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Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?

How will you control this when your kid is in college?

DP. I think socialization, family dynamics and home culture also plays a part in how and when children become sexually active. Most gen-z are moving away from hook-up culture and I think this is also due to the culture and worldview that immigrants are bringing to the table. Hooking up as seen as trashy and poor people's behavior. Especially in the affluent and educated circles.

Not in the rich South/ Texas or the poor South/ Texas. It’s all about hooking in the guy fast.

Now I agree it’s trashy as a teen and lots to lose, but somehow everyone’s rich Moms are setting them up with other rich mom kids. It’s truly bizarre.

Of course they never really leave home or most certainly return fully hooked up after their SEC sorority/frat college life.

i don't think you know what hooking up means!

Anonymous wrote:So, I’m wondering if other “non americans” have been to other countries besides their original one and here. I’m asking because some of these comments are outright ridiculous and in no way “American”.

And coming to the US was a choice you made. I don’t like things about the US either like the healthcare system and how the working poor get little to no help. But I would still choose here rather than many other places. That being said I can’t imagine making a choice to move to another country and raise my kids there just to shit on things and call the people who are from there “dangerous” and not “people I want my kids to spend time with”. You know you can leave right?

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Anonymous wrote:This is actually hilarious. I don’t know a single person who owns a gun (and I’m a republican). I also don’t know a single person who owns a pitbull. And I would say the vast majority of people I know don’t do sleepovers.

I love how people hate when Americans stereotype non-americans and they just do the same exact thing.

And for the first time I am hearing that non-American teenagers tell their parents everything and never lie 🙂.

Sir, there are more guns in America than people, I guarantee you know someone who owns one.

People just don't have guns. They have arsenals. AK-47 and grenades. They are prepping for a different kind of hunting, IYKWIM.

This is ridiculous. I can only think you are so openly against anyone owning a gun that people are scared to mention it around you.

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny how many of you seem to think sheltering your kids and forbidding them from having normal teenage relationships is some kind of badge of honor.

One of my closest friends in HS had parents like this. He was completely controlled and was expected to excel in academics and had so many expectations. We were very rarely allowed to hang out and it was only under very specific circumstances. He got into a top college and then the shit hit the fan. He almost failed out his first year and got 2 different STDs within 6 months of starting college. He ended up reining it in and doing ok but Let me tell you, keeping a kid under those kind of conditions is really a recipe for disaster.

On the contrary I had parents that didn’t give a F and were frankly pretty neglectful and I was one of the most risk adverse of my friends just naturally. Let your kids have normal teenage experiences.

Anonymous wrote:I will go first.

- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm).

- No dating in HS.

- No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?

How will you control this when your kid is in college?

We don’t. We have three, one in MS, one in HS, and a college freshmen. They won’t do it because they just aren’t interested, and would rather wait.

HAHAHA!!! I’m literally dying right now. I met kids like yours in college and they were having a ton of sex once they got away from their overbearing mommy & daddy.

Yupppppp. “They just aren’t interested” when talking about teenagers and sex is just hilarious.

Anonymous wrote:I will go first.

- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm).

- No dating in HS.

- No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?

How will you control this when your kid is in college?

We don’t. We have three, one in MS, one in HS, and a college freshmen. They won’t do it because they just aren’t interested, and would rather wait.

HAHAHA!!! I’m literally dying right now. I met kids like yours in college and they were having a ton of sex once they got away from their overbearing mommy & daddy.

There are still plenty of college kids who graduate virgin, so what is your point?

Anonymous wrote:I have to start by addressing the pitbulls. Mine is currently laying on me and snoring as my laptop uses him as a desk. Only pitbulls bred to be aggressive will be aggressive; most pitbulls are big cuddle buddies! Mine's incredibly chill and the reason we adopted him from a shelter is because I've met so many loving pitbulls in the past.

Regarding not dating in high school: I didn't have a rule set by my parents but was raised with good morals. I chose not to be intimate until I met the man I eventually married. I'm not a conservative and I didn't grow up going to church. I also choose not to drink alcohol. It's possible to raise a child to have an innate sense of propriety and right vs wrong without laying down the law on them; my parents actually had very few rules and trusted me to do the right thing. I therefore had nothing to rebel against.