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Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,

Please make a note to self that you should reread this thread once your child is about 3 and a half.

Thanks,

Everyone else

totally agree with this. I would not have intervened in this situation either, and I suspect OP will feel the same way when her DD is 4.

Anonymous wrote:So your kid stole toys and then hit and HE's the bad parent? Your kid sounds absolutely awful.

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,

Please make a note to self that you should reread this thread once your child is about 3 and a half.

Thanks,

Everyone else

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a tip you can use, OP. These "To the ____ who did ____ today" threads never go well. You just are starting off from a position where you look like a complainer. And you don't get a lot of sympathy when your kid hit someone on the playground.

LOl this is so true! Has one of these EVER gone OP's way?

Exactly. This is almost the opposite of the story time library mom. Everyone was attacking her for "not sharing" with the other kid who came up & ATTEMPTED to take the whole bin of toys. They were all on the toy stealing kids side in that situation, but now, all of a sudden, OP's kid is in the wrong for trying to take a toy that wasn't being played with. Typical.

Anonymous wrote:Excellent teachable moment!

I've used similar situations to explain politics to my young kids. More specifically: the difference between Democrats and Republicans. The last time it happened, I took it a step further by explaining how republicans not only refuse to share, but also have a propensity towards throwing sand aimlessly without considering the impact of those around them. I'm totally serious. Most folks around me laughed, and one father actually applauded and ask me who I worked for.

Again, use these moments to educate your child (and those around you).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know the 4/5 year old is not autistic or has some other impairment? Perhaps the father should explain that to you rather than let it go on, but it could explain why he didn't do what you expect (and sound like you expect major kudos for btw).

Tired excuse. "Special needs made me do it."

All the 4 year old did was yell NO. The OP took a toy and then hit the 4 year old. OP child is not special needs. She didn't supervise her violent toddler well and then got angry at a slightly older child for being upset and standing up for themselves.

Believe it or not, special needs are on the rise due to better diagnosis and more awareness. More kids have something going on and deal with it. What would you expected the 4 year old to do - thank the toddler for stealing the toy and hitting them?

OP's toddler is not violent just because she hit a child who yelled at her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know the 4/5 year old is not autistic or has some other impairment? Perhaps the father should explain that to you rather than let it go on, but it could explain why he didn't do what you expect (and sound like you expect major kudos for btw).

Tired excuse. "Special needs made me do it."

All the 4 year old did was yell NO. The OP took a toy and then hit the 4 year old. OP child is not special needs. She didn't supervise her violent toddler well and then got angry at a slightly older child for being upset and standing up for themselves.

Believe it or not, special needs are on the rise due to better diagnosis and more awareness. More kids have something going on and deal with it. What would you expected the 4 year old to do - thank the toddler for stealing the toy and hitting them?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a tip you can use, OP. These "To the ____ who did ____ today" threads never go well. You just are starting off from a position where you look like a complainer. And you don't get a lot of sympathy when your kid hit someone on the playground.

LOl this is so true! Has one of these EVER gone OP's way?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Battle over toys at the playground among young children happens, and I suppose, is to be expected. However, I'm appalled that you sat there and did nothing when my toddler tried to engage with your 4/5 year old daughter, and her response was to scoop up all the toys and scream 'NOOOOO!' in my toddler's face. When my toddler reacted by swatting your child, I immediately intervened, got on your daughter's eye-level, apologized to her, made my toddler apologize, THEN left the scene to teach my toddler that hitting will not be tolerated, period.

Would you be a parent the next time and teach your daughter that all children are allowed to play with toys found at the playground, as this is community property, and screaming in another child's face is inappropriate?

Signed,

Annoyed Mom

OP,
I read your post, and I scanned the responses on page one. I'm not surprised. Parents that post here do not parent. But they are the first ones to be all hypercritical of anyone else's parenting style. It's great that you are teaching your son right from wrong. I'm sure there are parents that appreciate it, I know I do. It's much easier to be like most of the moms on here. My only advice to you is to lower your expectations of other people. That's what I've done and it does help, also not easy, but it helps.

You also clearly only have one child who is a sweet infant, adorable baby or precocious toddler. Clearly.

Anonymous wrote:Excellent teachable moment!

I've used similar situations to explain politics to my young kids. More specifically: the difference between Democrats and Republicans. The last time it happened, I took it a step further by explaining how republicans not only refuse to share, but also have a propensity towards throwing sand aimlessly without considering the impact of those around them. I'm totally serious. Most folks around me laughed, and one father actually applauded and ask me who I worked for.

Again, use these moments to educate your child (and those around you).