Anonymous wrote:[quote=AnonymousI find that all law jobs with halfway family-friendly hours pay only $ 40-50k.. .My net income would be $ 20-25k, while daycare costs $ 18k. The thought of working for nothing is so depressing.
Thanks in advance!

Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you WILL NOT find a BigLaw job now or after taking a couple of years off. Nor will you find the kind of clerkship (federal, preferably appellate) that you can use to springboard into BigLaw.
The only viable route I have seen suggested is going by way of the government, but those jobs are extremely hard to get. The PPs who talk about how hard it is are right. I work at a firm with a "big name," and our people do go to the governemnt after a few years in decent slots, but not straight out of a school. It is virtually impossible to get a job at an agency that might lead to a BigLaw job striaght out of school.
Even the people I know who took time off witht heir kids and then eventually found a gig with a non-profit did so only after having YEARS of experience in the given field first.
I think your job prospects are pretty bleak in general, honestly. If you did not figure out how to get where you say you want to go by the end of your first year of law school, I have to say you brought this on yourself.
And to answer the title of your post's question, DH and I are both lawyers. I make what your DH makes, which is bit more than my DH makes, but he is above the DCUM "middle class" line all by himself. So, no, it isn't worth it financially for either of us to stay home. I do see my kids. If you want something bad enough, you figure out how to juggle without dropping a baby, a deadline, or the family dog's prescription refill. It requires a level of commitment in you, and a level of commitment and partnership with your spouse, that you do not seem to have.
wow I feel sorry for your husband.
OP here. PP, why do you insult this poster? Her advice is an excellent one (as many others on this thread) and I am very grateful for it. I think it is admirable how she and her husband as a team succeed in managing everything.
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes.
I had a child during law school for reasons that I don't want to dwell on on this thread.
Yes, I just passed the bar exam.
Yes, I graduated from a law school from which I would have had a shot to BigLaw. I do have journal experience, but my grades in the second half of law school are modest.
No, I did not mean in my original post that I would go to BigLaw straight from being a SAHM. I know that I will have do something else before. It is just disappointing that I would not see a noticeable financial reward. And I don't see why the idea of a bottom line should be dismissed in my case just because my husband earns well. I do not believe that the cost of child care should be charged only against the woman's salary, but if she stays at home those costs are saved. As many posters have said, there are many JDs who have decided that the hassle is not worth the reward.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you WILL NOT find a BigLaw job now or after taking a couple of years off. Nor will you find the kind of clerkship (federal, preferably appellate) that you can use to springboard into BigLaw.
The only viable route I have seen suggested is going by way of the government, but those jobs are extremely hard to get. The PPs who talk about how hard it is are right. I work at a firm with a "big name," and our people do go to the governemnt after a few years in decent slots, but not straight out of a school. It is virtually impossible to get a job at an agency that might lead to a BigLaw job striaght out of school.
Even the people I know who took time off witht heir kids and then eventually found a gig with a non-profit did so only after having YEARS of experience in the given field first.
I think your job prospects are pretty bleak in general, honestly. If you did not figure out how to get where you say you want to go by the end of your first year of law school, I have to say you brought this on yourself.
And to answer the title of your post's question, DH and I are both lawyers. I make what your DH makes, which is bit more than my DH makes, but he is above the DCUM "middle class" line all by himself. So, no, it isn't worth it financially for either of us to stay home. I do see my kids. If you want something bad enough, you figure out how to juggle without dropping a baby, a deadline, or the family dog's prescription refill. It requires a level of commitment in you, and a level of commitment and partnership with your spouse, that you do not seem to have.
wow I feel sorry for your husband.