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Anonymous wrote:lol what do you look like and can you cook?

OP here. I look great (size 6, beautiful face, dress well), and can cook but I don't cook often.

Definitely a troll

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Anonymous wrote:So money is how you’ll initially judge a person’s worth? Not values like honesty and respect?

Personally, I think you’re going about this the wrong way.

This.

It’s not that people value money but most men have issues making less money so why go in not a relationship knowing that will be an issue, why not mitigate the issue up front by not having the issue.

Maybe non of you have made more money than your partner but it’s an issue.

People say this but I know plenty of men who are happy to support their partners. My kid has a friend where the mom is an awesome engineer with a crazy resume and the Dad brags about how awesome his wife is. My brother's wife is a CFO of a company and he's supported her every step of the way since college, taking the kids on trips so she could do her licensing exams in peace.

I just posted - I make more than husband as a law partner. Many of my female partners do as well. Marry someone with good character who knows that their role as a good husband and father involves much much much more than earning money, and things can turn out great.

OP wont be raising a new set of children with her partner so your situation of "aging together" when husband plays a supportive role to a career woman is different from OPs.
I wouldn't take on board a struggling 52yo musician, when my career and assets are already built in midlife and there is no need for a stay at home parent. But OP can still date a wide range of rather well-off and educated men who make between 400k and 1m

Honestly it matters even less when you aren’t working on a joint project of raising kids and building assets. Do they have good values? Are they fun? This isn’t life partnership 2.0.

I don’t know. If the man is not supporting her in most endeavors it seems like he’s getting a real free ride. I wouldn’t want to get that nurse and purse

A free ride how? Why is she acting like a nurse? Or a purse? Again, that's life partnership stuff. Both people are just having fun.

Above posters explained: she would have to bank all their joint activities to maintain them at the same level as when she was single. You can argue - she was already doing all that while single, why not adding a poor musician guy to the mix? But for other women it's extremely NOT sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:So money is how you’ll initially judge a person’s worth? Not values like honesty and respect?

Personally, I think you’re going about this the wrong way.

This.

It’s not that people value money but most men have issues making less money so why go in not a relationship knowing that will be an issue, why not mitigate the issue up front by not having the issue.

Maybe non of you have made more money than your partner but it’s an issue.

People say this but I know plenty of men who are happy to support their partners. My kid has a friend where the mom is an awesome engineer with a crazy resume and the Dad brags about how awesome his wife is. My brother's wife is a CFO of a company and he's supported her every step of the way since college, taking the kids on trips so she could do her licensing exams in peace.

I just posted - I make more than husband as a law partner. Many of my female partners do as well. Marry someone with good character who knows that their role as a good husband and father involves much much much more than earning money, and things can turn out great.

OP wont be raising a new set of children with her partner so your situation of "aging together" when husband plays a supportive role to a career woman is different from OPs.
I wouldn't take on board a struggling 52yo musician, when my career and assets are already built in midlife and there is no need for a stay at home parent. But OP can still date a wide range of rather well-off and educated men who make between 400k and 1m

Honestly it matters even less when you aren’t working on a joint project of raising kids and building assets. Do they have good values? Are they fun? This isn’t life partnership 2.0.

I don’t know. If the man is not supporting her in most endeavors it seems like he’s getting a real free ride. I wouldn’t want to get that nurse and purse

A free ride how? Why is she acting like a nurse? Or a purse? Again, that's life partnership stuff. Both people are just having fun.

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Anonymous wrote:lol what do you look like and can you cook?

OP here. I look great (size 6, beautiful face, dress well), and can cook but I don't cook often.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

Why though?

OP here. I can't imagine the guy earning less for two reasons: the guy will have an inferiority complex, and because I like myself in a supporting role, just like in my previous marriage. I prefer someone successful to whom I can look up. From my point of view earning $1m+ per year is not a huge achievement, so that is my minimum standard.

So you still want to be the little woman in the relationship. That’s so effed up.

This. Wanting to "look up" to someone when you're in your 40s? Sounds like you need therapy.

Also, the kind of wealthy men who are looking for a support type partner aren't looking for someone in their 40s. This kind of man either is married to the woman he married decades ago or he's divorced and will remarry a woman who is much younger.

You are incorrect . Look at Bezos - he married a woman slightly younger from his circle. Not all wealthy men want a second set of kids. OP should be targeting men up to 15 years older, almost empty nesters who want a partner to enjoy life.

OP doesn’t need to marry a poor man - no point. She seems to be marriage oriented and marriage is a contract so she needs to find an equal

Bezos married a woman who dresses like a hooker. It’s clear what she brings to the relationship.

I disagree. I feel like they are really a great match.

Because they are both attention seeking and obsequious?

How’s that? I’ve never even heard his voice.

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Anonymous wrote:So money is how you’ll initially judge a person’s worth? Not values like honesty and respect?

Personally, I think you’re going about this the wrong way.

This.

It’s not that people value money but most men have issues making less money so why go in not a relationship knowing that will be an issue, why not mitigate the issue up front by not having the issue.

Maybe non of you have made more money than your partner but it’s an issue.

People say this but I know plenty of men who are happy to support their partners. My kid has a friend where the mom is an awesome engineer with a crazy resume and the Dad brags about how awesome his wife is. My brother's wife is a CFO of a company and he's supported her every step of the way since college, taking the kids on trips so she could do her licensing exams in peace.

I just posted - I make more than husband as a law partner. Many of my female partners do as well. Marry someone with good character who knows that their role as a good husband and father involves much much much more than earning money, and things can turn out great.

OP wont be raising a new set of children with her partner so your situation of "aging together" when husband plays a supportive role to a career woman is different from OPs.
I wouldn't take on board a struggling 52yo musician, when my career and assets are already built in midlife and there is no need for a stay at home parent. But OP can still date a wide range of rather well-off and educated men who make between 400k and 1m

Honestly it matters even less when you aren’t working on a joint project of raising kids and building assets. Do they have good values? Are they fun? This isn’t life partnership 2.0.

I don’t know. If the man is not supporting her in most endeavors it seems like he’s getting a real free ride. I wouldn’t want to get that nurse and purse

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Anonymous wrote:So money is how you’ll initially judge a person’s worth? Not values like honesty and respect?

Personally, I think you’re going about this the wrong way.

This.

It’s not that people value money but most men have issues making less money so why go in not a relationship knowing that will be an issue, why not mitigate the issue up front by not having the issue.

Maybe non of you have made more money than your partner but it’s an issue.

People say this but I know plenty of men who are happy to support their partners. My kid has a friend where the mom is an awesome engineer with a crazy resume and the Dad brags about how awesome his wife is. My brother's wife is a CFO of a company and he's supported her every step of the way since college, taking the kids on trips so she could do her licensing exams in peace.

I just posted - I make more than husband as a law partner. Many of my female partners do as well. Marry someone with good character who knows that their role as a good husband and father involves much much much more than earning money, and things can turn out great.

OP wont be raising a new set of children with her partner so your situation of "aging together" when husband plays a supportive role to a career woman is different from OPs.
I wouldn't take on board a struggling 52yo musician, when my career and assets are already built in midlife and there is no need for a stay at home parent. But OP can still date a wide range of rather well-off and educated men who make between 400k and 1m

Honestly it matters even less when you aren’t working on a joint project of raising kids and building assets. Do they have good values? Are they fun? This isn’t life partnership 2.0.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

Why though?

OP here. I can't imagine the guy earning less for two reasons: the guy will have an inferiority complex, and because I like myself in a supporting role, just like in my previous marriage. I prefer someone successful to whom I can look up. From my point of view earning $1m+ per year is not a huge achievement, so that is my minimum standard.

So you still want to be the little woman in the relationship. That’s so effed up.

This. Wanting to "look up" to someone when you're in your 40s? Sounds like you need therapy.

Also, the kind of wealthy men who are looking for a support type partner aren't looking for someone in their 40s. This kind of man either is married to the woman he married decades ago or he's divorced and will remarry a woman who is much younger.

You are incorrect . Look at Bezos - he married a woman slightly younger from his circle. Not all wealthy men want a second set of kids. OP should be targeting men up to 15 years older, almost empty nesters who want a partner to enjoy life.

OP doesn’t need to marry a poor man - no point. She seems to be marriage oriented and marriage is a contract so she needs to find an equal

Bezos married a woman who dresses like a hooker. It’s clear what she brings to the relationship.

I disagree. I feel like they are really a great match.

Because they are both attention seeking and obsequious?

How’s that? I’ve never even heard his voice.

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Anonymous wrote:So money is how you’ll initially judge a person’s worth? Not values like honesty and respect?

Personally, I think you’re going about this the wrong way.

This.

It’s not that people value money but most men have issues making less money so why go in not a relationship knowing that will be an issue, why not mitigate the issue up front by not having the issue.

Maybe non of you have made more money than your partner but it’s an issue.

People say this but I know plenty of men who are happy to support their partners. My kid has a friend where the mom is an awesome engineer with a crazy resume and the Dad brags about how awesome his wife is. My brother's wife is a CFO of a company and he's supported her every step of the way since college, taking the kids on trips so she could do her licensing exams in peace.

I just posted - I make more than husband as a law partner. Many of my female partners do as well. Marry someone with good character who knows that their role as a good husband and father involves much much much more than earning money, and things can turn out great.

OP wont be raising a new set of children with her partner so your situation of "aging together" when husband plays a supportive role to a career woman is different from OPs.
I wouldn't take on board a struggling 52yo musician, when my career and assets are already built in midlife and there is no need for a stay at home parent. But OP can still date a wide range of rather well-off and educated men who make between 400k and 1m

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a lawyer in my mid-forties, and for the first time I average low seven figures. My XH consistently made low seven figures, too (not lawyer). I plan to start dating soon after having gotten out of my 20 year marriage.

Partly because of his earning history, but now especially because of my own, I cannot imagine dating a man who earns less (either through his work or passive income). I realize that this will hugely reduce the candidate pool.

Are there any dating sites where people are pre-selected based on income and/or assets?

Why though?

OP here. I can't imagine the guy earning less for two reasons: the guy will have an inferiority complex, and because I like myself in a supporting role, just like in my previous marriage. I prefer someone successful to whom I can look up. From my point of view earning $1m+ per year is not a huge achievement, so that is my minimum standard.

So you still want to be the little woman in the relationship. That’s so effed up.

This. Wanting to "look up" to someone when you're in your 40s? Sounds like you need therapy.

Also, the kind of wealthy men who are looking for a support type partner aren't looking for someone in their 40s. This kind of man either is married to the woman he married decades ago or he's divorced and will remarry a woman who is much younger.

You are incorrect . Look at Bezos - he married a woman slightly younger from his circle. Not all wealthy men want a second set of kids. OP should be targeting men up to 15 years older, almost empty nesters who want a partner to enjoy life.

OP doesn’t need to marry a poor man - no point. She seems to be marriage oriented and marriage is a contract so she needs to find an equal

Bezos married a woman who dresses like a hooker. It’s clear what she brings to the relationship.

I disagree. I feel like they are really a great match.

Because they are both attention seeking and obsequious?

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Anonymous wrote:So money is how you’ll initially judge a person’s worth? Not values like honesty and respect?

Personally, I think you’re going about this the wrong way.

This.

It’s not that people value money but most men have issues making less money so why go in not a relationship knowing that will be an issue, why not mitigate the issue up front by not having the issue.

Maybe non of you have made more money than your partner but it’s an issue.

People say this but I know plenty of men who are happy to support their partners. My kid has a friend where the mom is an awesome engineer with a crazy resume and the Dad brags about how awesome his wife is. My brother's wife is a CFO of a company and he's supported her every step of the way since college, taking the kids on trips so she could do her licensing exams in peace.

I just posted - I make more than husband as a law partner. Many of my female partners do as well. Marry someone with good character who knows that their role as a good husband and father involves much much much more than earning money, and things can turn out great.

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OP, you’re too driven by money. It doesn’t make a person more intelligent, more respectful, more appealing. It just makes them more rich, and that’s not as impressive as the other characteristics.

OP here. If I were a man, women would consider me a great catch. Instead, I am being criticized.

You can either turn gay or realize that the things that make men and women attractive are completely different. Money doesn’t factor into attraction for men once they have enough money to pay for everything they want.