Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:53     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Losing everything you love because you've lost yourself....that's rock bottom. So what do you love, what are you afraid to lose the most?


For you that would be rock bottom, I am not sure it would be rock bottom for me.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:53     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you hate yourself? Are you a narcissist? Why don't you just get divorced? What would you do if your spouse cheated? Would you like your kids to find out?


There is no guilt, I do not hate myself, If my spouse did, so be it, if I caught my spouse, it shows me they are not too smart about it.


Have you ever heard of a comma splice?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:52     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How do you think your children will react if/when they learn about your cheating on their mother?


Did I say I was the husband?

They will react hwo they want. I can't control their emotions.


True, you may be a DW.

Do you care if your children were to feel deeply hurt by your cheating on their other parent?

When you "compartmentalize" yourself when you are with your lover, are you also able to forget that you are a parent?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:51     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you believe you'll hit rock bottom someday?


No, if I sense that, I will end it. What is rock bottom? I have listened to a lot of peole who say they have hit rock bottom only to hit it lower the next time they get involved in it.


I'd say rock bottom for you would be the threat of losing your kids? no? and of course you could go lower. What do YOU think rock bottom would be?


Not sure what rock bottom is, is it when you get married? is it when you relaize you need something more? I am nto sure what rock bottom is.


Losing everything you love because you've lost yourself....that's rock bottom. So what do you love, what are you afraid to lose the most?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:49     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you believe you'll hit rock bottom someday?


No, if I sense that, I will end it. What is rock bottom? I have listened to a lot of peole who say they have hit rock bottom only to hit it lower the next time they get involved in it.


I'd say rock bottom for you would be the threat of losing your kids? no? and of course you could go lower. What do YOU think rock bottom would be?


Not sure what rock bottom is, is it when you get married? is it when you relaize you need something more? I am nto sure what rock bottom is.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:48     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:How do you think your children will react if/when they learn about your cheating on their mother?


Did I say I was the husband?

They will react hwo they want. I can't control their emotions.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:45     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you believe you'll hit rock bottom someday?


No, if I sense that, I will end it. What is rock bottom? I have listened to a lot of peole who say they have hit rock bottom only to hit it lower the next time they get involved in it.


I'd say rock bottom for you would be the threat of losing your kids? no? and of course you could go lower. What do YOU think rock bottom would be?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:42     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
How do you think your children will react if/when they learn about your cheating on their mother?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:41     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm positive OP is a woman. I'm a woman having an affair, and this sounds like me.


I won;t say if I am m or f, but my lover is exactly the same way I am, I am not sure if your lover is the exact same as you but we are very much alike.



My lover is similar to me in many ways, but much more eloquent than I could ever be.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:39     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:Do you believe you'll hit rock bottom someday?


No, if I sense that, I will end it. What is rock bottom? I have listened to a lot of peole who say they have hit rock bottom only to hit it lower the next time they get involved in it.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:38     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You didn't answer. Who pays for your trysts?


If we need to spend $$ we work it out and always pay cash. We have been pretty creative with that. For example buying a prepaid visa card with our groceries so it doesn't stand out or using points from corporate cards that we get to keep to buy gift cards.


Who makes more money, you or your spouse?


We are pretty even, both successful and do pretty well, we are not motivated by money in the way so many are. we are nto thrifty but we are not wasting our money
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:36     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:Do you live in fear that every time your wife calls you, THAT is going to be the phone call where she informs you she's discovered your affair and you're busted? Because the constant upkeep of deceit knowing the other shoe could drop at any moment is what would make an affair unbearable for me.


I may have a wife or a husband-I do not live in fear of that. I think I am able to handle that and that is why it works like most poeple who have this sort of relationship
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:35     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Do you believe you'll hit rock bottom someday?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:34     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You didn't answer. Who pays for your trysts?


If we need to spend $$ we work it out and always pay cash. We have been pretty creative with that. For example buying a prepaid visa card with our groceries so it doesn't stand out or using points from corporate cards that we get to keep to buy gift cards.


Who makes more money, you or your spouse?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2012 09:31     Subject: I am a spuse that cheats, Ask me anything.
Do you live in fear that every time your wife calls you, THAT is going to be the phone call where she informs you she's discovered your affair and you're busted? Because the constant upkeep of deceit knowing the other shoe could drop at any moment is what would make an affair unbearable for me.