Anonymous wrote:Question for Rico... How do you dump these women later?

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Anonymous wrote:+1. I'm in a situation like this. She all but falls into my arms -- on a regular basis -- but then won't let herself be in a situation where anything physical can happen. It's not teasing; I'm old enough (sadly) to know when a woman is genuinely into me. I suspect I serve as a nice spur to her fantasies. Great.

I also think this is what a lot of women actually mean when they say they engaged in an "emotional affair." It's transgressive and satisfying for the woman, but she can feel like she didn't cross the line to ho or homewrecker or whatever unfortunate images she harbors of women who cheat. It's (eventually) just frustrating as hell for the dude.

If you haven't closed the deal by now there is a chance that you are too late to ever do so. If you woo her without succeeding then you risk damaging your ability to seduce other women in the workplace by getting a reputation as a Dirty Old or Young Manwhore, who is also, even worse, weak. The best wingman is actually a woman who does not know she is your wingman. This is why I suggested asking how your adored one met her husband. It's a win-win if done correctly. After you find out whether she can be seduced by her expression you should follow up with an indirect compliment. (DO NOT SAY - Your husband is sure a lucky man. DO SAY - How interesting that you met at law school. It must be great meeting someone who works in your field.) You have to make subtly compliment her taste in that quintessential life decision - spousal selection. If you discover that she loves her husband so much she cannot be seduced you should continue the conversation and ask more about the spouse. In this way you influence this attractive woman's image of you. She will be flattered by your interest in her family and think you respect her as a person and friend. She will think you are a genuinely nice guy and will pass that information on to other female colleagues, which will help you in subsequent seduction attempts.

The object of your lust is doubtless a high 7 or 8. The problem for an 8 is that her competition is not other 8s; in her prime she was compared to the 10. Young men waste time going for the rare 10 they encounter. Remember how every guy in the dorm did his utmost to bed that exquisite 10 who never looked at any of them because she had an older wealthy lover? Older men realize that they are not likely to get a 10 and that a high 7/8 can yield greater pleasure. No high-value woman wants anyone else's sloppy seconds. To maximize your chances of seducing her it is critical that you actively establish a reputation within your organization as a Not Dirty Old or Young Manwhore. Your task is to convince the 8 that you are a decent, moral, upstanding person who would never want to make anyone cheat. You must convince her that everyone else has been wrong; you know that she, as she has always suspected, is truly a 10, not an 8. The truth of this conviction -- her inhuman desirability -- has forced you to make a move or go mad with desire.

I believe you have missed your moment with this particular woman but if you are willing to go back to the drawing board, to satisfy her psychically without seeming desperate, perhaps you can regain the momentum. If I were you I would withdraw. She has grown comfortable basking in your attention. I would be courteous and professional the next time I encountered her, friendly in the way you are with other colleagues. I wouldn't even allude to what has passed between you. She will be confused at first, then angry, and then insecure. She won't want to lose her water cooler admirer. Capitalize on that secret fear: What if she is just an 8 and you have realized that and moved on? Show that she no longer moves you. Go directly into the "we're just friends" stage without explanation or rancor. The resulting sleepless nights for her = panties for you.

What if he is a Dirty Old Man Whore though? What is your advice in that case?

Also, who are you? You fascinate me!

Anonymous wrote:Question for Rico... How do you dump these women later?

Anonymous wrote:A young man went to his local wine shop and asked for the most expensive vintage in stock, took it home, and shared it with his girlfriend. They enjoyed every drop together and went to bed contentedly. He never told her how much of his meager salary the wine had consumed. Why does this anecdote, which happens to be true, make most women swoon?

A famous prostitute was once asked, "Why do men pay for sex when they could take a girl to dinner and get the same thing?" She answered, "Men don't want to be bothered with dinner."

The successful seducer is simply the one who is willing to be bothered. That the boyfriend never mentioned the cost is what gets women wet. They love the idea of men suffering selflessly for them. Ordering champagne early on is announcing the cost and your expectation of reciprocation loud and clear.

Closeted gay men are often able to "fool" their unsuspecting wives for years because they are willing to take the infinite pains necessary to maintain the illusion. The women who marry them are often the envy of their friends. These husbands celebrate birthdays in big style and don't have to be asked twice to put their dirty socks in the hamper.

Are you willing to spend hours getting to know your target intimately and constructing the most effective strategies and tactics to employ? Are you willing to listen to mind-numbingly dull stories about her spouse and kids when required? Are you willing (as Richard Gere would not for Cindy Crawford) to send flowers although you think it's an utterly impersonal and empty gesture? Are you willing to fly chocolate in from Belgium for her on Valentine's Day? To take distance from her and pretend to have moved on if you realize that is the only way to correct a previous misstep?

How far are you willing to go?

Anonymous wrote:Rico Suave sure knows the vulnerability of women.

I recently met a man (not at my workplace but his; I was a client) who basically did everything but the lunch and champagne that Rico mentioned. Given his line of work, at first I thought he was like that to all the women he sees on a daily basis until it became obvious by me and staff members he works with that I was getting extra attention. I must say I liked the thrill of the chase. He eventually got me to the point I would have been willing to have sex with him but he never initiated closing the deal. I think he was a man whore tease who didn't actually want to have the affair, just know that he could.

Anonymous wrote:Rico Suave sure knows the vulnerability of women.

I recently met a man (not at my workplace but his; I was a client) who basically did everything but the lunch and champagne that Rico mentioned. Given his line of work, at first I thought he was like that to all the women he sees on a daily basis until it became obvious by me and staff members he works with that I was getting extra attention. I must say I liked the thrill of the chase. He eventually got me to the point I would have been willing to have sex with him but he never initiated closing the deal. I think he was a man whore tease who didn't actually want to have the affair, just know that he could.