My thoughts on skimming through this thread: (1) some people have had some really awful things said to them and (2) some people read waaay too much into things and are terribly easily offended. Anyway, this made me think of a situation when I accidentally said something offensive. Really drunk, standing in the bathroom line at my 5-year high school reunion, I struck up a conversation with a girl from my class (not a friend but a small school so everyone knew everyone). She showed me a picture of her new son. At 23, the thought of motherhood was totally foreign to me (I had my first child at 36) but I was genuinely happy for her. So, I meant to rhetorically say, “Wow, do you just love being a mom?!” Instead, it came out as “Do you love him?” Ugh. She was totally offended and I was too drunk to explain myself. My parents don’t live where I went to high school any more so it is unlikely that I will ever see her again and, if I did, I don’t know how I would bring up such an ancient conversation without it sounding really weird. But I do feel bad about it.

My mom told me she didn't think I would make a good mother.

I'm 99% certain she was trying to talk herself into being okay with the idea of no grandchildren because at the time it looked like my H and I would not be having children, but ouch.

But actually, I think the most insulting thing was something not said - My ILs never acknowledged to me the fact that I lost our first pregnancy. Just pretended it never happened.

I was adopted from another country and someone once said, "Go back to your own country...but wait, your real parents didn't want you."

Anonymous wrote:But the worst thing ever? People are writing about parents who blame them for suicides and other awfulness. And the worst thing to you is that someone offered you help and that upset you? Charmed life indeed.


Thanks for adding more to her insult list. If you, and the others who also posted rude responses, have no empathy, you are the ones doing the insulting. It may not be insulting to you, but it clearly is or was to many of these posters. Pease stop and think before you speak or write. The people around you will be grateful.

Control much?

It is not my goal to top these posters. That doesn't mean that I am making light of the very hateful/hurtful things that have been said to them. Just sharing some random, rude, WTF sort of comments that you hear on the street. If someone wants to delve way deeper than that, that is their *choice* and they can share if that is what they want to do.

Anonymous wrote:But the worst thing ever? People are writing about parents who blame them for suicides and other awfulness. And the worst thing to you is that someone offered you help and that upset you? Charmed life indeed.


Thanks for adding more to her insult list. If you, and the others who also posted rude responses, have no empathy, you are the ones doing the insulting. It may not be insulting to you, but it clearly is or was to many of these posters. Pease stop and think before you speak or write. The people around you will be grateful.

Oh calm down. Getting offered help in a grocery store doesn't require that others offer empathy. Please m

You don't look black.

But the worst thing ever? People are writing about parents who blame them for suicides and other awfulness. And the worst thing to you is that someone offered you help and that upset you? Charmed life indeed.


Thanks for adding more to her insult list. If you, and the others who also posted rude responses, have no empathy, you are the ones doing the insulting. It may not be insulting to you, but it clearly is or was to many of these posters. Pease stop and think before you speak or write. The people around you will be grateful.

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty much anything out of Obama's mouth.

I've had several people assume I'm liberal because I don't fit the conservative stereotype.

Apparently I listen to music, eat the foods of and dress only the way liberal women do....

someone actually said once "..You're liberal aren't you?" I think she was shocked beyond when she realized that she assumed wrong....

Actually it's probably because your friends think you are a nice, intelligent, normal person, and are shocked to find out that they are wrong, you are actually a Republican.

How about something insulting that was said about me.

My college rooomie and I were up for the same research assistant position. I got the position.

Her stock line was that I got the position only because I was Asian and the school needed to appear to be more diverse. She completely ignored the fact that my grades were higher, I had done my Honors Thesis on the subject matter of the research, and I had more relevant research experience. Found out later that she bombed the interview also.

We had been close and that she would downplay my success like that was both an insult and an eye opener.

I was living in NYC and trying to get a cab one night. I heard a couple talking and the guy said (about me) - let her have the cab, she's pregnant. The girl then said - I don't think she is, she's just big. I WAS just big. Don't know why it got me so much. I pretended not to hear.

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty much anything out of Obama's mouth.

I've had several people assume I'm liberal because I don't fit the conservative stereotype.

Apparently I listen to music, eat the foods of and dress only the way liberal women do....

someone actually said once "..You're liberal aren't you?" I think she was shocked beyond when she realized that she assumed wrong....

Actually it's probably because your friends think you are a nice, intelligent, normal person, and are shocked to find out that they are wrong, you are actually a Republican.

Anonymous wrote:My mom battled depression her entire adult life and unfortunately when I was 15 committed suicide. My dad was REALLY shocked and thrown into severe grief that he was not equipped to handle. One night we were arguing and he said "This is why you mom killed herself, you are so hard to deal with." Hearing that really was the worst moment of my life. I was 90 percent sure it was his grief talking but it was still a very intense and awful moment. I told my aunt the next days whos extreme dismay reinforced to me that it wasn't true and she showed me the love I needed to feel. In hindsight it was a true blessing because my aunt and uncle demanded my dad get into therapy or we (the kids) would be taken to live with them. It snapped my Dad out of it and he did get therapy and things did get significantly better from that point on. But man, I remember that argument so vividly and the feeling in my stomach when he said those words!

That is horrible. My jaw dropped and I gasped reading that. I hope you are recovered from this blow now. So sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:"Do you need help carrying those bags out to your car?" - this after spending the morning walking 5 miles and lifting weights at the gym. Crap.

Charmed life, huh?

Oh - well OBVIOUSLY, duh. If I have the time to walk 5 miles, go to the gym - my life must have been handed to me.

Magic wands are on sale at KMart. That's where I got mine from...maybe you should pick one up?

Um, no. Charmed because that is the most insulting thing ever said to you.

I used to stand in the line at the grocery and watch the clerks ask older people if they needed help with their bags. They never asked me that. Ever. Then one day a clerk did ask me...and, yep, it was a shocker.

But the worst thing ever? People are writing about parents who blame them for suicides and other awfulness. And the worst thing to you is that someone offered you help and that upset you? Charmed life indeed.

No. It is not the worst thing that anyone ever said to me, but honestly I really don't want to remember brutal slams/who said them, etc. Yes, of course, I've had some pretty horrible things said to/about me. Not interested in rehashing or thinking about that.

I brought up the store clerk thing because it was so random (at the time anyway) , sort of funny and possibly something that others could relate to, as well.

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Anonymous wrote:"Do you need help carrying those bags out to your car?" - this after spending the morning walking 5 miles and lifting weights at the gym. Crap.

Charmed life, huh?

Oh - well OBVIOUSLY, duh. If I have the time to walk 5 miles, go to the gym - my life must have been handed to me.

Magic wands are on sale at KMart. That's where I got mine from...maybe you should pick one up?

Um, no. Charmed because that is the most insulting thing ever said to you.

I used to stand in the line at the grocery and watch the clerks ask older people if they needed help with their bags. They never asked me that. Ever. Then one day a clerk did ask me...and, yep, it was a shocker.

But the worst thing ever? People are writing about parents who blame them for suicides and other awfulness. And the worst thing to you is that someone offered you help and that upset you? Charmed life indeed.

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Anonymous wrote:"Do you need help carrying those bags out to your car?" - this after spending the morning walking 5 miles and lifting weights at the gym. Crap.

Charmed life, huh?

Oh - well OBVIOUSLY, duh. If I have the time to walk 5 miles, go to the gym - my life must have been handed to me.

Magic wands are on sale at KMart. That's where I got mine from...maybe you should pick one up?

Um, no. Charmed because that is the most insulting thing ever said to you.

I used to stand in the line at the grocery and watch the clerks ask older people if they needed help with their bags. They never asked me that. Ever. Then one day a clerk did ask me...and, yep, it was a shocker.