are closely bonded. We have a tight family all around regardless of being a boy or a girl. So to say "boys are fiercely protective of their mothers" is trying to say girls aren't. That's BS. This is all anecdotal.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2015 23:36     Subject: Re:I feel sorry for moms of only boys
Anonymous wrote:I work in geriatrics. It's the daughters who are caring for the elderly parents. Rarely the son. I only have a boy. I still don't want a girl though.


I work as a geriatrician and I see this too. Daughters are far more likely to be involved in their elderly parents lives than sons. Parents who only have boys are more likely to be alone/neglected in old age. Certainly there are those who defy this but it is definitely true.
It's also true in my own family. My SIL is much closer to her parents than my husband is and I'm closer to my parents than my brother is. Every is close but the ties between the daughter and parents are much stronger.

That said, I only have sons. It is what it is! I'm ecstatic to have any kids after dealing with infertility for years.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2015 23:09     Subject: I feel sorry for moms of only boys
So weird that women are bashing other moms.